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What if marital problems arise? Divorce or separation is not the solution. The husband and the wife should put aside their differences, and let God’s will prevail and be the guideline and the foundation of their marital relationship, their “common ground.”

Others may argue that they are already divorced and, therefore, free from any marital responsibility and can remarry according to the laws of a particular country. God, however, declares:

“’I hate divorce’, says the LORD God of Israel. ‘I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife’.” (Mal. 2:16, Today’s English Version)

This is why for the true people of God, His law reigns definite and supreme – that man should not separate those who have been joined together by Him.

This law of God does not just apply to the kind of marriage that people commonly understand. As mentioned, there is a deeper truth to be learned concerning the marriage bond.
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Posted 10/18/08
Amen. Theres more you could add to it, but you hit the nail on the head.
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Posted 10/18/08
You are correct, Sir. God does hate divorce.
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neowoofer_animelover wrote:

What if marital problems arise? Divorce or separation is not the solution. The husband and the wife should put aside their differences, and let God’s will prevail and be the guideline and the foundation of their marital relationship, their “common ground.”



You are correct but, how about a non believing parter? I know what writing of Paul are for this. But I want some one else to answer this. Any one want to put fort what he had to say on this?
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Amen to that! "To death do us part" isn't a committment that's meant to be taken lightly!
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Yeah but there is nothing worse than a loveless marriage- you cannot make yourself fall in love again, and you would actually have people who are being beaten by their husband be forced to just put up with it (because god isnt going to stop it he tends to overlook such things), surely in some circumstances a divorce is by far the best option. Dont just write it off.
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God definitely despises divorce, but in the Bible, Jesus does make an exception to those that have marital problems due to adultery.
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Surely, God hates divorce.... so we should choose our partner wisely, should'nt we? I mean....things could happen... But I believe God have the best in store for us ^___^....
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well actually, marriage unites two people as one through Him, so he clearly doesn't like divorce at all.
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Ratman21 wrote:


neowoofer_animelover wrote:

What if marital problems arise? Divorce or separation is not the solution. The husband and the wife should put aside their differences, and let God’s will prevail and be the guideline and the foundation of their marital relationship, their “common ground.”



You are correct but, how about a non believing parter? I know what writing of Paul are for this. But I want some one else to answer this. Any one want to put fort what he had to say on this?


In 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, Paul says: "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"

This is actually the first time I've read this verse, so I may not be the best at interpreting this, but here's what I think Paul was trying to say. When we get saved and accept Jesus as our savior, God will only allow us to see enough of the road ahead of us to see the next turn in front of us, but still rely on Him. As one of the teachers here at Liberty said, "The moment I know
every part of God's will for my life is the moment I stop talking to Him." Maybe the reason God caused us to marry this person is because He wants us to be the one to lead him/her to Christ. As Paul explained, the unbeliever has been made clean before God because of the believer's relationship with the Lord. Far be it from us, the body of Christ, to act outside the will of the Head of the body, God. "'For My throughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways,' declares the Lord. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts higher than your thoughts.'" (Isaiah 55:8-9)

However, if the unbeliever is the one who leaves, God says let them. Unbelievers act outside the will of God and, as humans, we do not have the final jurisdiction over their lives, the Lord does. Therefore, if they decide that they've had enough, we don't have the right to chase after them because we simply disagree with their decision. Instead we have to stop and listen to what God's will is, so that we may continue to glorify Him in everything we do. Part of our purpose on this earth is to be the light of the world, shining God's glory and love to the darkest places, but doing so in a humble manner, so that when the unbelievers see His glory through us, instead of taking the credit ourselves for the work of the Holy Spirit, we say "Not to us, O Lord, not to us but to Your name be the glory, because of Your love and faithfulness." (Psalms 115:1) In all honesty, what makes our God so much different than other gods or idols is that we never had to do this or that to gain His love because His love for us was unconditional. If you want an example of this, read Hosea, where the prophet Hosea married a prostitute named Gomer. Gomer cheated on Hosea on a regular basis and even refused to acknowledge her husband and her children just so she could continue her life of prostitution, but when Hosea consulted the Lord about what to do, He said, "Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes." (Hosea 3:1)


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Yeah but there is nothing worse than a loveless marriage- you cannot make yourself fall in love again, and you would actually have people who are being beaten by their husband be forced to just put up with it (because god isnt going to stop it he tends to overlook such things), surely in some circumstances a divorce is by far the best option. Dont just write it off.


I've never been married, so I can't fully speak about it, but I can say this much. Marriage is more than just the union of a man and a woman, it is a covenant before God that the man and woman involved will stay committed to each other no matter what. Should this covenant be broken, the two have sinned before the Lord. True marriage must involve three people: the man, the woman, and the Lord, whom both man and woman constantly seek to worship through their lives. That's why we have to make sure that if we marry someone, we know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the person that God wants us to marry, because if we marry the wrong person, it becomes our duty to stay committed to them.

You see, as Christians, we've made an incredibly poor decision in letting the world define what love truly is. Love is not a feeling. Love is a VERB. Love is an action. Because people have turned love into a feeling, many marriages and relationships end after a short period of time because the initial sparks have died away. Whenever you begin a relationship or a marriage, there are the initial sparks, but after a few days, weeks, months or years, those sparks will die. That's when, as a believer, you have two choices: 1. Leave them behind because you no longer get the butterflies in your stomach whenever you're around them. 2. Stay with them and continue to love them. No matter what Hollywood or this culture tells you, NO HUMAN BEING WILL EVER COMPLETE YOU. If you look to another person to complete you, you will be let down time and time again. Completion comes only through having Jesus Christ as the center of your life. There will be times when you won't feel as passionate about your partner, but that's when, as another teacher I had said, you have to work at loving them.
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darklion wrote:


Ratman21 wrote:


neowoofer_animelover wrote:

What if marital problems arise? Divorce or separation is not the solution. The husband and the wife should put aside their differences, and let God’s will prevail and be the guideline and the foundation of their marital relationship, their “common ground.”



