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Posted 2/23/08
Well I live with my grandmother...she was sorta like "it's not what i wld want 4u but if it makes u happy..."
Mom says the whole "i love you no matter what" thing but i know she has a real problem with it
Step-dad's a preacher...barely even talks to me now...and when he does its negative... :-( fuck him
Dad's AMAZING!! he even goes places with me and my gf! he took us to a mardi gras parade once
and even picked up our indigo girls tickets so we could walk to where they were performing!!
i LOVE my dad!
My step-mom's really cool too!
i love her to DEATH!!
siblings...i hav a LOT of them...nd i dont really know...
nobody else was surprised tho...and i didnt lose any friends over it :-)
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when i came out, i felt ahuge burden off of my shoulders, after that i was so relaxed, i felt good bout myself too
Posted 2/24/08
For me it felt like a large weight was lifted from my shoulders. Yet everyone will receive different reactions upon coming out. There are actually a lot of gays in my family. My mom's brother and a couple of my second cousins.
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I had a hard time telling my friends that I was Bi but after telling them I felt really great and so much weight was lifted and now I feel great but my family don't know ahahhaha someday when I have a BF first
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coming out.... phew... :sweatingbullets:
it was a load off.... but my friends made fun of me all the time. and they werent even clever. "haha jimmy sucks cock now." those were veryhard times.... but it was better than keeping it inside....
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It was not bad... (not good either)... my dad thinks gays of any kind are pathetic and psyche... and need treatment; so he chose to ignore it.. my mom is just fine because she knows it's just being "me"... All my friends are supportive and I'm part of school's LGBT group... and I live in MA (cool state for all kinds of sexual orientations)
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Well, I turned out to be a gay to people when I was in high school. I thought I had hard time to tell my family about who was I but they already knew that!!!

My mama said, "Oh finally. You opened your mind! I'm proud of you, my Little Master." What, she knew? How? She mentioned that she knew because she noticed what I played with the girls all the times.

My papa said, "Dang, I lost a bet! Your mother always is right. Damn. By the way, I don't care what you are but I love you no matter what. Be pride, son!" OMG! He made a bet with my mama!!! What a shocking.

My brother said, "I know. Mom told me that before!" and my sister said, "Yeah, we know that." How? They mumbled to my mama about why I acted like a girl. She explained it to them before I told them! Shoot!

My family is very weird because they used to talk about it in the front of me but I couldn't hear at all!!! Yes, I am deaf. I'm surprised that but I am glad they accepted me who I am! =D
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all of these stories are awesome (well the ones that end up good)! like for me as my friend angela said, it just makes more sense. parents...hmmm that can always be tricky (they already had discussions about me and one of my brothers already thought i was gay, but i had to be weirder and am tg on my way to be ts, anyways why couldn't they have told me?)
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The first time I came out and admitted I was bisexual, was when I told one of my school friends online. I basically just blurted it out to her. I was so nervous though, but I thought that if she didn't accept me then she wasn't a friend. But, when I told her she was like, "I still love you". After she said that I didn't really believe her, so I told her that she doesn't have to bother with me. But, she reassured me that she was still my friend and my sister.

Even with my other best friend I haven't told her. Both of my girl "friends" are straight but only one knows and the other. Will she doesn't like it I don't think. I once let myself go and she looked at me disgusted.

I haven't told my mother or my brothers yet. I'm terrified, I think I'll tell them when I move to a different house or something. It's really hard to admit my sexual orientation to my family though. I mean one of my cousins I believe is a lesbian. My mom was talking about her and said what she was, was disgusting. That really hurt me and made me afraid for myself. My brothers aren't very nice when it comes to homosexuals. Since I am bi, it's still hard to tell them the truth. It sucks to be raised in a judgemental family.
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Posted 3/16/08
my dad is too oblivious to the fact and chooses to ignore it.
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Jrockerlust26 wrote:

The first time I came out and admitted I was bisexual, was when I told one of my school friends online. I basically just blurted it out to her. I was so nervous though, but I thought that if she didn't accept me then she wasn't a friend. But, when I told her she was like, "I still love you". After she said that I didn't really believe her, so I told her that she doesn't have to bother with me. But, she reassured me that she was still my friend and my sister.

Even with my other best friend I haven't told her. Both of my girl "friends" are straight but only one knows and the other. Will she doesn't like it I don't think. I once let myself go and she looked at me disgusted.

