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Posted 9/11/08

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i think i would rather be with a person who loves me than being with the one i love, cuz at least i'm not gonna get hurt and everything, but then the person who loves me would get hurt in the end so i don't really kno wat to choose. but i think tis drama is SUPER UNFAIR to ah jin, i cried so much at the part where xiang qin walked out on him and also the part where xiang qin and zhi shu came to talk to him about them, it was sooo sad




Love is selfish... *shrugs*

Oh and I don't agree that someone who loves you WON'T hurt you for sure. Intentionally or not, there's still a possiblility they will still do.
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i love this question.
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despite being loved,which is what every human on this earth wants,you want to be with someone that YOU love. It is unfair to the person that loves you,it is. But,sometimes,you just have to do what makes YOU happy. Love is selfish. Although there's so much more work in getting the person you love,but in the end,isn't it worth it when you do get them? Being with someone that loves you when you don't love them is basically pitying. I'm sure everyone likes/loves someone. Imagine the happiness you have when that person is with you and falls in love with you. THAT's true happiness.

What Xiang qin did was amazing. She never gave up because she truly LOVES Zhi shu. And that,is love.

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Posted 9/29/08

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i love this question.
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despite being loved,which is what every human on this earth wants,you want to be with someone that YOU love. It is unfair to the person that loves you,it is. But,sometimes,you just have to do what makes YOU happy. Love is selfish. Although there's so much more work in getting the person you love,but in the end,isn't it worth it when you do get them? Being with someone that loves you when you don't love them is basically pitying. I'm sure everyone likes/loves someone. Imagine the happiness you have when that person is with you and falls in love with you. THAT's true happiness.

What Xiang qin did was amazing. She never gave up because she truly LOVES Zhi shu. And that,is love.




I agree, and can so totally relate. Well said ;)
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I really think that ideally, I'd pick being with someone who I love and loves me back.

However, I do think that I'd be able to be with someone I don't love. It may sound odd, or wrong, or something... But if I don't think about the situation much more than "I'd be doing the same thing the person that doesn't love me did, I'd be just as bad", it would be possible for me.

Heck, I'd probably end up thinking about it every night for the rest of my life, but I'd be back to normal by the morning, just like every other issue that comes up when I think too much. o.o So maybe it's because my brain works differently, and I can control the extent to which I absorb situations. Hm.
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well i'm not for the one sided love 'coz usually i doesn't finish like in iswak ...so i really hate being with someone i like who dosen't love me 'coz i'll be hurt , the same for the opposite ...it was so sweet in iswak but it dosen't happen in real life .
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trust me.. if you [still] love someone who doesn't love you back/ love you anymore, your mind will still be occupied with that person and you won't think about being with another...
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i think i sh0uld g0 f0r the pers0n i l0ve .....f0r me, if i g0 t0 the pers0n that l0ves me,,,its just like lying to myself moreover,lying to the pe0ple ar0und me...yet,if i kn0w that the pers0n i l0ve will never l0ve me back...i'll still n0t g0 t0 the 0ne wh0 l0ves me..."i'll just find s0me0ne else t0 l0ve"...<hehehe>it c0uld be the 0ne who l0ves me....<if luck is 0n his side>
Posted 10/26/08
i would rather be with the person i love, if they love me back. but if the person doesn't like me back - and probably never will, then i would try dating the person who loves me. but if i still don't love that person, then i won't force myself to marry him.
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This is a very good question, thanks for posting it. I really enjoyed reading everyone's replies.

I have never been madly in love before so what I'm about to say is only something that I've decided through lots of thinking, not experience. I think that if I was given a choice between someone I love and someone who loves me, I would end up choosing neither.
1. If the person I love does not love me back, I could not possibly think about trying to force him to love me. If he doesn't love me and I still insist on making him be with me, I would only be hurting him and if I truly loved him, that would not be something I could do. Therefore I would not choose to be with the one I love.
2. Then there's the person who loves me. If there was no way for me to forget about the one I love, I would never even consider being with the one who loves me. That would not be fair for him. Unrequited love really hurts so I would never allow myself to be with him and therefore force him to have unrequited love for the rest of his life. That would be very selfish.

If I was ever put in this situation, I think that I would quietly leave their lives. I would leave so that I'm not troubling them. I would force myself to let them move on with their lives and hopefully find someone who they love and who loves them back. Then again, it goes back to what Nika-Rei said earlier. Who knows what I would actually do if I was really put in that situation. I hope that if that does happen to me, I would do the right thing (the right thing in my opinion anyways). I truly think love is something very precious and if you are blessed with it, you should cherish the person who's giving it to you. If I ever love someone or have someone who loves me, I hope that I will be unselfish and protect them in any way that I can.
Posted 11/1/08
Wow. This is a hard question. Would i rather be with someone who loves me or someone who i love?
I guess i would just choose the the one that i know really love me and i really love them. this was a great movie. But i really thought it was really unfair to ah jin. It was a really touching story though. But i guess you just have to find out your real love and dont regret for who you pick. Still this was a tough question.
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In a one sided love they both get hurt and still won't work and sooner or later they will broke up. That's why its best to find a person that you love and loves you back. So, if the first question is: "You'll wait until you find the true love?", I'll say: Yes.

I think this is what they wanted to let us know when Xiang Qin refused Ah Jin. And, in the end they end up having the one they loved by their sides.
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Posted 11/3/08

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kiseki-- wrote:


justplainmango wrote:

i could never settle for someone just because they love me. i have to love them back, cause if i dont then i would just be hurting that person in the end. pretty much giving them false hope and not staying true to myself


I couldn't agree more ^^

I wouldnt want to hurt someone who cares for me just for my own selfish intentions. But i also believe that feelings can grow with time. It may not necessarily be a selfish act to settle for someone who loves me. It's also about giving chances, IMO. But i guess it depends on the situation huh ^^"


If you simply "date" that person, then feelings can grow, Unless you already love someone But even then, feelings can change.
For me... I wouldn't want 1 sided love~



i couldn't agree more......i don' see anything i can add to this reply
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Posted 11/7/08
Such a hard question.. I too have never truly been in love.
However, I think if I was faced with this situation
I would probably try going out with someone who loves me,
If things were never gonna happen with the one I love.
I won't ever have that much courage to do what Xiang Qin did.
She made herself so vulnerable to pain and I don't think I could ever do that.
Posted 11/17/08 , edited 11/17/08
I'de rather go with the person I ♥ love because in the future if i accept the guy i never liked i'de regret it. also i agree with Emstie. I'll feel guilty for accepting his feelings. Once he knows that u dont like him he'll get hurt....Tho at the same time u never kno wat the outcome mite be....i mean anything can happen rite when it comes to love? - "Today may be hate....But tomorrow may be L♥ve...." -
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Posted 12/1/08

justplainmango wrote:

i could never settle for someone just because they love me. i have to love them back, cause if i dont then i would just be hurting that person in the end. pretty much giving them false hope and not staying true to myself


yup,yup though i might grow to like Ah Jin if he keeps trying, not giving up no matter what ^_^
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