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Posted 4/2/07
I think when she asked you if you would care if she dated someone, i think she wants to know if you really care for her. sometimes Girls would like to know by testing you guys if you care for them or not, and so they simply ask you questions that sometimes makes you wanna bang your head on the wall. and i dont find it prying.

I think she wants you to open up to her, say whats on your mind and what you really feel towards her. Every girl would like to have this feeling of "security". Feel secure and trust from someone is really important for us girls... and for anyone really.

But, unless she calls u all time and ask you where u were every 10 mins, i call that prying and stalking =P

Sounds like you're not ready to really open up urself to her, but as you get older youd change. I think you just need time. I sense you havent been together long ?
Posted 6/3/08
I dislike people prying information out of me when I really don`t want to say anything .
I also ask the question , " What gives you the right to know what I`m thinking ? "
I keep a lot of things to myself too . It`s just that my thoughts are my own and I think
no one else deserves to hear it unless I want them to . Then , there are times when I`m
really vexed and they`re still prying . I tell some random lie to get `em off my back .
Posted 6/3/08
what the f*ck, dude if your gonna sleep with another chick just do it, i do it all the time as long as my g/f doesn't find out, but then again she might be doing it herself?.....wanna share her?
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Hmm, sounds like she wanted to know more about your feelings towards her. It sounds like one of those roundabout ways to ask if you liked/loved her. That's probably why she didn't want to give up when you told her you didn't want to tell her. Sometimes girls get insecure and feel unloved, so they try to see what your feelings for them are in roundabout ways so they aren't asking straight out "Do you have feelings for me?" Because if they said that they'd probably feel more embarrassed than if it was something more roundabout that they could always explain away or something if you said you didn't care about them.

Though I do know the feeling. I had a friend that pried a bit too deep even though I told them not to and I ended up telling them that I liked him as more than a friend. After that things just kind of drifted apart, though we were really close friends so it was sad, sometimes I wonder if they had only not pried that much if we'd still be close friends.
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Posted 6/3/08
What a random thread to revive.

Anyways if you don't feel like telling people how you feel then don't. Every guy goes through this situation and majority of them feel like you do, but they answer anyways so that they don't lose the close relationship that they have.
Posted 6/3/08 , edited 6/3/08
Most girls are like that in that they need to know how you truly feel towards them, but they never ask directly. The fact that you didn't tell her the reason behind your answer just added more mystery to the situation and that's probably why she wouldn't leave you alone about it. But you are right, I feel that's completely disrespectful that she refuses to accept that you keep to yourself.

I hate when people pry. If I feel like telling somebody something then I will but most of the time I do keep my feelings and my thoughts to myself. I may be an outgoing person and all but not even my closest friends know alot about me or what's gone on in my life. And when they pry I just ask them "Is me not telling you my business a threat to your life?" "Will you die if I don't explain my thoughts and feelings to you?". They usually back off then.
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I've always disliked people who pry into other peoples business.

By nature, I am also some-what shy about how I feel about certain people in my life, and, as a result, I have a hard time showing and speaking about my emotions. Since I'm like this, my friends are almost always prying, and getting into my business. Even though I love my friends and I know they mean well, their habit of prying really annoys me. I have told them how I feel about their prying, but, somehow, they don't seem to realize that it really pisses me off when they're constantly asking me things like "How much do you like (insert name here)" and "Why won't you go out with (insert name here)".

ANYWAY.... I think this girl probably wanted to know how much you care for her. Being a girl myself, I know that us girls often use "indirect questioning" as a method to find out how much someone really cares about us. I know, it can be bothersome, but I don't think she really meant to pry. If she meant to pry, you would be getting thousands of e-mails and phone calls from her asking you why you would be upset if she dated someone else.

To tell the truth, I don't really think anyone has the right to pry into someone's life and mind at any time. I believe that everyone deserves to have their privacy when they need it. And yes, I'm speaking from experience.
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Posted 6/3/08
prying gets on ppl's nerves
but to the person who is asking the questions, the questions seem quite innocent that they don't feel that they are forcing you to say something
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Posted 6/3/08

bellus-vae wrote:

I think when she asked you if you would care if she dated someone, i think she wants to know if you really care for her. sometimes Girls would like to know by testing you guys if you care for them or not, and so they simply ask you questions that sometimes makes you wanna bang your head on the wall. and i dont find it prying.

I think she wants you to open up to her, say whats on your mind and what you really feel towards her. Every girl would like to have this feeling of "security". Feel secure and trust from someone is really important for us girls... and for anyone really.

But, unless she calls u all time and ask you where u were every 10 mins, i call that prying and stalking =P

Sounds like you're not ready to really open up urself to her, but as you get older youd change. I think you just need time. I sense you havent been together long ?


very true, girls in my school does that, she would go tell the guy that she likes that she likes another guy...actually the girl was lying to get the guys attention if he really likes her or not.
Posted 6/3/08
No it's not really prying; Still it's a troublesome situation; At least for your side.
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This topic is getting off topic. I'll report all the useless comments.

Jorl: People do have no rights to pry into someone else's life. I personally believe parents do to their children though, for they are the people who have worked hard to give birth, and they should be the ones to learn their child's problems and take care of them. Otherwise, no way. One's life should not be revealed unless there is a bond between the two... parent and child; marriage.
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Posted 6/3/08
girls believe they have a God-given right to pry(most of them anyway).It's very frustrating.
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Posted 6/3/08
*bump*
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Posted 6/3/08
it's okay i'm like you in that way. i've always been closed so i really can't stand the
'prying" and think it is like more of a thing that is earned and respected, not forced
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