You are correct but, how about a non believing parter? I know what writing of Paul are for this. But I want some one else to answer this. Any one want to put fort what he had to say on this?


In 1 Corinthians 7:10-16, Paul says: "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"

This is actually the first time I've read this verse, so I may not be the best at interpreting this, but here's what I think Paul was trying to say. When we get saved and accept Jesus as our savior, God will only allow us to see enough of the road ahead of us to see the next turn in front of us, but still rely on Him. As one of the teachers here at Liberty said, "The moment I know
every part of God's will for my life is the moment I stop talking to Him." Maybe the reason God caused us to marry this person is because He wants us to be the one to lead him/her to Christ. As Paul explained, the unbeliever has been made clean before God because of the believer's relationship with the Lord. Far be it from us, the body of Christ, to act outside the will of the Head of the body, God. "'For My throughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways,' declares the Lord. 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts higher than your thoughts.'" (Isaiah 55:8-9)

However, if the unbeliever is the one who leaves, God says let them. Unbelievers act outside the will of God and, as humans, we do not have the final jurisdiction over their lives, the Lord does. Therefore, if they decide that they've had enough, we don't have the right to chase after them because we simply disagree with their decision. Instead we have to stop and listen to what God's will is, so that we may continue to glorify Him in everything we do. Part of our purpose on this earth is to be the light of the world, shining God's glory and love to the darkest places, but doing so in a humble manner, so that when the unbelievers see His glory through us, instead of taking the credit ourselves for the work of the Holy Spirit, we say "Not to us, O Lord, not to us but to Your name be the glory, because of Your love and faithfulness." (Psalms 115:1) In all honesty, what makes our God so much different than other gods or idols is that we never had to do this or that to gain His love because His love for us was unconditional. If you want an example of this, read Hosea, where the prophet Hosea married a prostitute named Gomer. Gomer cheated on Hosea on a regular basis and even refused to acknowledge her husband and her children just so she could continue her life of prostitution, but when Hosea consulted the Lord about what to do, He said, "Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes." (Hosea 3:1)


Stickmania wrote:

Yeah but there is nothing worse than a loveless marriage- you cannot make yourself fall in love again, and you would actually have people who are being beaten by their husband be forced to just put up with it (because god isnt going to stop it he tends to overlook such things), surely in some circumstances a divorce is by far the best option. Dont just write it off.


I've never been married, so I can't fully speak about it, but I can say this much. Marriage is more than just the union of a man and a woman, it is a covenant before God that the man and woman involved will stay committed to each other no matter what. Should this covenant be broken, the two have sinned before the Lord. True marriage must involve three people: the man, the woman, and the Lord, whom both man and woman constantly seek to worship through their lives. That's why we have to make sure that if we marry someone, we know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the person that God wants us to marry, because if we marry the wrong person, it becomes our duty to stay committed to them.

You see, as Christians, we've made an incredibly poor decision in letting the world define what love truly is. Love is not a feeling. Love is a VERB. Love is an action. Because people have turned love into a feeling, many marriages and relationships end after a short period of time because the initial sparks have died away. Whenever you begin a relationship or a marriage, there are the initial sparks, but after a few days, weeks, months or years, those sparks will die. That's when, as a believer, you have two choices: 1. Leave them behind because you no longer get the butterflies in your stomach whenever you're around them. 2. Stay with them and continue to love them. No matter what Hollywood or this culture tells you, NO HUMAN BEING WILL EVER COMPLETE YOU. If you look to another person to complete you, you will be let down time and time again. Completion comes only through having Jesus Christ as the center of your life. There will be times when you won't feel as passionate about your partner, but that's when, as another teacher I had said, you have to work at loving them.


Very deep and detailed...
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Ratman21 wrote:


neowoofer_animelover wrote:

What if marital problems arise? Divorce or separation is not the solution. The husband and the wife should put aside their differences, and let God’s will prevail and be the guideline and the foundation of their marital relationship, their “common ground.”



You are correct but, how about a non believing parter? I know what writing of Paul are for this. But I want some one else to answer this. Any one want to put fort what he had to say on this?


Yupperz. That's what I'm wondering. Like my friend, he thinks he's dating this girl. "Thinks". Anyway, we heard she was a non. (Non-Christian) We were all shocked and yeah. So I'm just saying, what if you truely love the man (Or guy), and you're hoping so much to change his heart, what would we do? Will God change his heart, or will he keep it cold? I'm just wondering... But I shouldn't be to curious, but I'm preparing for the future... so yeah....
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God does hate divorce. But there are exceptions. ( in my opinion) Abuse is defitnly one. Some spouses don't start the abuse until after the marriage. (watch an episode of Snapped) People in my opinion are too quick to jump into marriage and don't realize what they're getting into.
Divorce not only destorys the relationship between the husband and wife butthe kids, the kids and dad, the kids and mom and so now. Adultery can be forgive and forgetten. You can work though it,...the first few times. People just aren't willy to take the time out and spend time with their spouse nowdays. It seems everyone is too force o nthemeselves and not on each other or even God. God will always lead you the right way.
Sorry,...this a big subject to me.
Okay if God hates divorce does he hate 'fake marriages' too?


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