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is it ok for a guy to like a older girl then for a older guy to like a younger gilr
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kerensa wrote:

Age deffinately matters. If the either the girl or boy is under the age of 18 and is at least 3 years older or younger (either the guy or the girl) while one is underage then I feel that it's best to steer clear of those relationships. Younger folk, and I don't mean to belittle anyone, tend to think that they know what life is like and seem to be very eager to grow up (for some strange reason). I guess I speak from experience when I say that most teenagers do not really know what love is and they confuse love with lust or a crush. Some older people (in their younger 20s) are sometimes the same way; but... they may not realize that being with someone still a teenager... can be difficult.

I had a friend who lost her virginity at the age of 13 to someone who was 23 years old. She thought by having sex she would make men love her--and unfortunately that's how a lot of younger girls feel. I don't know why, but they think by sleeping with a man that it will mean they will be loved. Because of her poor decisions she had a cancerous cyst found on the wall of her vagina from having sex at too young of an age. She also, later on, caught genital warts. This is why I feel the younger kids should wait until they are absolutely ready and are completely aware of the possible mistakes that can happen (e.g. pregnancy, STD/STI, et cetera). Murphy's law states, "Things that can go wrong will go wrong," after all.

I have seem some cases where there were teenagers 15-17 who are very mature and seem to be at the same mind-set as someone in their mid-twenties. But at the same time I look at them and I want to say, "Don't rush so much to grow up because once you grow up you can't be a kid again--you can't lose that responsibility once you've gained it." I'd give anything to be a kid again and not have to worry about bills, or where and how I'm going to get food and if I have enough hours under my belt for the week to get a suitable check that can pay the bills I need to pay. I don't particularly like having to work 40+ hours just to get the money I need while I'm still a full time student in college.

But if both people are adults... I don't see a big deal with age. It's when the person is underage I have an issue with it. That's just the law. I somewhat find very young people dating very old people (e.g. a person in their 20's dating a person old enough to be their father or even grandfather) very disgusting. Perhaps it's because I've never been in such a situation; I don't know.

All I know is my boyfriend is about 2 years older than me and I'm fine with it. If we were switched around I'd be okay with it too.


I do agree with you of what u said o.O is true nowaday teenagers so rush things over and wanting to have sex so badly...>_<
Note: Yes, i am a teenagers as well but i dont rush things over plus i dont have a boyfriend and i dont need to have sex ...because is too early for me


Even if you are a teenager, you know well enough that your actions can produce outcomes you don't particularly want to deal with. I personally love just cuddling with my boyfriend and spending those little moments with him. Sure, sex is fun and feels great, but just being held there in the dark while watching television just feels so... secure. I think I may have digressed a bit!

Kids these days need to slow down a bit and smell the flowers. Enjoy their surroundings. Sex won't make a boy like you; they'll just think you're easy and pass the word around (well, depends on the boy, I guess). When I was in high school, everyone knew who was considered to be the "slut". I don't know whether or not they were just misinformed kids or otherwise...

I'm glad to see you're one of the smart teenagers.
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Posted 12/18/08
i odnt know why an older girl would like a younger guy anyway...its mostly the other way around
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Posted 12/18/08

kerensa wrote:


rain_wind wrote:


kerensa wrote:

Age deffinately matters. If the either the girl or boy is under the age of 18 and is at least 3 years older or younger (either the guy or the girl) while one is underage then I feel that it's best to steer clear of those relationships. Younger folk, and I don't mean to belittle anyone, tend to think that they know what life is like and seem to be very eager to grow up (for some strange reason). I guess I speak from experience when I say that most teenagers do not really know what love is and they confuse love with lust or a crush. Some older people (in their younger 20s) are sometimes the same way; but... they may not realize that being with someone still a teenager... can be difficult.

I had a friend who lost her virginity at the age of 13 to someone who was 23 years old. She thought by having sex she would make men love her--and unfortunately that's how a lot of younger girls feel. I don't know why, but they think by sleeping with a man that it will mean they will be loved. Because of her poor decisions she had a cancerous cyst found on the wall of her vagina from having sex at too young of an age. She also, later on, caught genital warts. This is why I feel the younger kids should wait until they are absolutely ready and are completely aware of the possible mistakes that can happen (e.g. pregnancy, STD/STI, et cetera). Murphy's law states, "Things that can go wrong will go wrong," after all.

