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Posted 12/1/07
Well, I'm really not sure what I am...but if you've come out already, what was it like?
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Posted 12/2/07
Well I've had a few different experiences. If I tell someone on-line I just treat it matter of factly and move on.

The first time I told someone IRL he went quiet for a second, then said "oh" and started asking me lots of questions.
The second time I told someone IRL ... I think he failed to understand actually.

When considering the moment I felt nervous and slightly nauseous... but when it actually happened it was a spur of the moment thing, and I didn't have time to wonder about it. When I actually said it I felt a moment of freedom... like nothing I did could affect what happened next. And when I was accepted I felt a rush of happiness and ... acceptance. I've always felt closer to the people that I've told as well.

As far as I’m concerned coming out isn’t a one time deal but will keep happening for the rest of my life…
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Hey, I just joined this group... and I noticed this thread wasn't getting much attention.. T_T

Anyway, the first time I came out to a friend I did it online. I prepped her with a "I have something to tell you", but it seriously took like ten minutes for me to finally come out to her. I was just so nervous and stressed, I literally left the computer and paced around the house, thinking up all these scenarios and whatnot. But after that she was fine with it, and it was tremendously liberating.

I came out to the next person at school during our choir class. It's funny because I would tell her that I wanted to talk before class started, but I'd always wait until right before the bell rang (I think it was a subconscious thing), so we'd never get to talk. This went on for about a week until I pulled her aside one day before class started and after several minutes of stalling, I finally told her. She gave me a really big hug after that, and we became closer because of it too.

I would have to agree with Tyrfing that it's an unending process. The first few times are a pain in the butt, and totally scary, but I've gotten used to it. I've gotten to the point where if someone incorrectly assumes I'm straight, I can easily inform them with "actually, I like guys".
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Posted 12/9/07
wow... maybe since there ain't alot of people here...
no one really seems to reply....

sooo.. i'll just go =D

anywhos, first person i came out to, i came out as bi
(which, i'm so far off bi, is not even funny... lol)
took me a month of telling her to finally believe me...
she was awkard with me for a couple months
but now she's one of the best friends i've ever had

other times coming out has been received well
with a couple of exceptions
but what can u do?

but yeah now i can tell anyone i'm a lesbian without being nervous and all
(except for family... lol... that... i havent told them but only one cousin and she was cool about it )
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Posted 12/13/07

northstar616 wrote:

Hey, I just joined this group... and I noticed this thread wasn't getting much attention.. T_T


It seems that no one has anything to say.

Thank you guys for sharing, I'm glad you've mostly had good experiences.

Every time I get ready for a fight... It's a relief when I don't get one but It's a little anticlimactic I must admit.
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well i never really came out to anyone one the net really. but when i came out to my freinds it was a little amusing we'd just finished school for the day (6th form/ college) and went to the pub weatherspoons we where there for ages and i just couldnt get round to telling them so i thought i have a few to build up the currage, well a few hours later we are still in weatherspons drinkin eatin warm blueberry muffins and i told them then they took it rather well i thought then they started on the jokes but they didnt mind, it turned out the next day we went into school thyd all forgotten anyway so i ended uphavin to tell them again lol everyone took it well though except the family oh well thell come around im sure
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Posted 12/14/07
Parents... that's something that's in the future for me... I'm sure they'd be ok with it. They just have to be right? But I don't want to risk it just yet.

Though knowing the way that parent's work they probably know already. :lol:
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oh god... telling my parents... that's the most terrifying thing I've ever done... No they don't accept me for who I am but they love me regardless... There was a lot of yelling and tears when I told them. Now we don't talk about it. When I told my friends they totally freaked out... I was alienated my whole 6th and 7th grade year. In 8th grade more people started comming out and I didn't feel as alone anymore. Now, I'm a Sophmore in high school and I'm out and proud! My friends love me for who and what I am. Even if they didn't, I'm not ganna change for anyone.
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shit man the same thing happened to me but so freinds where ok acctualy which i thoght was a little odd cause i went to an all boys roman catholic school, lol (not as bad as it sounds it had its perks ) my family just dont talk about it either they think ill come round and see some sorta light or somethin lol
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Posted 12/14/07

Amane-sempai wrote:

oh god... telling my parents... that's the most terrifying thing I've ever done...


Oh. Way to encourage everyone.


luciusevaune wrote:

i went to an all boys roman catholic school, lol (not as bad as it sounds it had its perks

I can imagine


luciusevaune wrote:

) my family just dont talk about it either they think ill come round and see some sorta light or somethin lol


...I though you already did. ^_~

I'm surprised that everyone discovered so young... in retrospect I could have realised about the time I was 8... but I must have been stupid as a child.
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Posted 12/14/07
Ugh. No way am I ever telling my parents. Just... no. Maybe once I'm either in college or done with it.

I'm actually not that close with the first few people I came out to, but that was almost three years ago. Now I've got new friends who are more comfortable with who I am.
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Posted 12/15/07

northstar616 wrote:

Ugh. No way am I ever telling my parents. Just... no. Maybe once I'm either in college or done with it.


That's what I was thinking, don't risk alienating the people you have to rely on until you don't have to anymore.
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Posted 12/31/07
it wasn't a big deal for me haha I think they new already knew
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Well, i don't know if I'm straight, bi or lesbian... leaves me wonder why I'm posting here... However, it was interesting reading your posts!
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my god you guys come out in your ealy teens?! i stell havent come out to ether my mom or dad and my moms a lesbian.
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