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"No Offence"
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Posted 9/29/08 , edited 9/29/08
well, ppl say that 'cause they want their opinion to be heard. sometimes it's a bad and insulting opinion.
but maybe you got the wrong impression and your friend meant that asians in specific country are weird. you said that you're asian but in your profile you wrote that you live in canada. anyway, if it really hurts you then you need to tell her.
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Posted 9/29/08

Nakapagpabagabag wrote:

It's a way to gesture politeness. If you think that it's still offensive, then the problem is you yourself.
They're already slowing things down, yet you still think that it's advisable to act like a nuisance with the current conversation.
It's called being Ignorant.


agreed

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cookiekawaii6 wrote:

well, ppl say that 'cause they want their opinion to be heard. sometimes it's a bad and insulting opinion.
but maybe you got the wrong impression and your friend meant that asians in specific country are weird. you said that you're asian but in your profile you wrote that you're from canada. anyway, if it really hurts you then you need to tell her.


I would actually agree with you on that.

The fact of the matter is, there are social rules that restrict the way we behave or express ourselves, at least through social surveillance. Still, we are generally encouraged to speak our minds and to break the barriers that define socially taboo topics. In some cases, saying "No offense" to a possibly offensive statement, but perhaps the speaker means to say it in a purely objective way. That doesn't necessitate an emotional outburst.

However, I'm also of the humble opinion that it depends on intonation. Someone can smile sweetly while cursing you to the bone, whereas some people show affection for each other by using profanities in an affectionate tone (take my friends who call their siblings horrid names in a loving manner). Intonation plays a big part in the evaluation of what was spoken.

And, as cookiekawaii6 has pointed out, if you are offended by what was said in spite of the "no offense" contingency plan, just state your opinion in a civil manner. Besides, one will always come across people who are somewhat ignorant in their exclamations. It's just a matter of how much tolerance you have for them.
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Posted 9/29/08
No offence, but i just offended you.
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Posted 9/29/08
yeah it annoys the hell outa me and iwanna slap him in the face one of these days i really am
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Posted 9/29/08

reiDES wrote:

If it's sarcasm. Probably it'll irritate me.


agree...
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32 / F / Denver
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"No offence, but you look retarded with that haircut."

Yeah it bugs the shit out of me. OBVIOUSLY I'm going to be offended by your asshole comment, so if you don't want to offend me, keep your damn mouth shut, asshole!!!!
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Posted 9/29/08
when people say 'no offence',i don't even know if they mean it or they are trying to tell you something
Posted 9/29/08
for me its an annoying term used for reversed psychology... haha... or sarcasm...
Posted 9/29/08
lul. I don't think I ever said "no offence" while stating an opinion.
I just say what it is.

For example:
person: "I get angry easily."
me: "Then, deal with it."


me: "Hey... you want that?"
person: "I do."
me: "Then, do something."
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Posted 9/29/08

Solid-Wolf wrote:

No offence, but i just offended you.


What he said.
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Posted 9/29/08

Kokoflop wrote:


cookiekawaii6 wrote:

well, ppl say that 'cause they want their opinion to be heard. sometimes it's a bad and insulting opinion.
but maybe you got the wrong impression and your friend meant that asians in specific country are weird. you said that you're asian but in your profile you wrote that you're from canada. anyway, if it really hurts you then you need to tell her.


I would actually agree with you on that.

The fact of the matter is, there are social rules that restrict the way we behave or express ourselves, at least through social surveillance. Still, we are generally encouraged to speak our minds and to break the barriers that define socially taboo topics. In some cases, saying "No offense" to a possibly offensive statement, but perhaps the speaker means to say it in a purely objective way. That doesn't necessitate an emotional outburst.

However, I'm also of the humble opinion that it depends on intonation. Someone can smile sweetly while cursing you to the bone, whereas some people show affection for each other by using profanities in an affectionate tone (take my friends who call their siblings horrid names in a loving manner). Intonation plays a big part in the evaluation of what was spoken.

And, as cookiekawaii6 has pointed out, if you are offended by what was said in spite of the "no offense" contingency plan, just state your opinion in a civil manner. Besides, one will always come across people who are somewhat ignorant in their exclamations. It's just a matter of how much tolerance you have for them.



wow you have an excellent english!
"Someone can smile sweetly while cursing you to the bone" you're right about that. once my uncle told me that it's ok, only if you're polite. like when you come across acquaintance and even if you hate him/her, you have to say hallo to be polite.
"some people show affection for each other by using profanities in an affectionate tone"
you're right about that too. i remember when i was a kid i used to offend my best friend a lot, but actually i really care about her. kinda weird huh?
Posted 9/29/08
When i say no offense , i know it probably offends them anyway , but sometimes there`s just nothing else to use...

and other times , i just love offending `em.
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Posted 9/29/08

cookiekawaii6 wrote:

[i remember when i was a kid i used to offend my best friend a lot, but actually i really care about her. kinda weird huh?


Hmm, I believe a lecturer of mine once mentioned that under the topic of different love languages--as in, the different ways people show affection. I happen to tease my friends as well the more comfortable I am around them.
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Posted 9/29/08
no offense but i'm fond of using that phrase everytime i'm in sarcastic mode. lol
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