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In-denial when inlove..
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I don't really understand your question. Are you asking that when one's in love, is he/she in-denial of his/her partner's wrongdoings? (That's how I saw it when I first read your question...) or are you asking that when one's in love, they deny being in love? (my understanding after reading some of the answers...)

But, to answer the first question, yes. Love is blind.

When I thought that my ex was cheating on me, my friends confirmed my suspicions, but I was "in-denial" and trusted him whole-heartedly. I ignored their warnings/shit talking and continued dating my ex coz "I loved him."


Posted 8/2/08 , edited 8/2/08

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It's kind of funny how infuations are often interpreted as being in love... I guess when you get as old as me you start understanding yourself better and understand your feelings more. It's better to stay true to yourself then stay in denial. Lol there's lots of kinds of denials though... so maybe not all forms of denial is bad but from experience being in denial never did anything good for me.


Thanks, I feel like a geezer now.

On topic: I accepted that I won't be finding true love anytime soon, so I keep my mind of it. It's a personal decision, because I'm too selfish to give my time and money to a person I'll be breaking up with anyway.


I hope you know there's multiple meanings of old... it's like saying I'm 20 years "old" when you get as "old" as me... they should they just make it 20 years "young" so I can say when you get as "young" as me... but that won't make much sense. You do see how the "as me" part chances the whole meaning of "old" though right?
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h4x0rz wrote:


J0hNNy2 wrote:

It's kind of funny how infuations are often interpreted as being in love... I guess when you get as old as me you start understanding yourself better and understand your feelings more. It's better to stay true to yourself then stay in denial. Lol there's lots of kinds of denials though... so maybe not all forms of denial is bad but from experience being in denial never did anything good for me.


Thanks, I feel like a geezer now.

On topic: I accepted that I won't be finding true love anytime soon, so I keep my mind of it. It's a personal decision, because I'm too selfish to give my time and money to a person I'll be breaking up with anyway.


I hope you know there's multiple meanings of old... it's like saying I'm 20 years "old" when you get as "old" as me... they should they just make it 20 years "young" so I can say when you get as "young" as me... but that won't make much sense


I understand perfectly well, mate. But the thought suddenly hit me on how old 19-20 year olds seem on this forum, where the majority are years younger than us
Posted 8/2/08

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I understand perfectly well, mate. But the thought suddenly hit me on how old 19-20 year olds seem on this forum, where the majority are years younger than us :D


Lol yeah in comparison to these children we do seem a lil bit old.. thanks I feel like a geezer now
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Umm, i don't understand. How can someone deny that they're in love? If you're in love you should know it right? Plus, i think the whole concept of having to love another involves a great amount of time. I understand having great admiration for a person... but love? That takes a lot to develope... but hey, i don't have the right to say anything really since i don't completely know what kind of situation that you're in. All I know is that you're in denial? Which is kind of non-specific here. lol.


There are person who really deny that they are inlove and Im one of them... and i dont know why I always do this...
My friends told me that i almost done it thrice...

The situation is that, my friends always tell me that basing on their observation i am inlove with someone whom they know...
but, they told me that i am indenial about it.
Indeed!
Its just that according to them i don't want to admit it...
But for me, i think they are wrong...
I know it because I know myself... and then they responded on that statement
"naaahhh! there are things that you do not know about yourself but the others know so don't give us that kind of statement!"


well... that tells me more. but.. i'm wanting to know YOUR situation. the story behind this. cuz all you're telling me still is that you're in denial and your friends think so. like.. are you together with this person that you're denial about being in love.. or... good friends with them?? if you don't wanna tell me since it's kinda private, it's okay. i totally understand. but if you do.. that'd really help me to know what to tell you.
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Umm, i don't understand. How can someone deny that they're in love? If you're in love you should know it right? Plus, i think the whole concept of having to love another involves a great amount of time. I understand having great admiration for a person... but love? That takes a lot to develope... but hey, i don't have the right to say anything really since i don't completely know what kind of situation that you're in. All I know is that you're in denial? Which is kind of non-specific here. lol.


There are person who really deny that they are inlove and Im one of them... and i dont know why I always do this...
My friends told me that i almost done it thrice...

The situation is that, my friends always tell me that basing on their observation i am inlove with someone whom they know...
but, they told me that i am indenial about it.
Indeed!
Its just that according to them i don't want to admit it...
But for me, i think they are wrong...
I know it because I know myself... and then they responded on that statement
"naaahhh! there are things that you do not know about yourself but the others know so don't give us that kind of statement!"


well... that tells me more. but.. i'm wanting to know YOUR situation. the story behind this. cuz all you're telling me still is that you're in denial and your friends think so. like.. are you together with this person that you're denial about being in love.. or... good friends with them?? if you don't wanna tell me since it's kinda private, it's okay. i totally understand. but if you do.. that'd really help me to know what to tell you.


the story goes this way... this man is a casual friend...
and there are times that i hate him, but there are times that i do like him...
because this man has a flexible personality which makes me feel such thing to him...
and then many people really plays a cupid role for us...
i don't know what makes them such a person but all i know is that they see us compatible or shall we say beautiful couples to look at...
And because this man is not getting any younger anymore, they wanted him to atleast have a gf already...
and if possible that would be me...
Let's just say we really have an age gap... but he is not that old...

