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Posted 3/23/07
Lately I've been curious about the social dynamics of online forums and other groups. There are a few areas that seem especially interesting.

- Are the same qualities that make people popular in real life also considered popular in online communities such as forums? (This is not to say that the same people are popular, but just that similar character traits - outgoing, funny, etc. are exhibited by both).

- Are the personality traits that attracted you to your online friends the same as those that attracted you to your real life friends?

- Do you find it easier to socialize online or off line? What makes the experience different (harder or easier)?

- Does the internet really allow you to 'be yourself' or do you find yourself putting on a persona/mask?

Just a few questions to explore the issue; might be interesting to see how people answer.
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Posted 3/23/07
I don't generally find it any harder/easier to express myself on the internet...I have no trouble socialising. Although its sometimes easier to get across your ideas while on the internet, but this is only because (unless your using an MSN style chat) you have time to plan and formulate ideas/answers, time you wouldn't have in a regular off-the-cuff conversation.
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1. people popular online arent always popular in real life and many have different personalities online like me ^^ in real life i'm like super nice and never say bad things but online i curse alot and stuff

2. Well no, persoanlity traits umm i never really care what personality my friends have

3. umm its the same for me socialising online and offline, its hard ^^

4. umm sumtimes the internet lets me be myself

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it's no different 'cept the person doesn't know what you look like or what your name is from the start.
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I look at the net more as a marketplace of ideas rather than as social hangout. Net 'friends' are people that may share common principles, ideas, etc. For all you guys know I could be a 400-pound pedophile, so one who is popular on the net may not necessarily be that social in the real world.
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Posted 3/23/07
1. I'm not popular anywhere ---- i'm simple, plain, and ordinary.
2. I don't really care about it that much; as long as these people shares the same interests as mine --- there'll be no problem.
3. I'm a person who's very comfortable at meeting and/or talking to people (both online and offline). Online has limitations though --- i don't give unnecessary personal info.
4. I can play both -- i can be real and i can be fake online. I can always guess if a person is geniune or not (it's basic human instinct). It doesn't bother anyone afterall.

~gotta hide now.
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People tend to not show who they truly are in the internet, not everyone but most people... Because in the internet you can be anyone who you want to be popular or not, although I suppose I find it easier to meet and greet people in the internet, but in real life you have to worry about how they would react... in the internet you read or see --- and if it's good then you live with it and move on, if it's bad delete it and get over it. But hey meeting new people in real life is always fun, I love meeting new people, even if I make a dork out of myself.
Posted 3/23/07
I'm probably more talkative online, simply because I don't have to gauge my listener's reactions and adjust accordingly. I'd say I'm about equally popular online and off, but that probably is due to the fact that I rock the geek section in both cases and am very laid back when I’m not busy. I get a decent amount of attention in the real world, but it takes a lot for me to move beyond shallow acquaintanceship, so people tend to get bored when I don’t immediately cling on to them.
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Posted 3/23/07
"I could be a 400-pound pedophile" -- One can only hope so!

I don't think about such things so shrug, and it would probably take an impartial observer to give an accurate account. But I like and agree with what pancake man & cbisram typed.
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^ Seconded.

gopherthegold wrote:
it takes a lot for me to move beyond shallow acquaintanceship, so people tend to get bored when I don’t immediately cling on to them.


Same here.
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Posted 3/23/07
Well I think it all depends on rather large number of variables. "Online" is a pretty big nebulus term. Online where?. A youtube celebrity? A popular forum poster? A popular blogger? A popular artist from someplace like Deviantart? The list could keep going. On top off that, a celebrity some place may be a nobody somewhere else very easily.

The internet allows a great (though not complete) deal of anonymity. So people can say and express themselves without significant regard of the repurcussions. In real life, we are very afraid of the repurcussions. These are people that, like it or not, we have to deal with on a regular basis. So many of us become a lot more guarded with what we say. Essentially, people - in general - tend to be more extroverted on the internet.

Also, our physical limitations don't always come into play. Nobody here really knows what anyone looks like unless the post a pic (and even then there is no gurantee).

I'm reminded of the statement "Tis better to reign in hell than serve in heaven." I think some people find an online environment less challenging or intimidating for whatever reason. Thats why you get myspace and cam whores, mildy attractive girls stripping on 4chan, etc. They can't compete in the real world so they resort to the online world for popularity.

Online popularity can be dictated by alot of things, though it heavily depends on the online enviroment we're talking about. But in the end alot of the same aspects make one popular online. Being an attractive female in a predominately male environemt tends to wonders. Contributions to online community in question. Conforming - or challenging - the status quo of the online community as well. Activity in general. Ability express yourelf. And to a large extent your personality, how you express yourself online.

I knew a guy who was a real live wire online. He was a coworker of mine so needless to say I saw him alot. He was a fellow hardcore anime geek and gamer, so I could relate to him more than most people. Now me, I'm a social person (thanks to my gay ass major I haven't had time for a life recently though). But I'm a heavy drinker and we don't tend to really give a damn and get along with most anyone. I hung out with him a fair amount, and when in a strictly geek environment, he was a lot of fun to hang out with. Very funny, witty, high energy etc. Take him outside of that environment and he was a dead fish. Wouldn't talk, awkward, downright mentally unstable at times to be honest. Online, and in private, he could express himself. Outside of his comfort zone he couldn't.

Basically the same things make one popular online as offline. There are really only two major differences - a leveled playing field where appearance isn't as much a factor and a freedom to express yourself. That's why certain people can be popular online, but not offline.
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Posted 3/23/07
i'll answer #3...
Yes, i say all i needa say in my mind during online, in real life, i kept my secrets and other important things private, otherwise gossip will be going on...

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Posted 3/23/07
For me...socializing either or doesnt matter...i can socialize either way....just that ppl dont seem to come up to me and talk to me much probably cause of my cold look. I do not talk a lot and therefore i tend to type alot since i dont need to talk. This topic u mention of course will vary on the individual. As always.

Either way...socializing with people is of no challenge to me. for me to approach ppl for a conversation or the other way around......tho it isnt for everyone....i find that online socializing with ppl all around the world is very different than socializing in real life that neither can be compared. Both take up a lot of time to build and gain status in as well, but one or the other is going to take over because its very difficult to maintain both with all the other activities.

Seriously....online i type alot or a little...but outside..i rarely talk at all. i can be the same online..
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Posted 3/24/07
IMO the forums are used as outlets more then socializing.

For me it’s more of an outlet.

I'm a shut in when I do go somewhere I evade having to talk with people. Those I end up taking to I try to assess them and what they are masking to improve their social image. Those that expose there true self I tend to get along with.

Forum users tend to show their true self and not the social mask they ware in public. Granted some forum users still ware a mask but this is not a social but an inner mask of their character.
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Posted 3/24/07
It's harder because I have to type.
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