You should wait for the right guy to find you. There is nothing wrong with dating, but sometime it causes problems. You should trust the way you feel and look back upon all the things that have happened since you began your "dating parade." What you think of yourself is more important than what others think. Blackmail is illegal. Ignore Zane and go straight to your mom. She has a lot of experience and love yous you no matter what. You mother is there as a supporter who will support you through troubled times. Everything one does has consequences. The best way to deal with them is to put yourself in the shoes of someone else so you can understand how they feel. Look to your friends who are very close to you and explain to them how you feel and why you date so many guys. Although they might not understand, at least you get it off of your chest and become more open. I believe the best thing to do right now, is have a one-on-one chat with your mom. Plan ahead what you want to say and how you want to say it. These notes will help you a lot.
I've tried to create an opportunity to talk to my mom but I just get scared and end up not being able to talk to her. . Hahaha I guess I'm to scared to confront my my mom about my problems. Besides I don't really talk to her in the first place. And she's always busy wit work. Now I'm just making excuses. I know blackmail is illegal but I still do wat Zane tells me to do. My brain doesn't want to listen to me anymore, I guess deep in my heart I'm just to scared to confront anyone.
The greatest thing to fear is fear itself. That's why it is so pointless to not be afraid of anything. Things happen for a reason. It is always ok to follow your heart. Your mom will understand you. Try this:
You: "Hi mom. How was your day?"
Mom: "Good. Yours?"
You: "My was good, but.... um...."
Mom: "What is it?"
You: "I'm afraid. Zane has been blackmailing me. I.... I have to tell you something." Then you should begin to tell her about you 'dating parade.' The one who makes the first move can win, but only if that person has the heart to.
Hmm well here's how it pretty much went
Me: Hey Mom, how did your day go?
Mom: *Stare* ". . . . . . . Are you feeling alright?"
Me: "Yeah, Why?"
Mom: "You never ask me how my day went, you just ask for money or something"
My first attempt failed. . . I tried again later. . It was rather more successful..
I told her about my dating problem, she wasn't amused but she just listened to me talk. I didn't tell her bout Zane. One of the first questions dat came out of my moms mouth was "are you using protection?" [u know what that means] The conversation went pretty well. I later told Zane dat I told my mom already so he can stop blackmailing me. He said he'll just have to find another puppy. However I don't know how to stop myself from dating guys or stop having sex wit then. .
I would start volunteering at daycares and see what it's like to be around younger children. You should search for the one you love and attempt to restrain yourself. Kissing would be fine. Look through your heart, not your desires. Sometimes a slap in the face helps (not litterally). You should talk to your mom more and may be spend more time with her to get your mind off of having sex. This may help your realize more about yourself.
Hey. I just happened to finally be on CR today. I thought since u always seem to like updates I'd give you one.
I don't know if you hear this a lot but "You're advice changed my life for the better". And I really mean it. i took ur advice. I work at a small daycare with little kids (they can be a hand full) but i love it. It took me awhile to adapt to the little kids cause I always thought they were a nuisance. And I don't know how many times I almost fell to my sex desire call. My relationship with my mom has improved alot but I can't say it's perfect afterall we are mother and daughter. I have not had sex once in the past months. I feel proud. If I had said I was proud to not have sex months ago I would've thought "Girl, you're crazy". But now I see clearly that I don't need sex. I am dating, just recently though and he's not too interested in sex and me (being outgoing and bold) I have clearly told all the guys that have asked me out in the past months that I did not want a sexually active relationship. Which made most of them immediately back off.
But all in all thank you.
FYI Zane won't be bothering me anymore =D
I glad that things are going well with you. And just so you know, those boys that didn't respect your decison were not worth it. Continue taking the small steps that you are now taking since they will help you live a healthy and happy life. And, like I always say, follow your heart!
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