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People who Constantly Help
Posted 3/15/12
Catch me on my good side and I'd help. Catch me on my bad side and I'd bitch at you for no reason.
Posted 3/15/12 , edited 3/15/12


It may be off center, but I do believe that the term can be used in a broad enough sense to allow my definition to technically be correct with the definition I tied to it so many asdasfasdasf years ago.

And if you applied my given definition of a "tool" to those different groups, yeah they most definitely are. There's no real way you can sugar coat that effectively.



Well, then if you are honestly saying that a derogatory term applies to people who genuinely act out of kindness (as opposed to a tendency to be easily manipulated), I'd say that says a heck of a lot more about you than it does about them.
Posted 7/17/12
I'm actually one of those people who are too kind for their own good. I spend more time helping my friends and relatives that it's gotten to a point where i've been left stranded by myself with my own problems that have been growing. I literally went through a break down and had to pick myself back up again, with some support. Pro tip for people like me; sometimes it's good to be selfish BEEP at times.
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Posted 7/17/12
I'm very well aware that I am a doormat. I cave in and do a lot of things for others that I wouldn't otherwise do. It just makes me feel better being helpful, I guess. I feel like if I don't do things for others it will come back to bite me later. Karma~ And I've always rather lacked self-confidence, so I guess I worry that people will leave me if I don't do things for them, since I have no other redeeming qualities...

However, I am fully capable of saying no to requests that I think go overboard or that I'm not comfortable with. I've gotten better at that. When I was younger, I used to take a lot more shit from people; not so much now. But if it's something small, like say, loaning out $20 to a friend, no biggie, ne?
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Posted 7/17/12

RaikuRoak wrote:

Are you a tool?


I'm a volunteer firefighter.... But mostly because I like the self gratifying ego trip I can generate in my head when I think about how brave, courageous and heroic I am. It's not out of selflessness, it's just to glorify my own bloated self image and exacerbate my false sense of pride.

Do I help people? Yeah, but only because I feel so fucking sorry for all the weak, helpless morons who surround me from every direction. As an educator I try to help the ignorant with my mind, and as an individual I try to help the imperiled with my hands. What more can I offer?

Why am I emotionally moved enough to feel for other people? Maybe it's because despite the fact that they're all less than worthless and actually represent a net negative value to the planet, and despite the reality that if I actually talked to any of them I'd probably hate them for their ignorance and superstitious beliefs -- I just can't help but love you all. After a lifetime of frustration with you fucking apes, it's the only innocent quality I have left.
Posted 7/17/12
the time I help depends on my laziness >...<
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Posted 7/17/12
The will to help is there. But the apathy .. is overwhelming.

I prefer to help people to help themselves. Teach a man to fish. If they don't listen to my fishing lessons the first time, there are probably others who will. Probably.

Not likely ..

Who the fuck am I kidding. Most of us are drop-dead apathetic, when you get to thinking about it. People are actively taught in school to seek the shortest route to answer a problem.

Also, infants and really old people frighten me. helping them would be hard.
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Posted 7/17/12
I help only when people ask me, I don't help everyone. I usually don't help someone if they don't want my help.
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Posted 7/17/12

Rajyrr wrote:
Most of us are drop-dead apathetic, when you get to thinking about it. People are actively taught in school to seek the shortest route to answer a problem.


I agree with your assertion but we don't just simply think in terms of shortcuts, we feel something, then we think about it until we can rationalize our feelings. That's how our minds operate.

So really, it's not apathy that's the issue, it's the average person's lack of exceptional abilities and the resulting lack of confidence in their meager or simply just average abilities. That's what makes them feel inadequate to the task at hand. That feeling of powerlessness overwhelms them and they rationalize that they can't help others because they lack the ability to make a difference. Resulting in what some would call apathy. However the feeling that one should help doesn't go away, instead it just nags at them from the back of their minds until they come up with lots of reasons to dislike, or hate the helpless, their society, their government, or the entire world.

It's not because they don't care to help, they do. If they didn't want to help -- they wouldn't have bothered to go through the mental process of trying to manage their feelings. So really, apathy isn't apathy, it's just a lack of self confidence which cumulates in a state of uselessness.
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Posted 7/17/12
I try to help others if someone requires help and it is within my realm of possibility. I would go out of my way to help some out and I'm glad to say that whenever I require help there is always someone to help me out as well. So I guess don't always be selfish because you never know when you yourself might need some assistance.

That said I think it's terrible calling people who help others as tools. They are genuinely good people and "tool" sounds like something that is very demeaning.
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Posted 7/17/12 , edited 7/17/12
It depends on the person and on my mood. Sometimes, people just want my advice, so it's easy to 'help' them. However, if it's something else, it differs a lot. Sometimes I don't even know why I'm helping a certain person and I often think I'm too nice (or just too soft), but I always, ALWAYS help my friends (or those I consider[ed] my friends).
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Posted 7/18/12
Are you a tool? sometimes

Meaning, do you purposely go out and help people whenever they ask? sometimes, depends on their "power" and what they want from me
What do you think about these types of people? We're weak ....
Do you do it out of habit or kindness? more like I do it so people don't hate me. It started at when I was about 12 due to me being the only asian and everyone copying my homework.
Do you know anyone that acts like this? Yes, me and a ton of other people,I'm not a tool compared to all the non-koreans in my school since all they do is suck up to them since they're the majority, it's fucking annoying as hell. a Russian girl freaking made cake for all the koreans so that tehy would like her. And my friend bought a korean girl a $100 necklace for her birthday.
What do you think about these types of people? It's sad, but it's life.
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Posted 7/18/12
I'm the guy who always has an excuse for not helping...unless I'm on the spot and can't think up a way out.
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Posted 7/18/12
I used to always say yes even if it was a complete stranger just because I was always told to "Do unto other what you would do to yourself" I still follow that, but after being used like a tool a few to many times, I ask what it is first before I say yes....unless it is family then I will do it regardless.
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