To cut the story short, i think i love him but I am denying it to other people and to myself...
Maybe because I am afraid to fall inlove again and there are many things to consider...
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tammyx3 wrote:


greenrose_ikang wrote:


tammyx3 wrote:

Umm, i don't understand. How can someone deny that they're in love? If you're in love you should know it right? Plus, i think the whole concept of having to love another involves a great amount of time. I understand having great admiration for a person... but love? That takes a lot to develope... but hey, i don't have the right to say anything really since i don't completely know what kind of situation that you're in. All I know is that you're in denial? Which is kind of non-specific here. lol.


There are person who really deny that they are inlove and Im one of them... and i dont know why I always do this...
My friends told me that i almost done it thrice...

The situation is that, my friends always tell me that basing on their observation i am inlove with someone whom they know...
but, they told me that i am indenial about it.
Indeed!
Its just that according to them i don't want to admit it...
But for me, i think they are wrong...
I know it because I know myself... and then they responded on that statement
"naaahhh! there are things that you do not know about yourself but the others know so don't give us that kind of statement!"


well... that tells me more. but.. i'm wanting to know YOUR situation. the story behind this. cuz all you're telling me still is that you're in denial and your friends think so. like.. are you together with this person that you're denial about being in love.. or... good friends with them?? if you don't wanna tell me since it's kinda private, it's okay. i totally understand. but if you do.. that'd really help me to know what to tell you.


the story goes this way... this man is a casual friend...
and there are times that i hate him, but there are times that i do like him...
because this man has a flexible personality which makes me feel such thing to him...
and then many people really plays a cupid role for us...
i don't know what makes them such a person but all i know is that they see us compatible or shall we say beautiful couples to look at...
And because this man is not getting any younger anymore, they wanted him to atleast have a gf already...
and if possible that would be me...
Let's just say we really have an age gap... but he is not that old...

To cut the story short, i think i love him but I am denying it to other people and to myself...
Maybe because I am afraid to fall inlove again and there are many things to consider...



ohh. now it's understandable. trust me. i've been through the same thing! but i wouldn't call it as you're denying that you're in love. since love takes a verrry long time to develop! you have to be forsure and be in a relationship with that person to reach that emotion . to me, you simply just have a crush. since there are times that you become rather fond of him, and other times it's not there. don't be afraid of falling in love! even if you had a bad experience you should just let it go and start fresh. cuz he's a different guy, am i right? not all the guys are the same. if you REALLY like him and he's a good guy. i say go for it! your friends are supportive; they'll be your backbone if there are any problems! but just take it slow for now, and say in the friend zone for a bit. until you're certain that you like him. no denial. it's just a straight forward liking. is he also fond of you though?
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greenrose_ikang wrote:


tammyx3 wrote:


greenrose_ikang wrote:


tammyx3 wrote:

Umm, i don't understand. How can someone deny that they're in love? If you're in love you should know it right? Plus, i think the whole concept of having to love another involves a great amount of time. I understand having great admiration for a person... but love? That takes a lot to develope... but hey, i don't have the right to say anything really since i don't completely know what kind of situation that you're in. All I know is that you're in denial? Which is kind of non-specific here. lol.


There are person who really deny that they are inlove and Im one of them... and i dont know why I always do this...
My friends told me that i almost done it thrice...

The situation is that, my friends always tell me that basing on their observation i am inlove with someone whom they know...
but, they told me that i am indenial about it.
Indeed!
Its just that according to them i don't want to admit it...
But for me, i think they are wrong...
I know it because I know myself... and then they responded on that statement
"naaahhh! there are things that you do not know about yourself but the others know so don't give us that kind of statement!"


well... that tells me more. but.. i'm wanting to know YOUR situation. the story behind this. cuz all you're telling me still is that you're in denial and your friends think so. like.. are you together with this person that you're denial about being in love.. or... good friends with them?? if you don't wanna tell me since it's kinda private, it's okay. i totally understand. but if you do.. that'd really help me to know what to tell you.


the story goes this way... this man is a casual friend...
and there are times that i hate him, but there are times that i do like him...
because this man has a flexible personality which makes me feel such thing to him...
and then many people really plays a cupid role for us...
i don't know what makes them such a person but all i know is that they see us compatible or shall we say beautiful couples to look at...
And because this man is not getting any younger anymore, they wanted him to atleast have a gf already...
and if possible that would be me...
Let's just say we really have an age gap... but he is not that old...

