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Friends vs bf/gf
Posted 12/15/07
well I just do what I want
I don't mind them
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Posted 12/15/07
"Friendships last longer than relationships." Idk.. this could apply to your situation? XDDDDDDDDDD I don't know which to choose lol xDDDD
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Posted 12/15/07
EH?
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Posted 12/15/07
Do you think you know your bestfriend?? Of course you do, after all she's your bestfriend.
Do you think you really know your boyfriend??? Maybe...
Let's see...
But the case is, the words came from your boyfriend's friend, to your bestfriend's boyfriend then to your friend.
I think that it's best to hear it from the one who really saw it. Confront him, why did he say that there's a thing between your boyfriend and the mysterious girl.
What do you feel when you're with your boyfriend. Feel him, his actions and words. Observe!!!
trust your intuition. Make friends to the mysterious girl. Also observe her actions when your boyfriend's around.
It will also help if you confront your boyfriend. Say what you wanted to say to him. Also listen to him.
Then what can you say???
Decide what to do. You must decide. Ask help to your friends.
I think there are some who were able to witness.
REMEMBER!! Don't easily jump into conclusions. Think twice, thrice...
Think and Balance everything.
Follow your heart. Listen to your heart and mind.
:)
Good luck. I hope that this will be able to help you.:P

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Posted 12/15/07
Take it from an experianced person, guys tend to cheat ALOT at that age.
talking to f/bf is just talk, try to get the fact if possible.

1st confront him and see if his story hold up compared to ur friends. Mind U, it will be VERY hard to not want to believe him, especially if ur phycially close, but you u like know when u kiss him ur kissing someone else (uggh)

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Posted 12/15/07
hmmm.... for me... I would choose to trust my friends...

but in other case... you have to make sure that your friend is true... lol...

but for me... I really trust my friends... and also, your friends wont leave you but guys they can leave you hanging... and friends.. you can have them until forever.. but guys... they will say they will be yours forever but the truth is they can't be..

no offense... that's my point of view...
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Posted 12/15/07
You can't really decide until YOU see it for yourself and be more observant to her actions and also his. Even your best friend will bring you down. . . .learned from experience. . . . It is sad that you have to play the "I don't trust you card." But how can you when it is all hearsay.

It is kind of like when a husband and wife were to get into a physical fight and both left bruises and whatnot on the other person. Who is to say that the husband struck first, it could be the wife who threw the first punch, but you can't really say unless you see it for yourself.

So yea, your situation sucks, but what can you do? Just go with what you feel is right. Me, I would lay low and pretend I didn't know about it in the first place. If he becomes distance, then that is my cue to say さようなら。And if my friend starts to act weird, then I'll leave her a** behind too.
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Posted 12/15/07
Friends!!? hah, I been betray by just a many "friends as girlfriends.
I repeat GUY WILL CHEAT AT THAT AGE F THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT!!

Getting the FACT of any situation is the only true way to be satisfied. wheather U like the answers or not, at least U know the truth.
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Posted 12/15/07

jaynine69 wrote:


my ultimate advise, dont take sides., not yet., just make sure who is telling the truth., that would lessen the complications.,

good luck with that problem berry mallow.,


yeahh ill try not to be in any side from now on and just try to understand the fact
less emotional factor in the decision making is good, right?


janee4169 wrote:

you must weigh which do you think tells the truth..listen to your heart..and believe what it says..sometimes we must be able to know the needs of our heart for us to able to reach the necessity of the mind..


amazingly true.


killar wrote:

We don't allow vs threads here!

but since there is so much discussion I will allow it.

another mod might lock it though


awww,,, i really dont know... thx for noticing and allowing


uekiyuri wrote:

well...hmm...here is one question :
do ur bf tells u everything? like where he is going,what he is doing..etc.
if u dont, maybe u shud ask...
i am not saying that ur bf is cheating on u...but just to be on the safe side...u know, just to make sure that he is doing what he is doing...not saying one thing and doing something else...
i din ask u to spy...u can ask some of his close friends in a casual way.


he tells me everything,, kinda...
idk whether he's telling the truth or not tho...


bjay_ang wrote:

Solution for both: I will check personally by myself... And judge it wisely.

I can't simply just say yes... cause that stupid... And if you best fren or GF/BF left you because your not siding with them... I'll say thanks GOD... Cause he showed me the true form of my best fren and BF/GF.



