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why are bf's so protective over their girl?
Posted 1/2/09 , edited 1/2/09

290389 wrote:


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290389 wrote:
but to be honest how would you like it if ur over half was gettin chatted up? common sense really



If the trust is there, why would you need to worry ? hmm.

I get flirted with and chatted up all the time, I simply play along.
Then I have an amusing story to tell my wife.
Why would I tell her ?
because it simply confirms A: that she has reason to trust me and B: that she made a good choice in marrying me

Hell I get hit on IN FRONT OF HER, and she just laughs as WE (my wife and I) walk away.
No insecurities there, folks.

The ONLY time I ever get "over-protective" is when some idiot does something to put my wife in danger, then I simply frog stomp the idiot and enjoy the rest of my night while that person bleeds.



ok fair enough but ur like 38 right? your too old to be worrying and something like that, plus your married so ovi shes unlikely to cheat on u if she married u huh?
it's a different story, compare that to someone in their late teens and early 20's
no offence in all of this just stating the facts


You're never too old to worry about that.
A relationship is a relationship, married or otherwise.
Commitment is commitment and age has nothing to do with it.
I work as a dispatcher for Police dept. and I can tell you with no uncertainty that this kind of crap happens with married couples as often as it happens with boyfriends and girlfriends.
Why do you think domestic violence laws exist? (you should hear some of the calls I've gotten).
For that matter why do you think divorces are so widespread (aside from money issues) ?

No offense but your view is rather naive. In a perfect world you'd be correct and what you stated would seen as fact, but sadly.... it's not.

Fact is, ALL relationships must be worked at, they don't just take care of themselves and "love" is never enough to see people through.
I love my wife whole heartedly and am 100% devoted to her..... but I also make sure she KNOWS this as well.
I do this not only by telling her so but by being the best, most loyal, honorable and honest husband I can. As well as doing all I can by holding up my end of things by earning my pay check, helping around the house and just generally being reliable.


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they are cause they want her to be happy and nothing bad to happen to her ever again.


So they turn into overbearing jerks ?
Sorry, but I've never seen an "over-protective" boyfriend who wasn't a control freak.
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I hate that it makes them seem to clingy a girl needs her space if she wants a protecter she'll ask for it geez why do guys think because your dating them that they automatically own you
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I think girls like it when their guy is protective cause it shows them that he can be aggressive? And i think girls really like it when a guy gets jealous cause it's cute?
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that's a good thing -_-
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Posted 1/2/09
thats rule no.1 for a guy
Posted 1/3/09
its nice when guys protect their girls..

it gives the girl a feeling of safety when he's around..
Posted 1/3/09

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Mine are never like that


ditto

and besides girls are never happy with anything anyway if the guy is protective he's too controlling if he isn't he's not defending her.

for me i would like a protective bf as long as he isn't clingy or needy.


Ohhh mine are always clingy or needy they just aint protective over me they guilt trip me usually


yeah the old emotional guilt trip...the way i see it clingy bfs become clingy exes so good riddance
Posted 1/3/09 , edited 1/3/09

makix wrote:

What kind of protective are you talking about here?

Jealousy overprotective? In this scenario, the boyfriend gets suspicious or annoyed when their girlfriends spend too much time with other guys. To answer you question, just think of yourself. If you had a boyfriend that spends too much time with another girl claiming her to be his "friend", wouldn't you get the bit least annoyed or jealous? Of course there's a fine line between healthy jealousy and being completely dominating and controlling.

Protective of harm? Again, not hard to explain. People don't want anything bad to happen to their loved ones even if it's considered "getting in the way". Again, this can get unhealthy as well. Example, if my girlfriend wanted to travel to say... an undeveloped part of Africa for an year for a special program, I wouldn't be happy to hear this news because this would mean that she would be split from me for a very long time and she would be more prone to danger.


I'll take this in segments, since it's worth answering.


To answer you question, just think of yourself. If you had a boyfriend that spends too much time with another girl claiming her to be his "friend", wouldn't you get the bit least annoyed or jealous?


No. Because my life doesn't revolve around her and her's doesn't revolve around me. There are other people in the partner's life other then me-- and quite frankly, I prefer it to be that way. If you trust the guy, and you've been good to him, and he hasn't cheated, you have little to nothing to worry about, if the guy is trustworthy and honest.

If not, I would challenge you to consider why you're with him. Same with any guy.


Example, if my girlfriend wanted to travel to say... an undeveloped part of Africa for an year for a special program, I wouldn't be happy to hear this news because this would mean that she would be split from me for a very long time and she would be more prone to danger.


Huh, what? So you mean that despite it being your girlfriend's wishes and dreams, you would get in the way of that because it is "potentially" dangerous and you'll be separated? I hope i'm misreading this, because that's a different can of worms that involve words like "selfish".

Ok. Bummed out that she's going somewhere far away? Allowable, but consider this: she dated you this entire time, knowing this factoid of her going off to Africa in... say three months. "Well, she suddenly decided it" hm? I would go as far as to say 'you never had her'. Really. What chick really, honestly thinks that she can go on a mission trip for a year, in the middle of a dating relationship, and come back to where everything started? She knows it's the end of that relationship as she knows it.

But let's assume she's that gullible. Just tell her, "ok, well send me a postcard once a month, and give me a call a year from now. "

All that aside, example not valid. I said "against her will". Signing up for the army or going on a mission trip is fully willed, and she knows full well what that will do to a dating relationship, whether she wants to admit it or not.


I am not over-protective of my wife, therefore she is not resentful of me. I let her do as she pleases, go where she wills, hang out with whom ever she likes, and engage in activities of her own choosing, like movies (I only ask that she checks with me to see if I would like to go along Image )


Guys, listen to this man. He knows his shit.
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because they don't want anything to happen to their blowjob machine
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uhm, i guess b/c they don't want her to *ahem* stray?? and maybe they think that'll happen when the girl see's a guy looking and gets cocky o.o weird, but that's my guess
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Posted 1/3/09

NORIEVINCENT wrote:

thats rule no.1 for a guy


why though??
Posted 1/3/09
its better to be selfish of your girl rather than share her with everbody.
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They don't want there girl to be rapped
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I think guys are like little kids. "That's mine, don't touch it" that kind of feeling. They care a lot about their pride


i dont think sharing my GF with other guys is a good idea....besides girls dont like that either..or maybe some ....
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Example, if my girlfriend wanted to travel to say... an undeveloped part of Africa for an year for a special program, I wouldn't be happy to hear this news because this would mean that she would be split from me for a very long time and she would be more prone to danger.


Huh, what? So you mean that despite it being your girlfriend's wishes and dreams, you would get in the way of that because it is "potentially" dangerous and you'll be separated? I hope i'm misreading this, because that's a different can of worms that involve words like "selfish".

You are misreading it and assuming. And you know what assuming does right? Nowhere in my original post did I say I would stop her; I only said what my theoretical first impression would be.


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