I have seem some cases where there were teenagers 15-17 who are very mature and seem to be at the same mind-set as someone in their mid-twenties. But at the same time I look at them and I want to say, "Don't rush so much to grow up because once you grow up you can't be a kid again--you can't lose that responsibility once you've gained it." I'd give anything to be a kid again and not have to worry about bills, or where and how I'm going to get food and if I have enough hours under my belt for the week to get a suitable check that can pay the bills I need to pay. I don't particularly like having to work 40+ hours just to get the money I need while I'm still a full time student in college.

But if both people are adults... I don't see a big deal with age. It's when the person is underage I have an issue with it. That's just the law. I somewhat find very young people dating very old people (e.g. a person in their 20's dating a person old enough to be their father or even grandfather) very disgusting. Perhaps it's because I've never been in such a situation; I don't know.

All I know is my boyfriend is about 2 years older than me and I'm fine with it. If we were switched around I'd be okay with it too.


I do agree with you of what u said o.O is true nowaday teenagers so rush things over and wanting to have sex so badly...>_<
Note: Yes, i am a teenagers as well but i dont rush things over plus i dont have a boyfriend and i dont need to have sex ...because is too early for me


Even if you are a teenager, you know well enough that your actions can produce outcomes you don't particularly want to deal with. I personally love just cuddling with my boyfriend and spending those little moments with him. Sure, sex is fun and feels great, but just being held there in the dark while watching television just feels so... secure. I think I may have digressed a bit!

Kids these days need to slow down a bit and smell the flowers. Enjoy their surroundings. Sex won't make a boy like you; they'll just think you're easy and pass the word around (well, depends on the boy, I guess). When I was in high school, everyone knew who was considered to be the "slut". I don't know whether or not they were just misinformed kids or otherwise...

I'm glad to see you're one of the smart teenagers.


haha you are so right ^_^ ..but what if that guy force a girl to have sex with him?? >_< that girl is that guy girlfriend tho...(is just an example) im just curious =P

lolz thx ^_^ it not bcz im smart in those things..it just i dont want to make a wrong mistake and once u have sex...your virginlity will be gone..and u cant have it back Oh i also heard that once u have sex...u cannot stop wanting them..it is true?? O.o
Posted 12/19/08
hell i dontt care ill love who i want and nuthing wont stop me age gender laws screw it
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i dont care..as long as the guy is older than me..
but should not exceed 4 yrs gap!
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Posted 12/19/08

LemonyPanda wrote:

i odnt know why an older girl would like a younger guy anyway...its mostly the other way around


i agree *nod nod*
Posted 12/19/08
It is okay if they really love each other. But then, 15 is underage right?
Posted 12/19/08

dark215000 wrote:

lets say hmm a 15 year old (guy)liked a 20 year old(girl)is that ok? how about if its a 15 year olg girl and a 20 year old guy? i think its ok for both


Are you asking about where the limit is before reaching paedophile status?

The examples you mentioned depend on each individual's mental maturity, because physically...they already should be nicely developed.
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Posted 12/19/08
It's ok, I don't see a problem with it, if the couple's happy together why not?
Posted 12/19/08
Why not?But one must be mature enough in order to preserve their relationship.
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Posted 12/19/08
Uhmm it really doesn't matter........its fine...
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31 / M / South Africa
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Posted 12/19/08
It's like they say opposites attract nothing wrong with it ! It happens all the time
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Posted 12/19/08
It's up to one individual.
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Posted 12/19/08 , edited 12/19/08
I think it's okay as long as their age difference is not of a father-daughter or mother-son age difference.. =3 it looks weird.. LOL
Posted 12/19/08
Of course, it's alright. You just happened to fall in love with him/her no matter what kind of a big age gap there is.Personally, I don't believe in this kind of things. Urgh.
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