I haven't told my mother or my brothers yet. I'm terrified, I think I'll tell them when I move to a different house or something. It's really hard to admit my sexual orientation to my family though. I mean one of my cousins I believe is a lesbian. My mom was talking about her and said what she was, was disgusting. That really hurt me and made me afraid for myself. My brothers aren't very nice when it comes to homosexuals. Since I am bi, it's still hard to tell them the truth. It sucks to be raised in a judgemental family.


Wow, I understand how you feel. It's hard thing to do for your family and your own good. By the way, your family is like horrible people who disgusts with your sexual orientation but they don't know that yet. What will you do if they flunk out when they hear three important words? ("I am gay", "I am bisexual", or "I am lesbian") Those words have a lot describes. I hope you are enough brave to open mind to your family and friends. Good Luck!! ^_^
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Posted 3/18/08

VirAnimus wrote:


Jrockerlust26 wrote:

The first time I came out and admitted I was bisexual, was when I told one of my school friends online. I basically just blurted it out to her. I was so nervous though, but I thought that if she didn't accept me then she wasn't a friend. But, when I told her she was like, "I still love you". After she said that I didn't really believe her, so I told her that she doesn't have to bother with me. But, she reassured me that she was still my friend and my sister.

Even with my other best friend I haven't told her. Both of my girl "friends" are straight but only one knows and the other. Will she doesn't like it I don't think. I once let myself go and she looked at me disgusted.

I haven't told my mother or my brothers yet. I'm terrified, I think I'll tell them when I move to a different house or something. It's really hard to admit my sexual orientation to my family though. I mean one of my cousins I believe is a lesbian. My mom was talking about her and said what she was, was disgusting. That really hurt me and made me afraid for myself. My brothers aren't very nice when it comes to homosexuals. Since I am bi, it's still hard to tell them the truth. It sucks to be raised in a judgemental family.


Wow, I understand how you feel. It's hard thing to do for your family and your own good. By the way, your family is like horrible people who disgusts with your sexual orientation but they don't know that yet. What will you do if they flunk out when they hear three important words? ("I am gay", "I am bisexual", or "I am lesbian") Those words have a lot describes. I hope you are enough brave to open mind to your family and friends. Good Luck!! ^_^


Thank ya. I hope that I have courage to do it soon.
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I lost a few friends after coming out to them, it was much harder than I thought it would be. My Parents I found to be much easier, they appreciated how I felt and were happy I guess that im not completely gay.
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Posted 3/27/08
kind of scary depending who you're telling...
Once its out there to the person/group it's whatevs.
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This might be long, sorry in advance:

I had a very positive coming out experience, fortunately. The hardest part was coming out to myself and finally accepting I was "not straight". Yes, I took the bisexual stepping stone, because at the time I felt I was bisexual, or undefined as I called it at the time. It took me a couple of years after dealing with my bisexuality and being with my now-wife that I accepted I was gay.

It truly was the most liberating experience of my life and probably the most important time in my life, and it proceeds my wedding I had in June with my partner.

It was an October night and my two best friends and I were walking around the city and it hit me and I bawled to my best guy friend in the world. I had struggled with it for years and I would pray and pray to have the feelings go away and they never did. I was always looking for a way for it to disappear, but that night, I still can't put it into words but I finally accepted it.

I told my closest friends first other than my best friend in the world because she was very homophobic and probably the reason it took me so long to handle it. I also fell in love with her, that didn't help. But, when I started courting my now-wife, I decided to come out to my close group of friends who are like a second family to me. My friend Joe had one of the best reactions when I told him, "Cool, we can go scope chicks together". It was a "Joe" reaction and at that moment I knew everything was going to be okay. I also received a lot of, "I thought you could be's" or "It doesn't surprise me one way or the other."

It took me a little longer to come out to my step-mom and dad, but my step-mom is more of a mother than my biological mother is. About a year ago we were talking and she admitted that she knew I was in high school and it didn't bother her one bit. I was actually scared of her reaction but she said she's always had gay friends in her life and she really didn't care. Overall, my family seems to be very supportive of my relationship with my wife.

My advice is, do it. It's scary, it's hard but you shouldn't deny who you are. I understand certain parts of the world you can't or there are major concequences, so do it if you can. The hardest part is accepting it within yourself and if you can be comfortable with it, than those around you can. My best friend actually came around this year and is truly wonderful now and gets along beautifully with my wife.
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