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Girls asking guys out
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08
"...if you want a nice girl, you gotta look for her and work your way to her."

So... if a girl wants a nice guy, she should just wait for one to magically drop into her lap?

You also make it sound like girls shouldn't make any effort in courtship.


P.S ~ Despite how the tone of the msg might sound, no offense is intended at all.
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08

skygod333 wrote:


tou_xiong07 wrote:

girls asking guy out that is soo cooll




lmfao
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I'm fine either way XD I mean, women have a lot more rights now, so I think it's normal!! I asked a guy out, got rejected, then asked him exactly two years later and got rejected again XD

Lots of girls ask the boys out in my school~~
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08

TheGoat wrote:


skygod333 wrote:


tou_xiong07 wrote:

girls asking guy out that is soo cooll




lmfao


oh man, i didn't see that. lmao. foo shoo bro
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man... im too embarrassed to ask the girl i like out on a date.

I don't have the courage to do so, but I think of ways to do so w/o telling her cuz if she rejects me, i don't know what i'll do... I'd rather stand at her shadow, protecting her and seeing her smile, than to have her come up to me and reject me, it would literally tear me apart. Even thinking about it feels as though it kills me...

I guess that's why azn girls like white guys and vice versa. Probably because white guys are more confident.
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pff i dont ask gurls out.....they all ask ME out ^^
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ok, here is a tip. you like it when a girl like you right? so do the girls. i bet they like it when guys like them. so, given that, try to have a priviate conversation with your guy friend, tell him that you think..bah bah bah...is really...bah bah bah and that you kinda feel...bah bah bah....toward her. MAKE SURE THAT SHE OVERHEARD THE CONVERSATION. if she like you, sign should be showing after that, if not, she'll try to keep her cool and talk to you a little less. h/o it's not what you think, if she don't want to take that next step, your relationship with her will still be the same, she may even treat you a little better now that she know you like her. she'll talk to you less at the time but after that, if you not pressuring her, she'll be nicer to you. everyone like to have fans around right?
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I ask guys out... but I really love the traditional guy-asks-girl way best.
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08

dorkie_rocks wrote:

I ask guys out... but I really love the traditional guy-asks-girl way best.


I feel the same way!
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08
Extremely well put.

That being said -- you can wait forever to be asked or take the courage to ask. I've been rejected and have had to reject. I'm not sure which is more painful to be rejected or see the pain in the girls face when she is rejected. I think I'm leaning towards the pain of having to see the pain.


cbisram wrote:

Now that i've thought about it more, females want the upper hand in a relationship. By a guy asking a girl out and expressing his true feelings, he is now vulnerable, the girl is the recipient of those feelings and can either reject or accept the male.

Most girl's objections here seem to be its better for men to ask first to be sure of their genuine interest in them. For a girl to ask, would mean to expose and possibly 'humiliate' herself by appearing desperate. What then does that make guys? I suppose these girls think men have no fear of rejection, which goes back to my previous post about courage and its evolutionary uses.

For a girl to ask, a guy now has the option to go on a date and assess her qualities both physically and mentally, and deem whether she is compatible with him, rather than vice versa.

This is an intelligent evolutionary tactic that has benefitted the species, in most instances a girl already has her sights set on a guy but essentially won't make the first move because it is her who has to bear the responsibility of dealing with offspring and she wants him to express his interest in order to gauge him. Since males did not cultivate nor raise the child, women wanted the best specific qualities in their children, to do this, they sifted through the genetic and psychological traits of all male suitors (this may relate to the issue of the difference in sex drives between the sexes). Thus, through time, it became a societal norm for men to be initiators with confidence and courage being amongst those desirable tendencies of men.

The problem is, the world is vastly different in 2007 than in bygone eras. In a modern world where the genders are supposed to be equal but are in fact not, women will only accept the secioeconomic inequalities (lower pay etc) by adhering to traditional standards, one being the issue at hand. One step in the process of being on equal footing with men, is taking the chances that men do in a relationship, otherwise women will be stuck in the basic roles they have been given throughout time, change will be slow rather than rapid.


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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08
i dont think it really matters if you like some one enough and there isnt some good reason y u cant ask them out then go for it.
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08
At my school there is a dance called Tolo, where girls ask the guys.

Reading this made me sad, because i have a crush on this one girl but im to coward to ask her out.... was hoping she might ask me out....
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08
I kind of like it when the girl makes the first move But i feel bad when/if i tuned them down.
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08
i donno....... hmmmmmmmm.....its probly gonna come down to how much i lke the guy............ otherwise im to scared to ask him..........
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Posted 12/9/07 , edited 4/14/08
its very guys dream to be ask out lol ---> more the merrier
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