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Post Reply If one of your parents dislike your partner because he/she is not from your race,will you continue dating that person?
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27 / F / wonderland
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Posted 8/9/08
I know that my mom disapprove of me dating non-chinese but for some reason I am attracted to non-asians.I used to consider her feelings.Later I realized that I am the one who is dating that person not her.If she don't like,then too bad because I have my own life.So what do you guys think?
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lol racism
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My cousin's cousin married a black man against her parent's wishes.
^^ Not because he was black, just because he did not fit their standards.
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Posted 8/9/08 , edited 8/9/08
well... as you said, who is dating your mom or you?

after all, if you get married to that person, you are going to spend way more time with him instead of your parents.

also tell your mom that as long as the guy treats you right, race doesn't matter *nods*


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btw... why is your nick boricua (puerto rican) if you are asian????

or is your mom the asian one and your dad boricua?

me no get it!
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28 / F / USA
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My big thing is respect! If the guy, despite his race, is respectful towards me, others, and himself then that's fine! Unfortunately, there are some non-Asian's who are highly disrespectful towards other traditions and 'way of life' than theirs and my family is very modern for an Asian family, too.

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My parents don't want me to date at all XD

Mine want me to date an asian at least, but that's fine with me, I guess.
Posted 8/9/08
Yes. I already know my dad will be against me dating anyone but a Nigerian (he's pretty much racist). But I don't care because he's ignorant.
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Posted 8/9/08 , edited 8/9/08

ttatza wrote:

well... as you said, who is dating your mom or you?

after all, if you get married to that person, you are going to spend way more time with him instead of your parents.

also tell your mom that as long as the guy treats you right, race doesn't matter *nods*


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btw... why is your nick boricua (puerto rican) if you are asian????

or is your mom the asian one and your dad boricua?

me no get it!


I was born in Puerto Rico but my family is Chinese.And that is the reason why I like non-asians.
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Posted 8/9/08 , edited 8/9/08
certainly. My mother wouldn't ever mind something like that, but my father is likely to find something wrong with my partner, only just because pretty much anything I do is wrong in his eyes anyway. Because I'm used to him opposing stuff for no reason whatsoever, I wouldn't give much of a damn.
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Posted 8/9/08 , edited 8/9/08

ttatza wrote:


That is very different in Asia. When you marry, you are also marrying his/her mother. Many Asians also try to keep the tradition of taking care of their parents when they get old. Unlike Americans and other westerners who leave their old and ill parents at nursing homes, many Asians prefer to look after them with care.

Why? Because your parents took care of you, fed you, and raised you. Any amount of money will not be enough to pay them for giving you a life.


Shinjy wrote:

my parents want me to date and marry a Chinese girl but live in a country where's there's hardly any!


I can assume that you're Chinese?
Posted 8/9/08
my parents want me to date and marry a Chinese girl but live in a country where's there's hardly any!
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boricua24 wrote:
but for some reason I am attracted to non-asians


It's the Asian girl thing to do.

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29 / F / Middle of nowhere
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Posted 8/9/08

mikomiko123 wrote:

ttatza wrote:

That is very different in Asia. When you marry, you are also marrying his/her mother. Many Asians also try to keep the tradition of taking care of their parents when they get old. Unlike Americans and other westerners who leave their old and ill parents at nursing homes, many Asians prefer to look after them with care.

Why? Because your parents took care of you, fed you, and raised you. Any amount of money will not be enough to pay them for giving you a life.

i see... :blush:

i didnt meant it that you would abandon your parents in a nursing home, im also against that (im not american btw). abandoning you parents is a big no no for me.

no, im not an ingrate child, i just think that in your priority list. the family you started (your children) is on top of the family that was given to you (your parents).

i believe that you dont have to live with you parents to be able to take care of them, you can live in a separate house and visit them every day or as often as you can. as i said before, abandoning them is a big no-no.
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Posted 8/9/08
No. It's already happened in my family - those marriages actually lasted compared to some who married people from the same ethnicity. IMHO ethnicity doesn't matter, if you can't overcome the inevitable differences and like/love/live with the person no matter which ethnic group they're from, the marriage won't work.
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Yeah, I would continue dating him. But my parents aren't like that. They wouldn't really care, and if they did. I'm sure they'll suppress it inside.
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