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Posted 5/8/07 , edited 5/8/07
The first 3 seconds are said to decide your impression of someone, but I'll go for the first 5 minutes.

As the topic description said, i want to know what provoces your immediate sympathy/anthipathy - apart from the subconscious stuff like someone's body odor, which is said to decide until a certain extend if you'll find someone sympathetic or not.

So I'm only interested in stuff you realize you immediately like/dislike about someone. Which can be anything, voice, hand shake, physiognomy, sense of style etc.

As for me, I don't like small, thin lips, because they give me the impression of small-mindedness and/or a malevolent character. I don't like women in polka dotted clothes on first glance either, because it bores my eyes. A dull facial expression is unlikely to suggest anything positive to me. I find a solid hand shake more sympathetic than a weak one and so on.

Of course this is completely subjective and not to be taken serious, of course there are thin-lipped people with great personalities as they are huge.mouthed Nazis .
Hope there's no similar topic yet.
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heh, im just too apathetic in real life to scrutinize others. Unless you greet me with a fist, i could care less about physical appearances.
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Well Im with cbisram a bit. I care more about what someones saying, and don't really give a shit if they are not looking me in the eye or whatever as long as they seem sincere and know what they are doing, who would have guessed. But as far as physical things the proper smile for situation and just being cheerful gets me pretty well.

On another point, admit it gals, you like the tall guys.

"That means that a person who is six feet tall, but who is otherwise identical to someone who is five foot five, will make on average $5,525 more per year. As Timothy Judge, one of the authors of the study, points out: 'If you take this over the course of a 30-year career and compound it, we're talking about a tall person enjoying literally hundreds of thousands of dollars of earnings advantage.'"
ref: http://www.gladwell.com/blink/blink_excerpt2.html
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Posted 5/8/07
^Lol, why gals? I think most employers are men
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Posted 5/8/07
I think he was pointing out the fact that gals like tall, rich men.
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I'd have to say physical appearance isn't exactly where i get pushy about, so to speak.

I go more for what they say like Eros. If they are telling me some pretty harsh stuff or if it's
something that i just don't care about i'll end up either walking away or try to be polite as i
ask them to stop.

Though if on first glance they gave me a nasty look i'd never speak to them. That's
about it on what i'd do though.
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well read the article referenced, it explains it better.

try some implicit prejudice tests:
https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/demo/selectatest.html

Here you go ollie: "Your data suggest a slight automatic preference for Straight People compared to Gay People."
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I read it. Are you referring to this part:

"Most of us, in ways that we are not entirely aware of, automatically associate leadership ability with imposing physical stature. We have a sense, in our minds, of what a leader is supposed to look like, and that stereotype is so powerful that when someone fits it, we simply become blind to other considerations."

Like women dig tall men for similar reasons? I'd say tall men have to bend down a little to talk to smaller women, so that has something protective about it.

Oh and some mod, please fix the title, I made a mistake. It say firts impressions now
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I agree with eros about the height thing. I'm tall, but I know short dudes that just can't get a break with women. I think women have a built in attraction to tall men through evolution. Nowadays the whole 'man provides security for women' notion is tripe, but I guess having male partner who is physically larger provides some sort of unconscious psychological feeling of support. It would be nice to have that idea done away with though, so that when there is a bump in the night a wife doesn't have to wake up her husband to go check downstairs, but can go by herself with confidence.
Posted 5/8/07
Actually appearance doesn't have much to do w/ my first impression of someone. It's about what they're actually saying.
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First, you spelled first wrong. Second, the girl has to be clean and pretty. My own definitions of this apply. Then, I'll talk to her and if she's stupid it's over from there. I'm not asking for a genius but a dummy is a no-no.
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^Yeah, I've already asked a mod to fix it Thanks anyway. It's not about the opposite sex in particular, just general stuff...
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I try not to judge someone really quickly ............... unless they're glareing at me or something
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I'm not particularly impressed with people who talk crude as a normal speech, however I do like people who talk in a "rural" manner as a way to hold up light banter. (as I do a lot in this forum)
I hate people who stand so close. I don't like it when someone takes a preacher's voice (i.e. Al Sharpton) to me. It feels degrading.
I point out hates because I generally start off slightly withdrawn when meeting people. I over analyze people and situations, so I don't reveal much of myself. I'm not a very social person. It doesn't take much for me to dislike you on first meeting, but I'm easy to sway once I see your worth respect.
But I enjoy meeting someone with an open mind with a sense of humor. I'll drop hints of carnage at some people to see how they react (I remember someone who my dad knew who asked me how my dad was, where I dropped a comment about having been as fun as drop-kicking a baby through a window)


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Posted 5/8/07
clothing...i know, wow, very mature. but i instantly dislike a person by the way they dressed. not going to judge on how expensive something is, more like how revailing. if i feel like i might not like you, i won't even bother to be your friend. i'll still be nice and smile but it goes no further.
also how a person carrys themselves. i hate arrogant people, no matter how handsome or beautiful.
i do try to make friends though and not judge people by apperance but anyone who says they don't judge aren't being truthful. we all judge, just a matter of degree.
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