To cut the story short, i think i love him but I am denying it to other people and to myself...
Maybe because I am afraid to fall inlove again and there are many things to consider...



ohh. now it's understandable. trust me. i've been through the same thing! but i wouldn't call it as you're denying that you're in love. since love takes a verrry long time to develop! you have to be forsure and be in a relationship with that person to reach that emotion . to me, you simply just have a crush. since there are times that you become rather fond of him, and other times it's not there. don't be afraid of falling in love! even if you had a bad experience you should just let it go and start fresh. cuz he's a different guy, am i right? not all the guys are the same. if you REALLY like him and he's a good guy. i say go for it! your friends are supportive; they'll be your backbone if there are any problems! but just take it slow for now, and say in the friend zone for a bit. until you're certain that you like him. no denial. it's just a straight forward liking. is he also fond of you though?


oh yeah.. Very well said.. Thank you so much.. I guess i certainly know what to do...
I guess he likes me too... Based on observations...
There is just that thing which I do not know that stops HIM to confess his feelings to me...
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doesnt that mean that ur not denying ur feelings bout him?
well if thats the case then it depends on me..
bout how we act together..i cant juss admit it 2 everyone
& b a laughing stocckkk!but if the situation is that everyone knows bout it
but they juss act normal & juss jokes bout it 2 not make me look
like a fool then that would b good 2
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greenrose_ikang wrote:


tammyx3 wrote:


greenrose_ikang wrote:


tammyx3 wrote:


greenrose_ikang wrote:


tammyx3 wrote:

Umm, i don't understand. How can someone deny that they're in love? If you're in love you should know it right? Plus, i think the whole concept of having to love another involves a great amount of time. I understand having great admiration for a person... but love? That takes a lot to develope... but hey, i don't have the right to say anything really since i don't completely know what kind of situation that you're in. All I know is that you're in denial? Which is kind of non-specific here. lol.


There are person who really deny that they are inlove and Im one of them... and i dont know why I always do this...
My friends told me that i almost done it thrice...

The situation is that, my friends always tell me that basing on their observation i am inlove with someone whom they know...
but, they told me that i am indenial about it.
Indeed!
Its just that according to them i don't want to admit it...
But for me, i think they are wrong...
I know it because I know myself... and then they responded on that statement
"naaahhh! there are things that you do not know about yourself but the others know so don't give us that kind of statement!"


well... that tells me more. but.. i'm wanting to know YOUR situation. the story behind this. cuz all you're telling me still is that you're in denial and your friends think so. like.. are you together with this person that you're denial about being in love.. or... good friends with them?? if you don't wanna tell me since it's kinda private, it's okay. i totally understand. but if you do.. that'd really help me to know what to tell you.


the story goes this way... this man is a casual friend...
and there are times that i hate him, but there are times that i do like him...
because this man has a flexible personality which makes me feel such thing to him...
and then many people really plays a cupid role for us...
i don't know what makes them such a person but all i know is that they see us compatible or shall we say beautiful couples to look at...
And because this man is not getting any younger anymore, they wanted him to atleast have a gf already...
and if possible that would be me...
Let's just say we really have an age gap... but he is not that old...

To cut the story short, i think i love him but I am denying it to other people and to myself...
Maybe because I am afraid to fall inlove again and there are many things to consider...



ohh. now it's understandable. trust me. i've been through the same thing! but i wouldn't call it as you're denying that you're in love. since love takes a verrry long time to develop! you have to be forsure and be in a relationship with that person to reach that emotion . to me, you simply just have a crush. since there are times that you become rather fond of him, and other times it's not there. don't be afraid of falling in love! even if you had a bad experience you should just let it go and start fresh. cuz he's a different guy, am i right? not all the guys are the same. if you REALLY like him and he's a good guy. i say go for it! your friends are supportive; they'll be your backbone if there are any problems! but just take it slow for now, and say in the friend zone for a bit. until you're certain that you like him. no denial. it's just a straight forward liking. is he also fond of you though?


oh yeah.. Very well said.. Thank you so much.. I guess i certainly know what to do...
I guess he likes me too... Based on observations...
There is just that thing which I do not know that stops HIM to confess his feelings to me...


you're very welcome. (: i went through the same somewhat. you can continue to come to me if you need any help! cuz i'd be glad to give you a hand. oh, if he likes you.. then he'll tell you sooner or later. right now, the best thing to do is to just sit back and let time tell. cuz right now. you guys are in the "crushing" stage. considering the fact that you both are friends that are fond of eachother. just continue to be as of that. the feelings for you both will grow, trust me. then you shall not be no longer confused. but it's a certain thing that you both have affection towards one another. build a strong friendship first before ongoing to a relationship, it'd be worth the wait since you guys will be able to communicate better and be more comfortable around one another.

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Maybe...hehehe
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stop denying! go for it!
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It depends.
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Well, this is what i hate about myself... I wanted to overcome this...
How about you? What do you do when you encounter these?

Please knock-it out if there is something wrong about it... Thank You... I'd appreciate it...


i've never been in love..infatuation
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I'm only in denial about love when I know that it can never be.

For example, I liked this girl last year in High School. She graduated, and I forgot to get her number. I may not see her again and I usually think to myself, "I don't think she liked me. Oh well, it was probably mere infatuation anyways."
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