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28 / M / Spencer,Iowa 51301
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I don't really have a similar story all except that the girls I have liked in the past are in the past and I love my gf with all my heart and she is the girl of my dreams. (I know it sounds cheesy but its true) But yeah congrats. *bows*
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Well, I might be older than all of you but let me share with you my story of realizing when I was over my ex. My ex and I had been dating secretly for a year because he was a "bad" boy and I was a goodie two shoe. My family are the tradition asian family with the family values, family lineage etc. etc. so from the gecko, we kind of knew our relationship was heading toward trouble but we were too in love and or sprung on each other to care. The relationship was known to the public after two years of being together and we were caught by my cousin who saw my ex and I together. The whole thing got blown out of proportion, and my parents called his parents and they argued and we were told to break up or we would be disowned. Well, to make the long story short....I broke up with him and he cried but I didn't want to be disowned from my family. So, two years later I saw him again and we politely said hi to eachother and went our separate ways.


That is such a tragic story....sucks...if it were me I would go with the one I love...my family values a person's decision on who to love....things happen you know.
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Gt-racing wrote:

What have CR became of...


I agree, I am also perplexed.
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reikiaddict wrote:


cheng26 wrote:

Well, I might be older than all of you but let me share with you my story of realizing when I was over my ex. My ex and I had been dating secretly for a year because he was a "bad" boy and I was a goodie two shoe. My family are the tradition asian family with the family values, family lineage etc. etc. so from the gecko, we kind of knew our relationship was heading toward trouble but we were too in love and or sprung on each other to care. The relationship was known to the public after two years of being together and we were caught by my cousin who saw my ex and I together. The whole thing got blown out of proportion, and my parents called his parents and they argued and we were told to break up or we would be disowned. Well, to make the long story short....I broke up with him and he cried but I didn't want to be disowned from my family. So, two years later I saw him again and we politely said hi to eachother and went our separate ways.


That is such a tragic story....sucks...if it were me I would go with the one I love...my family values a person's decision on who to love....things happen you know.


^ you can't always say or do that reiki. Blood is thicker than water - remember that. Either way, i'll choose the one i love instead.
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27 / M / Toronto
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Lol I can actually...my parents do respect my decision but of course I aint gonna abandon my parents. That is just plain mean.
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cheng26 wrote:

Well, I might be older than all of you but let me share with you my story of realizing when I was over my ex. My ex and I had been dating secretly for a year because he was a "bad" boy and I was a goodie two shoe. My family are the tradition asian family with the family values, family lineage etc. etc. so from the gecko, we kind of knew our relationship was heading toward trouble but we were too in love and or sprung on each other to care. The relationship was known to the public after two years of being together and we were caught by my cousin who saw my ex and I together. The whole thing got blown out of proportion, and my parents called his parents and they argued and we were told to break up or we would be disowned. Well, to make the long story short....I broke up with him and he cried but I didn't want to be disowned from my family. So, two years later I saw him again and we politely said hi to eachother and went our separate ways.


