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Girls asking guys out
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I think that girls who asks guys out are awesome! I mean everyone fears rejection but girls fear it more than boys do because girls by nature are attention seekers. I would give them cookie if I could! (One day free deluxe treatment to a special spa house?)

Girls who asks guys out deserves a special treatment. By that I mean that guys who get asked by girls out should, at the very least try to find out if he can get interested with her/share the same feelings with her overtime. Also they deserve with utmost honesty, a proper/straight answer to her feelings.

Well actually anyone, regardless of gender deserves this kind of treatment if they properly/clearly asked/confessed to someone just that girls tend to brush off guys showing affection to them if they don't like or is not interested in the guy even before the guy can ask/confess to the girl. No offense here, just stating facts.
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LOL.. guy should asks girl out.. that's the way it is..
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fine with me makes things simpler
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lol i like a girl (i would ask her out, but I don't want to...kinda confusing)

But I think girls should do it too. ur just going to wait for a guy to
do it? then u might not ever find the one u "really" like a lot
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makes things simpler


Sansei! :D

After all, girls are already complicated beings.


But I think girls should do it too.


Banzai!!!
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Well, I think more girls should make the first move. If you are embarrassed then you now know what guys have to put up with. Embarrasmnet and rejection.

In some cultures, I am told that in Sweden it is quite normal for girls to ask guys out.

I don't know about Japan, but the girl "confessing" seems to be the normal thing. Also, on Valentines day only the girl gives the present to the guy she likes and then on White day the guy responds .... at least that is what the animes show


yamapi-kun wrote:

i dunno bout all you gals out there but would you make the first move on a guy? personally, im a traditional kinda girl. the boy has to make the first move. plus im kinda embarrassed and shy to do it so i refuse to. what do you guys think?


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yah, I think it isn't too unnatural, if the girl really feels like it...
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A girl's got my respect if she can do that... happened to me twice.... sophmore year of HS and freshman year of college.... the others i had to do .... XD
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same here.
traditional its the same with confessions.
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Amen!

(for those who don't know what Amen really means even though you may have said it a million times, one of the meanings is "approval or agreement"


SokoLoko788 wrote:

A girl's got my respect if she can do that... happened to me twice.... sophmore year of HS and freshman year of college.... the others i had to do .... XD


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uhhh...this always happen in japan.
girls now in japan have the guts to ask the guys out on a date or w/e.
but i wouldn't blame the girls if they like the guys. :D
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LAWL, If I like a guy, I just tell them.

Usually it works. And plus, I don't have alot of patience. xD
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I don't mind if the girls ask me out. really ..
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Now that i've thought about it more, females want the upper hand in a relationship. By a guy asking a girl out and expressing his true feelings, he is now vulnerable, the girl is the recipient of those feelings and can either reject or accept the male.

Most girl's objections here seem to be its better for men to ask first to be sure of their genuine interest in them. For a girl to ask, would mean to expose and possibly 'humiliate' herself by appearing desperate. What then does that make guys? I suppose these girls think men have no fear of rejection, which goes back to my previous post about courage and its evolutionary uses.

For a girl to ask, a guy now has the option to go on a date and assess her qualities both physically and mentally, and deem whether she is compatible with him, rather than vice versa.

This is an intelligent evolutionary tactic that has benefitted the species, in most instances a girl already has her sights set on a guy but essentially won't make the first move because it is her who has to bear the responsibility of dealing with offspring and she wants him to express his interest in order to gauge him. Since males did not cultivate nor raise the child, women wanted the best specific qualities in their children, to do this, they sifted through the genetic and psychological traits of all male suitors (this may relate to the issue of the difference in sex drives between the sexes). Thus, through time, it became a societal norm for men to be initiators with confidence and courage being amongst those desirable tendencies of men.

The problem is, the world is vastly different in 2007 than in bygone eras. In a modern world where the genders are supposed to be equal but are in fact not, women will only accept the secioeconomic inequalities (lower pay etc) by adhering to traditional standards, one being the issue at hand. One step in the process of being on equal footing with men, is taking the chances that men do in a relationship, otherwise women will be stuck in the basic roles they have been given throughout time, change will be slow rather than rapid.
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cbisram wrote:

Now that i've thought about it more, females want the upper hand in a relationship. By a guy asking a girl out and expressing his true feelings, he is now vulnerable, the girl is the recipient of those feelings and can either reject or accept the male.

Most girl's objections here seem to be its better for men to ask first to be sure of their genuine interest in them. For a girl to ask, would mean to expose and possibly 'humiliate' herself by appearing desperate. What then does that make guys? I suppose these girls think men have no fear of rejection, which goes back to my previous post about courage and its evolutionary uses.

For a girl to ask, a guy now has the option to go on a date and assess her qualities both physically and mentally, and deem whether she is compatible with him, rather than vice versa.

This is an intelligent evolutionary tactic that has benefitted the species, in most instances a girl already has her sights set on a guy but essentially won't make the first move because it is her who has to bear the responsibility of dealing with offspring and she wants him to express his interest in order to gauge him. Since males did not cultivate nor raise the child, women wanted the best specific qualities in their children, to do this, they sifted through the genetic and psychological traits of all male suitors (this may relate to the issue of the difference in sex drives between the sexes). Thus, through time, it became a societal norm for men to be initiators with confidence and courage being amongst those desirable tendencies of men.

The problem is, the world is vastly different in 2007 than in bygone eras. In a modern world where the genders are supposed to be equal but are in fact not, women will only accept the secioeconomic inequalities (lower pay etc) by adhering to traditional standards, one being the issue at hand. One step in the process of being on equal footing with men, is taking the chances that men do in a relationship, otherwise women will be stuck in the basic roles they have been given throughout time, change will be slow rather than rapid.


nice connection man....you linked it to equal right movement....lol. i refused a girl once and got refused by a girl once. i think it's ugly when a girl get rejected.
mentally, female tend to be the nesting kind, they look for a stable relationship with a loyal partner; while male would wander around until they find the best nest to crash. it's wrong to think that women have the upper hands in this, they actually playing defensive. i like it the way it is, if you want a nice girl, you gotta look for her and work your way to her.
the egg doesn't chase the sperm, she won't know which on to take in. therefore the sperm gotta take out the other sperms and make his way to the egg. that's a good analogy....lol
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