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Posted 8/17/08 , edited 8/17/08
what would you guys feel if your bestfriend is trying all her best to destroy you? and if you were me, what would you do? Please help me guys....i'm really in a tough situation right now.
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The first thing you need to do is spend some time meditating on the Word of God and focusing on him. If you're going to handle this situation, you'll have to do it the right way. In time, God will reveal what it is he wants you to do. Until then, as hard as it is, try your best to avoid seeking revenge or justice. Trust me, trying to fight back will only bring more sadness and pain. Instead, focus on showing her kindness and love. If what she is doing bothers you, which it clearly does, then try to tell her this in a calm and respectful way.

I hope what I've said helps.
Posted 8/17/08
thanks darklion....:) i'll try my best to ignore her taunts. Yep, i truly believe God has something for me. I'll bear in mind what you said. God bless and thanks again! :)
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anevie wrote:

what would you guys feel if your bestfriend is trying all her best to destroy you? and if you were me, what would you do? Please help me guys....i'm really in a tough situation right now. :(


Woo thats sucts. Well I am going to pray for both of you.....And think on this....
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Well, if she is treating you like that you should still show Christ's love for her. Turn the other cheek like the Bible says. That doesn't mean letting her take advantage of you, but you shouldn't respond to her taunts and attacks with more taunts and attacks, because that is sinful. I will pray for your situation. Try and find a better person to make your best friend, having and being a best friend to someone is an important relationship that shouldn't be taken lightly. Learn from how your friend is treating you, and make an effort not to treat others the same way (not saying that you do) and remember this verse.Rom 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him,* who* have been called according to his purpose. Trust in God, and this situation will teach you, and good will come from it. Remember the story of Joseph. He was sold into slavery, lied too, hated by his brothers, and went many years in prison for something he didn't do. God turned all those situations into something good and amazing, never doubt how God can work. This thing may be happening so that you might find an even better best friend, or to put you and your current friend through a trial to make you closer. All I know is, is that God will use it for good if you let Him.
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Well, if she is treating you like that you should still show Christ's love for her. Turn the other cheek like the Bible says. That doesn't mean letting her take advantage of you, but you shouldn't respond to her taunts and attacks with more taunts and attacks, because that is sinful. I will pray for your situation. Try and find a better person to make your best friend, having and being a best friend to someone is an important relationship that shouldn't be taken lightly. Learn from how your friend is treating you, and make an effort not to treat others the same way (not saying that you do) and remember this verse.Rom 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him,* who* have been called according to his purpose. Trust in God, and this situation will teach you, and good will come from it. Remember the story of Joseph. He was sold into slavery, lied too, hated by his brothers, and went many years in prison for something he didn't do. God turned all those situations into something good and amazing, never doubt how God can work. This thing may be happening so that you might find an even better best friend, or to put you and your current friend through a trial to make you closer. All I know is, is that God will use it for good if you let Him.


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I am in complete agreement with dark and digs, I really cant offer any other advise, so just to beat the nail into the ground, seek God, rather it be His word, or through prayer or through both. Trust and have faith in the idea that its not done without a purpose, try to work it out if it is workable if not, cast her aside. If your eye causes you to sin you pluck it out, if your friend does, say goodbye to them. um... i think that is the best recap and re-enforcement i can do at the present moment.

Psalm 20:1 May the Lord answer you in the day of trouble!
May the name of the God of Jacob protect you!
2 May he send you help from the sanctuary
and give you support from Zion!
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Posted 8/18/08 , edited 8/19/08
Well i have a little experience in this field. My best friend didn't try to destroy me literally XD but the way she lived her life and the way she tried to drag me into it was destroying me. The best thing to do is take it to the Lord in prayer and to commit the whole experience into his hands. ^_^ And know that everything happens for a reason. If she taunts you the Lord will take care of it for you without you having to lift even a finger.
Try praying and having a one-on-one conversation with her and see if that changes things. If not, mind your own business and try to stay away from her. But above all else treat her with respect, even if she doesn't deserve it. Don't worry about what you'll say to her because the Holy Spirit will guide you. And don't freak out because we're all praying for you! If you're ever lonely just remember that God will send you the right people at the right time...plus u have BA backing you up! Dig's advice is true too .
Here are some comforting verses ^_^.

Titus 2:7-8 " In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness, and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing to say about us.



haha it took me forever to find that verse
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well...I'm went through (actually I think I'm still going through) that experience...just don't mind her, instead, ask God to help you be patient and just ignore her...I know it's hard but with the patience you asked God...it'll be fine...also ask Him that He opens your best friend's heart so that he/she will know that what he/she is doing is not good...^_^

and, if all is over and he/she says sorry...make sure to forgive, okay? ^_^
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Well pray for help. God is always listening and will help you the way it is planned. He will show you the way. But remember be patient, one of the best virtues! I'll pray for u too!
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Great verse rukia, I tend to hold this one dear to my heart...James 4, continuing through verse 12

James 4: 4 You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. 5 Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”? 6 But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” 7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.

11 Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. [4] The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. 12 There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?
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Posted 8/19/08
Amen ^_^...i hope that we were of some assistance anevie!
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Posted 8/23/08
If she was wrong and asked for forgiveness forgive her. And, well you should pray for him/her. I'll be praying for you two! Hope you patch things up with your best friend~!
Posted 8/24/08 , edited 8/24/08
SUPER thanks to everyone!!!! My friend is really super happy...you know guys, she did ask for forgiveness...and she said she can't live without me! :)
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aww thats touching, shows your character aswell, being able to forgive, from someone that has "wronged" you is a difficult task. I know many adults that still cant do it, but how often should we forgive 7 times? 70 times? no 70 X 7... or as much is needed correct?
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