Anyway, for fun, My fren got an interesting theory about BF/GF and frenz...

Showing Love and Friendship... Is like baking a cake.

If you bake a normal sponge cake, without any icing whatsoever, then that is a true fren. You treat your fren normally, and try to help them when they needed like you bake the cake.

If you add a little choclate chips in the cake, or some almond perhaps, but no icing, that is good/best fren. You tend to give more then usual your usaul fren... As you put the almond or chocolate chip in... But you didn't perfect it...

If you put icing into the cake, that is your BF/GF. You tend to perfect the cake, aka give them more then you give to others... You sealed all the loopholes of the cake by icing, meaning give them roses and present until they say I LOVE YOU!!!

BUT!!! If you put TOO MUCH Icing in the cake... Does it taste good? You eat the cake or the icing? Same to your BF/GF. If you shower them with lots of lots of present, follow them wherever they are, always call them... You're in BIG TROUBLE BABY!!!

Let say someone suddenly gives you a lot, always ask you whether your alright, always call you... even when your sleeping, follow you around... Will you like it?

Think about it... Maybe you don't quie understand, but once you read again, you might get it.

A lot of thanx to my gud fren, lecturing me about love... HEhe...


true.
it shows their true color...
and well u probably doesnt wanna see that when ur already married..
lmao
the sooner u figured out uf bf/gf's true color, the better,, rite :D


janee4169 wrote:

you must weigh which do you think tells the truth..listen to your heart..and believe what it says..sometimes we must be able to know the needs of our heart for us to able to reach the necessity of the mind..


amazingly true XD


agfreann619 wrote:

Do you think you know your bestfriend?? Of course you do, after all she's your bestfriend.
Do you think you really know your boyfriend??? Maybe...
Let's see...
But the case is, the words came from your boyfriend's friend, to your bestfriend's boyfriend then to your friend.
I think that it's best to hear it from the one who really saw it. Confront him, why did he say that there's a thing between your boyfriend and the mysterious girl.
What do you feel when you're with your boyfriend. Feel him, his actions and words. Observe!!!
trust your intuition. Make friends to the mysterious girl. Also observe her actions when your boyfriend's around.
It will also help if you confront your boyfriend. Say what you wanted to say to him. Also listen to him.
Then what can you say???
Decide what to do. You must decide. Ask help to your friends.
I think there are some who were able to witness.
REMEMBER!! Don't easily jump into conclusions. Think twice, thrice...
Think and Balance everything.
Follow your heart. Listen to your heart and mind.
:)
Good luck. I hope that this will be able to help you.:P



i know,, im like thinking for the 10000th time T_T aaaaaaaaaahhh~
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Posted 12/15/07

thebloke wrote:

Take it from an experianced person, guys tend to cheat ALOT at that age.
talking to f/bf is just talk, try to get the fact if possible.

1st confront him and see if his story hold up compared to ur friends. Mind U, it will be VERY hard to not want to believe him, especially if ur phycially close, but you u like know when u kiss him ur kissing someone else (uggh)



yepp really hard not to believe him
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Posted 12/15/07
^ yes and even harder if he's a first ( if u know wat I mean
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Posted 12/15/07
^ yep,, understand completely.. he's not the first, but its harder when ur first hurt u so bad that u wish that no one could hurt u anymore T_T
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Posted 12/15/07
Ohh, I know that feeling, I was seeing this girl, one day its romantic kisses in the rain, then a few days later she's hang around some other guy
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Posted 12/15/07
i would choose Friends it's better friends alway be there for u no matter wat u do..i have a gf srry that i choose but i have too..
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Posted 12/15/07
It just depends on how well you know each person. Since your f has a bf, i wont say she's jealous and would lie to you. but your bf's f might be lieing because he may secretly like you. or, unfortunately, your bf may be cheating. Since I have a fiance now, i would trust him more than anyone. So, I can't relate to bf problems that well...the only advice i can give you is to stay calm and think rationally. look at body language. does your bf have his hands in his pocket?(that usually means he's lieing. i read about this in a body language book a guy wrote about men.) if he constantly looks away from your eyes, hes lieing. but if hes looking at you in your eyes and constantly trying to hold your hand, he may probably be telling the truth. same with your friend. she doesnt know what happened 100% so dont hold it against her if it turns out that your bf didnt cheat. but your bf' f, bring him in on this too and look at body language with him too.

good luck and hope all goes well.
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