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Fictional love = Real Life love?
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Posted 2/22/07
i detest arrogance....i like nice guys ^_^
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Posted 2/22/07
i like nice guy....and i don't go for the good looking guys. my sister can tell ya that for proof. hahah. and a lot of the not so looking guys i've been out with were nice andurn out to be jerks after i dated them....
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Posted 2/22/07

technoinfection wrote:

i detest arrogance....i like nice guys ^_^


now if only you could share that sentiment with others... i happen to think that i'm one of those nice guys. and i just wish that i could find that nice girl... and just feel nice.
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Posted 2/22/07

C-Xrn wrote:

You'll usually find most of the nice guys to be geeks or nerds and they are usually smarter than their arrogant counterpart.
For women,
I really hate the ones that believe themselves, in their minds, to be better than you or anyone else in almost every single way.
Oh, and those women that say "You can't handle me." is probably one of the funniest things to me.....and is also really annoying.


i just like someone that i can be myself with....where i am not constantly second guessing him or myself. i like geeks too >_<

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i don't think most nice guys are nerds/geeks, or maybe i just don't see them that way. i've met a few guys who are nice and they look very mean. And yeah, i'm one of those nice girls. I hate myself for that sometimes though. When i use to live in Sacramento, Ca my childhood friends say i were too nice so they didn't want to be my friends anymore. then i moved to Kansas, and my high school friends say i was being too nice, because i would do things they ask me to. so, it's hard for me to make real friends, just because of my kindness. I think that is soooo stupid. So, am i suppose to be a stuck up, materialistic type of girl i order to make friends?!?
Posted 2/22/07
^^ What you are sufferening from is that you can get caught in your own shadow. Stay honest, lies offer no long term fufillment. Trust that the richest relationships with others will come from honesty.

As for the original question,it really depends on what you are framing it against. There are some shows that totally blow love out or proportion, like Fushigi Yuugi, Escaflowne, every harem anime. There are some that also have extreme cases of obsessive and servile love like Midori no Hibi and Oh My Goddess, and these aren't healthy ideals either.

Off the top of my head, I can think of a few western movies that depict realistic love. Harold and Maude, Annie Hall, Amelie. The movies with the most realistic love often aren't romance movies at all. And stay away from Brittish movies like "love actually" and anything with Hugh Grant in it. That is all hogwash.

I myself am a recovering romantic. Love is clumsy and confusing, but the chemicals in your brain keep you from noticing. Facing someone eye to eye is electric. Human beings are terrible at love, and maturity should stay even for best results.

As for the second question, your companion isn't going to instantly know everything you need. Give eachother space to grow, everyone has room for improvement. If he isn't pleasing you, find a way to make him please you next time, either by groomng him or changing yourself.
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Posted 2/22/07
Does anyone else feel like this discussion veered into a game of regurgitating mindless and cliche thoughts? The good news is most of us have a long life ahead of us to figure out what love is.
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Posted 2/23/07
i think that you're not open minded enough. so what if young people want to rush into what life is all about and love is all about at a young age. that part of life, gaining knowledge through the way, learning through threads. not all things are taught in school....
but hey, don't get me wrong...i'm still learning and vice versa, teaching...
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Posted 2/23/07
Real love is better and harder than anything art can depict.
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Posted 2/23/07
^agreed..hehe..
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Posted 2/23/07
a lot of "artistic" love is inspired by actual experience; it's an expression. albeit, much of it is an ideal that is pined after, but largely, "real love" plays catalyst to most "fictional" representations.

they're by no means equal, but rather play off and continually define the other. ideals are nice to have, but love is scarcely perfect, nor constantly passionate/all-encompassing, and expecting as much will leave you insatiable.
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Posted 2/23/07
^ That's a good word there "insatiable". The best way to say it is that love is seldom what we expect it to be. It can be quiet and calm, or passionate and filled with turmoil. It's a lot like riding a bull I suppose. You hang on for your life and never know when it's going to kick you off. After the ride is over you look back and wish you had never fallen off. There's also a decent chance of injury. No matter what though love and relationships are always something that you need to constantly learn and work on improving. You may have dated 1000 people or 1, everyone has room to learn (if you dated 1000 people you might just be a professional though).
Posted 2/23/07
its true though. watching fictional love makes me think that it exists in the real world. but in reality u probably could never find guys like that because its in a fictional setting etc. but im still hoping! anime guys are perfect lol
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Posted 2/23/07
it's not always just the females. some asian males act like they jumped out from an asian drama >< and look the part too.
Posted 2/23/07
i prefer fictional love. but nothing beats fictional love than reality love. i'm like, in between.
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