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29 / M / Sask-at-chew-an,...
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Posted 3/22/07
Alot of you seem like nice people.. me personally I'm a straight up asshole. If someone I don't want to talk to comes up to me trying to start a conversation I look them straight in the eye smirk a little bit a say does it look like I give a F...(iretruck). Now if a friend asks me for help depending on what it is I'll either say yes or say no.
As for numbers well it may suprise others but girls sometimes ask guys for numbers.. I know... What kinda sick twisted world are we living in. If I'm not interested and I've been drinking I'll give it to them knowing after they call once they'll never call again. If I'm sober... I'll smile and give them my friends number... he needs a little help with these things sometimes. With getting numbers from girls I've never come across one thats really bitchy or anything and I'll usally know within a couple of minuets talking to her if she would give me a number so when I ask I already know that its hers. If I don't think shes interested I'll say... Fun chat cya and walk away. I think sometimes girls have to be B*tches to guys because alot of us... aren't to bright.
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31 / F / Cambridge
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lolz....im wondering why is niceness such a bad thing....i confess that im baffled.....im one of the people that always behaves with niceness to people coz i can't bear rude behaviour....if u are talking about giving guys numbers then u can just give the last digit on ur phone as wrong...maybe...but ive never actually done dat. or u cud just say that ur not interested so he'll know wat to expect.....the truth no matter how hurtful is always the best....stop playing around with people's feelings if u r not really interested....and its best if u do give the truth in a nice way so people dont actually hate u for doing it....
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26 / F / Wales
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Aw, I've been too nice too often >_< then, it's not like I'm a bitch to them, I just don't fuss with them as much, but I'm sure that hurts them more than if I tell them to take a hike. Now I've got like a fan club of people I've been super nice to, but haven't had a straight answer from me

I'm a horrible person but I'm also more confused than anyone could ever imagine! I'd just keep implying on how much you enjoy being their friend. Amplify on the friend bit!!
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well, there are certainly situations you can't get out of without being hated...uhm,like once 2 friends of mine which didn't get along at all were asking me to spend to new year's eve with them so I tried to to split the night between them...as you can guess it didn't work out. And there's this girl in my class who tried to make out with a friend of mine so he ran, cause she's ugly and she picks fights with him now all the time, well she's a hopeless case...
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98 / F / Northern Virginia
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Im always told that I'm too nice. I always spoil my minions.
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29 / M / Germany
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Well for me giving away my phone number to a girl or other people is not a bad thing, relationship wont conclude just from that. But maybe they can be a good friend. If they start to get rude, just tell them what you want to say should be enough, if they are getting out of control, call the police.
Being kind, honest, nice and mercyful are always good thing. Because ourself either dont want to get bad treated from other people.
Kindness, mercyful are for other people, not ourself.
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25 / F / The Matrix Versio...
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i can be very nice to my friends...but some say i can over react and be a total bum head
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27 / M / Where you are not...
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I think that being truthful is niceness in itself.

If you try to act "nice" and not hurt the person's feelings when u really don't want to be anywhere near or related to them, then i think that is being mean... Your pretty much lying to them and hurting them more then in the first place :X

I do understand that it can be a tricky situation though...
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27 / M / North Carolina
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Well, I'm considered the nicest guy around, and I've NEVER, given my number to a girl I wasn't intersted in, for years I've attracted the ugly and the fat, sure there have been a good number of girls who were attractive, but the undesirable ones tend to be more open and outgoing for some strange reason........ but anyway, you can reject a person and not seem like a jerk, as long as you do it right,

For instance tell her you would rather be friends, that way if she gets pissed she'll seem like the perverted jerk who wanted just one thing, or she could accept your friendship and you would only have to exchange a little friendly convo", which would be better than the alternative

Yep, all this and more are in my player's handbook
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Sometimes being too nice to people is like feeling sorry for them.. i try that in 4th grade, at the end, from nice to rude. i felt sorry for that boy because hes lonely and all that stuff, so im being nice like, do you want this? here, i give you this... but at the end i went rude, because its getting annoying or tired of being nice, i was like ignoring him? but i noe that hurt him already... sigh* i would just like to act in a normal way..
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lolz, sounds like you were trying to tame a rabbit "do you want this?"oh well, 4th grade, you're forgiven! yeah, you can give your phone number to people telling them straight, you're only up to friendship, then again I don't wanna be friends with anybody.
Posted 3/22/07
Right after I got accepted into college, I was sporting my school jacket back in my hometown. A native New Yorker approached me while I was with four other guys and eventually asked for my number. I politely declined, completely taken off guard. She then asked if she could give me hers. In a round about way, I refused again. She insisted, so I took down her number. After she left, my buddies razzed me for weeks because of the absurdity of the situation.

The easiest way to turn down giving out your info is to explain that you don't give it out. Obviously if someone really wants to be in contact with you, they'll give you theirs, and you can choose whether or not to call them later. People will only be offended if they feel that it is personal. And even if they do get offended, I'm no silvertongue but I can still straighten out their feathers.

As for being nice, pick a side and take the consequences. Be kind because you have no other choice. Be a bastard if that is who you are. People are likable if they are themselves, problems occur when people aren't who they seem to be.
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I dunno if this is really a problem of niceness. Just gotta assert yourself more and think about numero uno. But i suppose try using less tact and see how it goes.
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Physically, one would not assume i'm a nice person, but I really am. I always stop and help old ladies walk across the street, but usually after I have pickpocketed them. I help stray kittens find a place to stay, normally behind the dumpster in chinatown.
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27 / M / North Carolina
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Posted 3/22/07

Eros wrote:

I dunno if this is really a problem of niceness. Just gotta assert yourself more and think about numero uno. But i suppose try using less tact and see how it goes.


ehh, I like my idea better, if I assert myself, I come off as a cruel jerk to the entire female population in my school, of course this is enough to ruin your aspects of dating at that paticular place
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