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for the past ten years, my soul has felt like a coil that twists just that little bit more every time i get mistreated. recently, i've been feeling that coil tighten more and more and i fear i'm near my breaking point. a yesterday, i nearly slammed a girl into a wall for asking me if i was randomsupergirl's bitch. previously, i've nearly slapped someone and i've come close to doing other things which would take too long to explain. i'm worried that eventually i'm going to hurt someone, what can i do about it? i don't want to become one of those people who hurts others for no reason; i'm not like that. i want to know how people on CR deal with this sort of stuff and if any other people feel like this.
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...wow. Well, first, i wouldn't come up with such problems on internet. But since you already did that. My suggestion is just not giving much shit about what other dumbasses think about you. It's what i do, too. I don't give a shit about what they think of me. Hell, they can even tell me what they think of me, but i won't listen... BUT if they actually do dare offending me in public. Then i'd beat the shit of them, too. So like i said, it differs from the complicity of the situation you're into. I'd rather talk about it with your friends rather asking people who don't even really know you.

Hope that helped...
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well generally i wouldn't be the type to care about what others think of me, it's just when people start involving my friends and, worse, my family, that's when i start to get mad.
and i don't see why i should punish my friends by making them listen to my crap. by putting this on the net, it gives people a choice of whether they want to reply or just ignore it and carry on with their lives
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Friend's would give you a more certain answer to your problem, because they know you better AND probably know what situation you're really into. And friends are not just called friends for not giving a damn about you but because they will help you out if you're in trouble. So i don't think they would ignore your problems and will definitely gelp you out at their own will. But if you don't want to, fine with me. All i have to say is it's ok to slap some fucktards messing with your friends and family, to show them you won't take shit from them and will sure as hell teach 'em some manners. I'd defenitely slap that bitch, if i were you. But maybe it's just ol' brutal me. Let's hear what other would do..
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Sorry- i don't personally feel that so strongly. I do have moments of annoyance when people are cruel or some form of injustice happens but i've never felt violent. I can understand why you're stressed if people are saying things about your friends and family (if that's what you mean)- you have a right to be! The main thing is to control it. I've havd someone before say that they are so annoyed lately and are worried they may hurt someone. There are various things you can do but some ideas are:
-- let it out in another way. Making this thread is a good idea as it's allowed you to let it all out. I suggest you find someone you trust and talk to them about it ^-^. You say you don't want to involve your friends- but friends feel more special if you talk to them about your problems ^-^.
-- everytime you are getting annoyed just take a break and do something different that also requires attention.
-- exercise ^-^. I don't know the science of it but going for a run or playing a sport uses up excess energy and calms you down.
-- a hard one: learn to see behind things. EG. if someone says something mean about your mum then think- do they have problems with their mum? Are they letting out their stress on you?

I'm sorry if this doesn't help- i'm not really sure of the situation so this is all very broad. ^-^
There might be something in the anger thread: http://www.crunchyroll.com/showforumtopic?id=2639&pg=1
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I take the godfather approach to anger. Get others to do the killi...er, slapping for me.

But If that fails listen to sjb.
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Why not seek professional help with your emotions if you can't deal with them. Nothing wrong with seeking some counseling. If then are not serious then find a way to displace your anger into, for example, sports or playing some games. I work out or watch anime/tv to calm me down. I watch american dad/family guy, it makes me laugh are reduces my stress.
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28 / F / Lost in the deepe...
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s_j_b is right. i especially agree with the whole exercise thing. Whenever you feel tense or want to let some of that anger out just go for a run or a swim or something else that will make you tired. You'll notice that while you're concentraiting in the phisical activity you're mind will come up with a better way to deal with whatever situation you're in.
One other thing i have to add is whenever you are in a situation when you want to slap someone or do something drastic like that the best way to restrain yourself is by counting to 10 or 20 if necessary. it gives you enough time to cool down a little bit and think about what you're about to do. it's enough to ask yourself the question is it worth it? At first it seems impossible that you will remember to count when you're in a situation like that but trust me it becomes a habit.
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"Logic > Emotion" that's not always true jay, each has its limits.
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mushroomjay wrote:


mauz15 wrote:

"Logic > Emotion" that's not always true jay, each has its limits.


True, but the fact that emotion can't over-power logic is pretty weak. : D

However, that as well is a variable. Each person has their own logic and their own set amount they can use. Most people are weaker in logic and hone more emotional power over logic. Then again, those with more logic are often given a much stronger output over others emotion. Which means, they can logically own others in arguments. : D

Hehe.


If that is the case then we are no different from robots and computers...over-powered by logic and have no emotions at all.
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I'm usually an easy-going guy who'd rather talk his way out of trouble but I did go through that phase a couple of years ago when we lost our parents. After a year of fighting, a couple of suspensions from school, and gak gak, I somehow resolved the red haze problem by walking away. You know, just remove yourself to a place far away from that person.

It can be hard sometimes, especially when that person needs his face breaking, but with time it'll become a habit, which makes it easier to walk away. This also may help you to learn to calm down and maintain self control at your own pace.

That feeling of wanting to react aggressively is always a moment of time that determines what could happen to you after, so it's down to you to control that moment of time. Having a sense of control equals a better chance at dealing it without hurting anyone including yourself.

You should also recognise that you cannot control what other people say about you or your family, but you can control how much you are willing to let their comments get to you. More you ignore these, better control you will be in, easier to live another day.

For what it's worth, anyway.
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Easy if you feel neglected or emosional or stress or anything.. talk to people that mean alot to you.. people that you love... you'll feel better and loved
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This may sound like bull, but I do a little meditation whenever I'm pissed off, and breathing exercises, they actually work and can calm you down. Either that, or I hit my new heavy bag that I installed a week ago, its great for a workout and after 15 minutes of going at it, my anger ususally dissipates.
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insane_killer_bunny wrote:

for the past ten years, my soul has felt like a coil that twists just that little bit more every time i get mistreated. recently, i've been feeling that coil tighten more and more and i fear i'm near my breaking point. a yesterday, i nearly slammed a girl into a wall for asking me if i was randomsupergirl's bitch. previously, i've nearly slapped someone and i've come close to doing other things which would take too long to explain. i'm worried that eventually i'm going to hurt someone, what can i do about it? i don't want to become one of those people who hurts others for no reason; i'm not like that. i want to know how people on CR deal with this sort of stuff and if any other people feel like this.


IDK, I have a few anger issues but it's mostly the people I am forced to live with, no matter how much you THINK someone isn't affecting you, you must always consider that option, is there someone at home, work, or school who has you stressed out? My outlet is anime, whenever I need to cool down I just watch some anime until I fall asleep or just eat, yeah eating calms people down.
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bakayaro wrote:

...wow. Well, first, i wouldn't come up with such problems on internet. But since you already did that. My suggestion is just not giving much shit about what other dumbasses think about you. It's what i do, too. I don't give a shit about what they think of me. Hell, they can even tell me what they think of me, but i won't listen... BUT if they actually do dare offending me in public. Then i'd beat the shit of them, too. So like i said, it differs from the complicity of the situation you're into. I'd rather talk about it with your friends rather asking people who don't even really know you.

Hope that helped...

like he said dont take shit from no one, but i would talk to someone first too that helps

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