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Post Reply If one of your parents dislike your partner because he/she is not from your race,will you continue dating that person?
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Posted 10/9/12
Of course I would, my parents are just going to have to deal with it and learn to be accepting of other people.
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If I had parents to object to my choice of girlfriend i'd point out that there's a significant lack of black women who fit what i'm looking for in a girlfriend and tell them to either deal with it or stop talking about it.
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My parents never had a say unless my gf was a complete bitch then they would bring it to my attention but other than that they don't care
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boricua24 wrote:


ttatza wrote:

well... as you said, who is dating your mom or you?

after all, if you get married to that person, you are going to spend way more time with him instead of your parents.

also tell your mom that as long as the guy treats you right, race doesn't matter *nods*


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btw... why is your nick boricua (puerto rican) if you are asian????

or is your mom the asian one and your dad boricua?

me no get it!


I was born in Puerto Rico but my family is Chinese.And that is the reason why I like non-asians.


I'm Puerto Rican, and my spouse is Vietnamese/Chinese/European (his mom is Chinese/Vietnamese). When we were dating, and she found out that she mistook me for his friend's girlfriend and not her son's, she went ballistic. It was not the reaction that any of us were expecting from her. She insulted me in so many ways and said that the people of my race were ugly and no good (stupid/lazy) and that her son is going to marry a nice Asian girl, not a @%@^# like me. I couldn't do/say anything, because not only was I taught to respect my elders, this was the mother of the guy I loved, whom he loved, and out of love/respect for him, all I could do was run out of the house to hide my tears. Outside I could hear him yelling at her, but I could not make out the words. He quickly came out after me and we left in his car to his house. At the time he was living with his step-dad (they were divorced) and not his mom. He had brought me there to introduce her to me because we were getting serious.

Long story short, we got married (she wasn't there) and shortly afterward she relented and ate her words. She came over to our apartment and showered me with gifts & real jewelry, trying to buy my love/appease me because she thought I held a grudge/hated her. Oddly enough I didn't, but she didn't believe me and kept giving/doing stuff for us. Our marriage has now lasted longer than hers, and soon longer than anybody else's in the family (22yrs). Now, I am the only one who has given her grandchildren (her other children are too old and never got around to it), four grandsons. I'm told most Asians prefer boys (by her) and that because I had only sons I am now considered by her to be like a "lucky" charm. I can't believe she even asked me when I'm going to have another one....no way!
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Parents are the way they are mainly because of tradition in some cases, other cases it's memories dealing with hatred in the past. I think in the end as long as your partner truly cares for you and is respective of your parents(even if they are bigots). My family is German based and are somewhat open when it comes to race stuff but not 100%. They just stay out of my business as long as I am happy. I hope you have good luck in your search for your happiness ^.^ I still search for mine and start to believe not everyone has a true partner in life.
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28 / M / Bay Area CA
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It's none of their concern even if they did, though I don't think either my mother or father would care seeing as they adopted my brother who is mixed race.
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21 / F / Germany
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My parents would kill if i dated a black guy,I don't really have a interest in them but the guy i dated my senior year in high school was black and when my parents found out my Dad almost killed me. I kept dating the guy anyways cause I thought he was was pretty awesome.
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25 / M / Sydney, Australia
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My parents cannot stop me from dating anyone from any race, gender, age or social status. I decide who I want to date.

The problem is... I can't even find anyone for my parents to disapprove of. I've been really unlucky in love.
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I know my racist mom disproves of Oaxacan (Dark brown Latina) looking girls...She says she doesn't ever want me dating them. LOL

But she can't stop me from dating who I want to date
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lol same here except my mom is ok with it but my dad no he wants a same race well his race to be exact though ive been out with guyanese girl and a trinadian girl lol. Arab also lol. I sitll do it cos my mom approves of me though she wants me to get married not go out all d time.

also since a lot of my family is asian, when we marry we are basically having a bond with our partners parents to. The one thing that they are worried about is that we will leave them when we grow old, but I myself have a goal I will look after my parents when they grow old regarthless of whoever I marry or where they are from. I dont want my parents in a nursing home rather Ill look after them and make god happy.
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Yes, I would continue dating that person. Although I have no such situation as of right now,
my parents do want me to marry someone my own race, but I don't believe in excluding people
in my efforts to find true love. If that even exists.

You don't choose to fall in love. Sometimes it just happens.
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yes i would, DO YOU, not someone else.
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38 / M / Where the heart is
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Yeah, I'd still date her. It just means that I wouldn't bring her over anymore. If mom doesn't approve then what she doesn't know won't meddle.
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yea im only 15 but my parents and family want me to get married to an Indian (from inida not native american) but i obviosly won't express anything yet but when i get older imma get married to an Asian girl hopefully.. cuz i like asian girls ....... not to be corny but YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE and make that one chance count and live to your fullest.... jst don't go around killing pple . be a man and decide who ur wifey 4 lifey is :D
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Posted 1/5/13

PhyongHwa wrote:


boricua24 wrote:


ttatza wrote:

well... as you said, who is dating your mom or you?

after all, if you get married to that person, you are going to spend way more time with him instead of your parents.

also tell your mom that as long as the guy treats you right, race doesn't matter *nods*


**edit**
btw... why is your nick boricua (puerto rican) if you are asian????

or is your mom the asian one and your dad boricua?

me no get it!


I was born in Puerto Rico but my family is Chinese.And that is the reason why I like non-asians.


I'm Puerto Rican, and my spouse is Vietnamese/Chinese/European (his mom is Chinese/Vietnamese). When we were dating, and she found out that she mistook me for his friend's girlfriend and not her son's, she went ballistic. It was not the reaction that any of us were expecting from her. She insulted me in so many ways and said that the people of my race were ugly and no good (stupid/lazy) and that her son is going to marry a nice Asian girl, not a @%@^# like me. I couldn't do/say anything, because not only was I taught to respect my elders, this was the mother of the guy I loved, whom he loved, and out of love/respect for him, all I could do was run out of the house to hide my tears. Outside I could hear him yelling at her, but I could not make out the words. He quickly came out after me and we left in his car to his house. At the time he was living with his step-dad (they were divorced) and not his mom. He had brought me there to introduce her to me because we were getting serious.

Long story short, we got married (she wasn't there) and shortly afterward she relented and ate her words. She came over to our apartment and showered me with gifts & real jewelry, trying to buy my love/appease me because she thought I held a grudge/hated her. Oddly enough I didn't, but she didn't believe me and kept giving/doing stuff for us. Our marriage has now lasted longer than hers, and soon longer than anybody else's in the family (22yrs). Now, I am the only one who has given her grandchildren (her other children are too old and never got around to it), four grandsons. I'm told most Asians prefer boys (by her) and that because I had only sons I am now considered by her to be like a "lucky" charm. I can't believe she even asked me when I'm going to have another one....no way!


not to be disrespectfull but WOW!! now i can imagine my parents doing that 2 me cuz i dont like Indian Girls as i said before. now im thinking imma just kinda cease contact with them but then i think of when i get married and here are seats for your family at the wedding and my side would be all empty excpet for a few friends. see i wouldnt have the courage to take my girlfriend to my parents house. Sorry but you seem to have a alot of self control if somone said that to me i would cuss at him/her and leave but smart to leave room b4 anything happens. but im kinda scared of my dad cuz i dont wanna hurt him i kinda hate my mom she kinda a B!#$# most f the time, and my dad is nice and tells me to live my life but then he wants me to marry a indian girl and well i like asian's (girls) holy shit you just blew my mind now i have to think of all this shit.............
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