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Do you want to get married? Are you single by choice [read first post]
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24 / M / O.C. So.Cal
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Posted 11/2/08
kinda but not really...im kinda...selective
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27 / M
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Posted 11/2/08
i told my mum tat there a possibility tat i wouldnt get married in the future and she seem ok wit it

anyways sometime i think that the gals i like are somehow too good for me ... oh well still single
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24 / bOx
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Posted 11/2/08
i am single in God's grace..
huhuhuhuh
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25 / F
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Posted 11/3/08
Well, you're talking about MARRIAGE, I mean... being single is one thing, but if you're NOT single, it doesn't mean you're married either, so... what are you talking about marriage for?

Regardless, I'm single by choice... for now.
I'm not a big fan of my town let alone the guys here... I'm not grouping them all into the same category, by any means... but the guys here, in general, are pretty disgusting.

So, yeah, until I get the hell out of here, I'm single by choice.
Then maybe I'll actually think about dating.
Posted 11/3/08
Yes , am : )
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23 / M / canada
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Posted 11/3/08
atm i can say marriage will tie u down but idk wat happens wen im in deep love(world explodes?)
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23 / F / CALIFORN-I-A
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Posted 11/3/08
well, i'm not sure i should participate in this since i'm nowhere near the marrying age, but i'll give it a shot anyway.
i'm fifteen and i've never thought of getting married or having kids. i'm sure that's not highly unusual for someone my age, but people think i have some sort of.. "odd behavior". i guess i'm too much of an introvert to care, but i would very much like to live alone. i see getting married to someone as tying me down in the future because, no matter what, you have to think about your significant other and what they want. however, if you live alone, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want.
i'd say i have a lot of habits and quirks in my daily routine. i don't like it when people touch my things, so it's pretty hard to live with someone. when i drop stuff all over the floor, i remember where things are and how they are organized, so i hate it when my family members pick it up and put it away. i suppose getting married to someone would make that complicated for me.
most people my age have already dated many... many people, which i do find strange, since i think we're still too young to date, seeing how most of us can't even cook for ourselves.
so, as a fifteen year old, i'd say i'm single by choice, and definitely enjoying it.
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25 / M / B pattern highlands
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Posted 11/4/08
i think there's nothing wrong with what u think .....still i'm sure u'll change ur mind with time ....ffamily is something nice beautifull u should not take too long to figure that it's circle of life u r not obligated to get married it's just nice to have a family thats what i think ..and yea i'm single by choice i just think there's things i have to do on my own before i get married ..alot of things
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Posted 11/4/08
Whoa you're 19 and your parents are worried you'll get left on the shelf or something? That's kinda scary. You're still young!

By "shrink" you mean psychologist or counselor right? Actually I agree with what the person is asking you to do. Go out and party more and have more fun and meet people in the process. It doesn't necessarily mean you need to get someone immediately. Its just so you can interact with more people and understand what you like better. If you happen to meet someone you love and want to get together with him it satisfies your parents goals, but that isn't the main issue. Why stop yourself from going out and having fun just because on the sidelines it might fulfill what your parents want for you?

As for the question posed am I single by choice? I'd like to think I am, but its complicated. I can't get the girl I want and don't want to just randomly look for a girl. Its not getting into a relationship that's important for me; its the someone I am actually in love with. Does that count as being single by choice then?
Posted 11/5/08
Wow. well... i refuse to get married unless i find
my 'soulmate' or whatever you prefer to call it
and if i never find that person then i wont get
married.

i agree with everything 'cardmage' said.

as for me im single right now because
of certain events in my life that have
made my mentality towards relationships
very negative and fucked up. lol.
i dont know if i would call that by choice
because i still think it would be nice
if i went back to having a normal mentality
(whatever normal is lol) and be able to
find someone to have fun with etc...


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27 / Outer Heaven
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Posted 11/5/08
SIngle life rules. =C
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26 / M / take a surmise
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Posted 11/5/08
i didnt read as well.
but im single, 70% by choice.
a part of me wants to enter a relationship but current circumstances wont let me xD
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33 / F / Silang, Cavite Ph...
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Posted 11/6/08
to answer the question, nope! just by circumstances! lol....
i was once an NBSB (No bf since birth) it took me 23 long years to find my first true love.
And I had high hopes and expectations from my first relationship, it turned out to be just a dream that will
never be a reality. I was hoping the person would be worth the wait and that he'll even appreciate the fact that I waited that long even though I can get away with it. I'm not gonna say I don't believe in love or in marriage anymore, but I would never expect too much from it ever again. And as I see myself now, I think I'm going on a single way of life. I mean I feel like I'm running out of time, so much to do so little time.
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35 / F / Grand Rapids, MI
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Posted 11/6/08 , edited 11/6/08

fransyung wrote:
good answer. ^^ thanks. how long would you wait? until you're 30? or is it okay to wait longer? i want to be so in love with the person i'm marrying (if i ever get married!), that i'm willing to spend the rest of my life with him. if that person never exists, i don't mind living alone. ^^



There are pro's and con's to both sides (being single/being with someone). Its all a matter of which has more pro's and which has more con's. What I mean is - if you would rather be doing stuff by yourself most of the time and enjoy being alone, then there is no point in being in that particular relationship. Likewise, if you cannot fathom not having that person there with you to share your experiences with (no it doesnt have to be every moment of every day), then you should be with them.

There should be no time frame or cut off for this. Its not like life is over at 30, or 40, or so on and so forth. There is entirely too much emphasis placed in media and our culture to still marry young. While the age is slowly shifting from 18 to mid/upper 20's, that still does not necessarily fit everyone.

Some people have a hard time understanding that what is good for them is not necessarily good for you. Like that friend or relative that has children but you may not have or want kids. They cannot understand why you dont want to experience the joy of children because they cannot put themselves in your shoes, cannot see something from another perspective. The same holds true for marriage. Just because it works for some people doesnt mean it works for everyone.

Bottom line is - some people cannot think outside of the box, cannot see anothers perspective. While their intentions are good they're still missing the bigger picture. Just explain that right now, marriage is not your priority. There are other aspects of your life you want to focus on - whether it be school, work, hobbies, friendships, etc.

As for your question - no I'm not single at the moment. But that doesnt mean I dont sometimes miss being single.
Posted 11/6/08
im not thinking too much about marriage right now... i mean i don't plan on it for a loooooong time. definitely. i was single until just a few days ago i was single by choice definitely. i don't even really know how you're single NOT by choice, i mean unless you live in one of those countries or like something to do with religion but yeah.
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