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is it ok for a guy to like a older girl then for a older guy to like a younger gilr
Posted 12/18/08 , edited 12/18/08
lets say hmm a 15 year old (guy)liked a 20 year old(girl)is that ok? how about if its a 15 year olg girl and a 20 year old guy? i think its ok for both
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Posted 12/18/08 , edited 12/18/08
They're both ok as long as the older guy doesnt have some sort of lolita complex and goes out looking for jailbait. 17? Wait a year and you can smash all you wait without repercussions. But you're 15 so wth?
Posted 12/18/08 , edited 12/18/08
does it matter? just as long as it's not illegal then it's fine
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Posted 12/18/08
IMO, both ways are fine. I'm dating a 16yr old, 4 years difference and it hasn't affected me or anyone. As for dating a girl thats older, that kinda goes against my preferences :p though i wouldn't mind someone who is a few months older than me or even a year older. As long as she isn't taller!! hahaha...thats the most important.. for me that is.
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Posted 12/18/08
im sure ive seen a thread like this, anyway im 16 and i like my teacher in school, shee isss sooo fine:) you can like any age you want, the harder question is can u be with someone older or younger than you
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Posted 12/18/08
doesnt matter. idk why, maybe its the trend, but all my friends have gf's 3-5 years younger ;o
Posted 12/18/08
I think its kind of weird but thats their problem. lol i know my ex's mom is dating someone who is 20 years YOUNGER then her O_O
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Posted 12/18/08
Like whoever the hell you want. Age is nothing but a factor.
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Posted 12/18/08
Depends on the age range really.

Someone 15 dating someone else who's 20 is strange considering that one just barely started high school and the other is almost out of college. The maturity level is too far for this age range. 5 years is almost 20% of the 15 year old's life experience and that's that the exact difference in relationship between the two. Sure, it maybe possible that a 15 year old can date 20, but the chances of a successful relationship is very unlikely and will be very difficult to sustain since the two members in the relationship simply live in different worlds at this point. As a 19 year old, I changed significantly since I was 15 and I assume many will do the same. In other words, the change in personality will be a part of the relationship that may break the relationship.

However, someone 25 dating someone 30 is a different story... for many reasons. At this point, they're both in about the same life phase - holding/seeking a job and looking for someone to be in love with. Not to mention both (should be) are mature enough to take care for themselves while being able to take of others.

I don't know about large age gaps such as 20, but whatever floats your boat I guess. What matters is the age range where the difference takes place in.
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Posted 12/18/08
it doesn't matter as long as she had some wealth and ready to die

seriously it's ok as long as you love each other
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Posted 12/18/08
Age deffinately matters. If the either the girl or boy is under the age of 18 and is at least 3 years older or younger (either the guy or the girl) while one is underage then I feel that it's best to steer clear of those relationships. Younger folk, and I don't mean to belittle anyone, tend to think that they know what life is like and seem to be very eager to grow up (for some strange reason). I guess I speak from experience when I say that most teenagers do not really know what love is and they confuse love with lust or a crush. Some older people (in their younger 20s) are sometimes the same way; but... they may not realize that being with someone still a teenager... can be difficult.

I had a friend who lost her virginity at the age of 13 to someone who was 23 years old. She thought by having sex she would make men love her--and unfortunately that's how a lot of younger girls feel. I don't know why, but they think by sleeping with a man that it will mean they will be loved. Because of her poor decisions she had a cancerous cyst found on the wall of her vagina from having sex at too young of an age. She also, later on, caught genital warts. This is why I feel the younger kids should wait until they are absolutely ready and are completely aware of the possible mistakes that can happen (e.g. pregnancy, STD/STI, et cetera). Murphy's law states, "Things that can go wrong will go wrong," after all.

I have seem some cases where there were teenagers 15-17 who are very mature and seem to be at the same mind-set as someone in their mid-twenties. But at the same time I look at them and I want to say, "Don't rush so much to grow up because once you grow up you can't be a kid again--you can't lose that responsibility once you've gained it." I'd give anything to be a kid again and not have to worry about bills, or where and how I'm going to get food and if I have enough hours under my belt for the week to get a suitable check that can pay the bills I need to pay. I don't particularly like having to work 40+ hours just to get the money I need while I'm still a full time student in college.

But if both people are adults... I don't see a big deal with age. It's when the person is underage I have an issue with it. That's just the law. I somewhat find very young people dating very old people (e.g. a person in their 20's dating a person old enough to be their father or even grandfather) very disgusting. Perhaps it's because I've never been in such a situation; I don't know.

All I know is my boyfriend is about 2 years older than me and I'm fine with it. If we were switched around I'd be okay with it too.
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Posted 12/18/08

dark215000 wrote:

lets say hmm a 15 year old (guy)liked a 20 year old(girl)is that ok? how about if its a 15 year olg girl and a 20 year old guy? i think its ok for both


well i think both is OK ^_^ as long as they love each other =3 in relationship age doesnt matter ...and beside to some people age is just a number to them..o.o'' and well is depend on that person do they mind the "age" ...i know some pplz do O.o a lot too...but some just dont care ^_^ get what i mean?
Posted 12/18/08
Well it's ok but the age gap must not be too large.. i like girls that are older than me... mature xD
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Posted 12/18/08

kerensa wrote:

Age deffinately matters. If the either the girl or boy is under the age of 18 and is at least 3 years older or younger (either the guy or the girl) while one is underage then I feel that it's best to steer clear of those relationships. Younger folk, and I don't mean to belittle anyone, tend to think that they know what life is like and seem to be very eager to grow up (for some strange reason). I guess I speak from experience when I say that most teenagers do not really know what love is and they confuse love with lust or a crush. Some older people (in their younger 20s) are sometimes the same way; but... they may not realize that being with someone still a teenager... can be difficult.

I had a friend who lost her virginity at the age of 13 to someone who was 23 years old. She thought by having sex she would make men love her--and unfortunately that's how a lot of younger girls feel. I don't know why, but they think by sleeping with a man that it will mean they will be loved. Because of her poor decisions she had a cancerous cyst found on the wall of her vagina from having sex at too young of an age. She also, later on, caught genital warts. This is why I feel the younger kids should wait until they are absolutely ready and are completely aware of the possible mistakes that can happen (e.g. pregnancy, STD/STI, et cetera). Murphy's law states, "Things that can go wrong will go wrong," after all.

I have seem some cases where there were teenagers 15-17 who are very mature and seem to be at the same mind-set as someone in their mid-twenties. But at the same time I look at them and I want to say, "Don't rush so much to grow up because once you grow up you can't be a kid again--you can't lose that responsibility once you've gained it." I'd give anything to be a kid again and not have to worry about bills, or where and how I'm going to get food and if I have enough hours under my belt for the week to get a suitable check that can pay the bills I need to pay. I don't particularly like having to work 40+ hours just to get the money I need while I'm still a full time student in college.

But if both people are adults... I don't see a big deal with age. It's when the person is underage I have an issue with it. That's just the law. I somewhat find very young people dating very old people (e.g. a person in their 20's dating a person old enough to be their father or even grandfather) very disgusting. Perhaps it's because I've never been in such a situation; I don't know.

All I know is my boyfriend is about 2 years older than me and I'm fine with it. If we were switched around I'd be okay with it too.


I do agree with you of what u said o.O is true nowaday teenagers so rush things over and wanting to have sex so badly...>_<
Note: Yes, i am a teenagers as well but i dont rush things over plus i dont have a boyfriend and i dont need to have sex ...because is too early for me
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Posted 12/18/08
it's ok.
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