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Do you want to get married? Are you single by choice [read first post]
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umm, im not sure if i want to get married, coz i dont really believe in love, i want to have kids though.. not really sure how. i hope i can meet a decent guy,and changed my mind..ha.
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Posted 1/6/09
NO =(
haha,,,welll kinda-ish cuz im not allowed to date and i prefer not to be a flirt...
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Posted 1/6/09
I'm single by choice because I think people should have their life in order before commiting to someone. As for marriage, if it happens, it happens. If it don't, it don't.
Posted 1/6/09

fransyung wrote:

I want to ask if you're also SINGLE BY CHOICE? Is marriage not in your priority list / list of goals in life? If not, then why? ^^ Please elaborate... Blabbing is accepted. I'm a good listener. ^^ Thanks!




! :D

Yes, I'm single by choice, and I can't see nothing wrong with that.

I'm not a very dependant person, quite the opposet actually. I never lack people to be around if I need it, and when I'm with people I'm very pupolar - Everyone is always like "Ohhh is xxx coming" and like that :p But...
I've had a girlfriend for 2 years, it was quite serious and we were both much inlove. So, it's not that I can't fall inlove or that I can't get a girl :p But I think after that experience, I realized what love was all about.

I still see women occasionally (have sex :P), but it's nothing serious. We're very clear about what we're doing and that no kind of emotions are involved.

I do hope that someday I'll find the one and only though, as love is great and being with someone you're 100% confident around, is incredibly. However, I am not on the look for that someone special, I'm doing great on my own... And in case I never meet her, I'll rather stay single for the rest of my life.

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Posted 1/6/09
I'm single by choice because I'm not attracted to anyone, male or female. Marriage isn't something I'll strive for because if it happens, it happens, not really that excited about it. If I have children...god help us all...they well be as abnormal as me and I don't really feel the need to bring more people into the world and risk them becoming like everyone else (using a generalization) that don't care about anything but how they look and money. Intelligence is going downhill and I wouldn't want to watch them hit that slippery slope and worse comes to worse. I'd rather die alone, childless, but effect the lives of people around me positively.
Posted 1/7/09
single by choice but i wonder how far i can go with that , why ? never ever believe in marriage
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28 / F / Brick, NJ
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Posted 1/7/09
I am single by choice. I only get into serious relationships with guys I deem worthy. If no one is worthy, you are just basically a steady screw and I tell you as such. I don't like to settle for anything less then the best.
Posted 1/7/09

Shamela24 wrote:

I'm single by choice because I think people should have their life in order before commiting to someone. As for marriage, if it happens, it happens. If it don't, it don't.



I agree entirely. I mean where exactly does it say you can't experience what the world has to offer first before you get involved and start "living for them?" I've got to relate to teenage romances which turns into sex which turns into teenage pregnancies: If I wanted to have sex and get pregnant now, I could. But I know that I've got big dreams, and having a baby and boyfriend/husband will only get in the way right now.
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Aren't people supposed to marry the people they love? I don't know where your from but I think arranged/forced marriages give no benefits to the two people getting married.


Not necessarily. Love alone does not a good marriage make. It depends on interpersonal dynamics. Love should be a factor, but not the main reason. You also have to have good communication and the willingness to compromise. Not everyone is ready for all of the facets that really go into a good relationship/marriage.

Arranged marriages bother me. I understand how they worked when women would also have a dowry. But these days... not so much. But it might also be my more western filter that I'm looking through.

And to answer the OP's question:

I'm no longer single by choice. I was single by choice for a year... and it was the most revealing year that I've ever had. I enjoyed that time. And if this current relationship fails, then I'll be single by choice for a while afterwards.



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Posted 1/7/09
hmm... everyone here seems to b single by choice thats odd i would have thought there must b someone who isnt single by choice. Well im not single by choice that makes me the odd one out
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I'm also single by choice. I think I'm way too young to have a boyfriend. It's not my priority to get a boyfriend anytime soon, anyways.
I think marriage is overrated and unnecessary. You can be totally committed to your partner without having to make it legitimate.
Posted 1/7/09
Don't rushing , I got my whole youth waiting for me .
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AMEN Fransyung!!! lol I'm definitely single by choice.....not to say that I haven't dated I have but I'm much happier being by myself and surrounded my friends. I've been giving this particular topic much thought the last couple of days and I'm coming to the conclusion that I would rather just be by myself. The odd part about this is that I would like to have children when I'm older......perhaps in my thirties...perhaps....but I would still not like to get married..... *sigh* thank goodness for adoption but even that might not be possible since they don't let single people adopt :(.....anywho that's beside the point. I just hold no interest in dating or getting married....I guess I'm to goal oriented to actually want a relationship. Although I can't see why your parents can't be more supportive of you if they were to let you live as you please who knows you might end up with someone much later but for now it's best to live in the moment and be content with life. So no I don't think you're odd!!! lol because if you are so am I :)

I also think that your train of thought is more common among women now a days. Because women can now hold higher positions in the work force, are independent, and have ambitions marrying and having children isn't at the top of their priority list. Think about it a couple of decades ago a goal of a woman was to find a stable man with a stable income to have a family. Now you don't really need a man to have a steady income because we can do that ourselves. Perhaps I'm wrong I would like to hear what others might have to say about this tid bit lol
Posted 1/8/09
i'm single because i'm afraid of relationships i don't let people to close to me. my life always changes in some odd and unnessary way. marriage hahaha.... never..i want to be able to hang out til forever with my crew. my friends mean the world to me. but i doubt it can last long. marriage seems like a closed casket for me but something i sit down and think about every now and then... hahaha it get hard sometimes to tell the truth but we still party till the sun comes up at my place.
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Posted 1/8/09
I lack the compassion for a relationship, I also lack any and all forms of interest in sex. And having to care about another person would piss me off. So yea, I'm single by choice.
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