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Post Reply What do you think of Long Distance Relationships?
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Posted 4/3/13
LDRs can work. But more often than not, they will fail. It's hard enough having a physical relationship.

You'll need a truck load of mutual trust and understanding with one another to make it work. I'm not saying it won't work, but, I've seen and been in enough relationships to know that LDRs take a huge toll on both parties.
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I'm in a long distance relationship. But I used to live close to him. We've been together for 2 years, half of which I can say has been completely long distance. We try to see each other as often as possible, but we always talk every day.
If you love someone and you both put in the effort, than it's definitely doable. We won't always be long-distance, which is a comforting reminder.
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In my experience, sorry, but it didn't work for me. No matter how I tried. We tried. Sending packages, texting, calling, chatting, occasionally seeing each other (expensive plane tickets, lucky it's just within the country).

At some point, one of you will just have to lie low and find someone else nearer. Or, someone will change personality quite so drastically that the other party could never understand how it happened and finds it difficult to adjust.

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Lucky me, as I am in this very situation and engaged. (Two completely different countries) I believe it can work for the ones who truly do all they can to make it work.
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Posted 4/4/13
Long distance relationships could work only if both people are really sincerely committed to each other.
Without patience, I don't think it would work..

Been in one, don't think I'll ever do it again. >.>
Posted 4/4/13
it could work maybe if they are really serious about each other. i wouldn't do it again though
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Posted 4/4/13
Honestly, it depends on the people involved.

It is easy to fall into temptations when your partner is so far away from you.
You need to be strong and stable enough to stay committed and genuinely happy in the relationship.
When arguments come up, you have to remember that you can't go to the person to apologize in person.
You can't be psychical, no hugs or kisses. You have to be deep enough to make sure that, your partners voice and image is enough to keep you company.

It can be a very romantic and loving if you can keep a strong bond because being so far away, eventually if the chemistry isn't there the you'll both end up being bored/annoyed with each other.

Be honest and love the one your with.
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Posted 4/4/13
I've been in two..... it's full of shit. there's ABSOLUTELY no it will last.
Posted 4/5/13
I am capable of it.
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Posted 4/5/13
wont work. even if both parties achieves the epitome of understanding and love when they were together...LDRs would just chip away the thing they built up and they would be farther apart(emotionally speaking) from each other.
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Posted 4/5/13
Long distance relationships can work, but only if:

1) There is a well-established relationship formed in person FIRST. If a couple is married for five years and then one has to move for work and be gone for 6 months, that is doable. High school sweathearts leaving for college almost certainly will not last.
2) Serious efforts are made to keep in touch. Long distance does not mean ignored.
3) The couple trusts eachother completely. "What is he doing?" sort of thoughts will ruin a relationship.
4) Each of the people in said couple have active lives outside of just being a couple. Some couples have only each other. If both parties are not active, there may be an experience or communication gap after they are reunited. If only one is active, distance will grow between them.
5) Loyalty to the point that there is no desire for infidelity. If, "I'm lonely and I need SOMEONE" ever crosses the mind, it will not last. When "The only one who turns me on is coming back in X months." is the thought, a relationship might be possible.
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Posted 4/5/13
5 stars would do again
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I live in Milwaukee, Wisconsin(on Lake Michigan) and she lives in Accra, Ghana.

Does that count as a long distance relationship? It sure feels like it.


I don't know why we care for each other, but we do and we are both aware that the odds are stacked against us.
I am thankful that we can use the internet to stay in touch pretty much every day.
Someday's its just small talk but on others we laugh or even cry as face the day to day crap we go through.
Reaching out to the other for strenght & love hoping the other wont give up and look to someone else comfort.


Yes, I believe that we can endure. We are both working toward saving our money for her return to the USA.

If you are in a long distance relationship I wish you the best and the only advice I can give is to stay strong & true to the other.
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Posted 4/5/13
Any relationship can work as long as both people in the relationship are willing to put in the time and effort to making the relationship last/work and keep them & their partner happy.

I was in a LDR for 4.5 years when I was younger (right when I first started college). We were both young, immature, and trying to "find our own ways" in life. We recently started talking again about 8 months ago..so yeah..
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Posted 4/5/13
They do not work. Simple as that.
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