I am very sorry to hear that you were forced to walk out on someone you may have truly loved, simply for the sake of family pride. Tradition and lineage are all well and good, but your family (and I use that term loosely) really needs to re-examine their priorities. If I had a daughter, I don't think I could ever DEMAND that she stop seeing someone, especially two years into the relationship. Just how bad was he? If he was open enough to actually cry when you broke up, then he couldn't have been too awful. Parents are supposed to support and nurture you, they're supposed to give you UNCONDITIONAL love and acceptance, not dictate how to run your life. Threatening to disown you--to throw you out on the street--is absolutely unforgivable, regardless of the reason. They turned their backs on you when you needed their acceptence and approval the most. I cannot imagine a colder heart than the ones which beat in their chests. I sincerely hope that one day they realize how repulsive and prideful their actions were.
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This is in respond to peregrine829, I would agree with you on the fact that my parents could have been more understanding. However, they were from a very traditional 1st generation in the US so I also understand where they are coming from. This also happen during our high school years, so at the time what can a person do? When I had refused to break up with him, I was kicked out of the house in the middle of the night wearing only the clothes I had on me... so given the situation, parents and family sometimes overrides our idealistic view on love and romance...yea I know reality suck big time. But reality is reality.
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26 / F / Atlanta Georgia
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I have this ex boyfriend who lives in New York and is suppose to be moving to where I am, and he wants to get back together with me, but he gets on my nerves now. His voice irritates me and I cringe when he keeps talking about getting together. I use to love him so much, but that love faded away, and I'm single at the moment. He's broken my heart once, so he's liable to do it again, so I gotta keep it moving. Then I have another ex boyfriend who I use to really like, but then he did me wrong as well, and we had broken up. Then come to find out later, he had been cheating on me the entire time we were together, so I kicked him to the curb. Then he comes over to my house cause he's close with my little sister and then he keeps pushing his ass up on me and I'm getting more disgusted by the second. All I really want is to be free of the dumb ass men. Personally, I'm changing up who I go out with. See what else is out there, see the different cultures, you know? I see a lot of cute asian boys nowadays, and I'm like whoa, he's really cute. But for now, I'm single and loving it.
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cheng26 wrote:

This is in respond to peregrine829, I would agree with you on the fact that my parents could have been more understanding. However, they were from a very traditional 1st generation in the US so I also understand where they are coming from. This also happen during our high school years, so at the time what can a person do? When I had refused to break up with him, I was kicked out of the house in the middle of the night wearing only the clothes I had on me... so given the situation, parents and family sometimes overrides our idealistic view on love and romance...yea I know reality suck big time. But reality is reality.


That kind of familial pride and tradition is something we long-time Americans really have absolutely no concept of. As a whole we're way too anti-establishment--we love to fight on principle and "stick it to the Man" (as it were)--to ever follow an order like that. If your family was 3rd or 4th generation American (as most American families are), I'm willing to bet you would have told your father to "go fuck yourself 'cause I can date whomever I damn well please" then slammed the door in their faces and crashed at a friend's house for a few days.
I suppose, given the circumstances, there was little else you could do at the time. I still find their actions disgusting, but like I said, that kind of traditional outlook is an utterly foreign concept to me. At the very least, I hope they've lightened up since then.
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Posted 3/14/07
it's a lot harder i guess if you've never had a bf and when the one; who you think is the one. comes along and thinks that your the sweetest most beautiful girl out there, it makes you think that they are right.

like how p123v567 said, i to had never had a man up until i was 20ish? don't remember. but when we broke up it just seemed really depressing. but now that i though of it i was glad i was out before it was too late. just didn't want to be manipulated and trashed down by him. sometimes girls are too blind to see the bad side in a guy and they just keep looking at the wrong side of them.
Posted 3/14/07
well when my bf cheated on me and i wasnt crying with heartbreak i figured i had moved on.
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My English teacher told me this: Girls will always have a hard time finding a good person because men are more aware of what they want than them. Hmmmm talk about getting a sermon from an old lady...but it is true.
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reikiaddict wrote:

My English teacher told me this: Girls will always have a hard time finding a good person because men are more aware of what they want than them. Hmmmm talk about getting a sermon from an old lady...but it is true.


...so true*sigh*. Boy Powa!

Now on a less serious note.
I don´t get people in relationships, why do you always go back to the insignificant other that betrayed your trust after invading the innermost depths of your being, or sumthin like that, i dunno. Would it not be more healthy to just sever all contact with said person?
And just maybe move on with your everyday life? And just maybe refrain from new relationships for lessay the next month or so? let it settle in and just perhaps be witness to some inner growth?
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I was being used. Paid for everything and treated her to well. She well, just used me and I knew she was crazy, so I let other people deal with her crazy while I just didn't talk to her. I'm very glad I don't see or talk to her, but if I saw her I think I would feel pretty good.
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26 / M / New York
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I know one of my homegirls got dump in Valentines day and next day she started crying in the class. I felt sorry for her and u know try to be a good friend a make her stop crying. So i make her smile and to make her laugh with some of my jokes about life. told her 2 don't worry about it, that moron will try to go back with her and then payback baby payback.
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