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Posted 3/5/09
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don't ask for opinions if you can't take them (regardless of wtf you ask).
you are your own person. enjoy the `torture` or leave and learn your lesson.
Posted 3/6/09
^ looks like she needs it badly.
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Posted 3/6/09
Abusive relationships are FUCKING HOT.
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Posted 3/6/09

asamiueto wrote:
being a `victim` is to let it happen. by staying, you encourage it.


that's a pretty insensitive and childish thing to say. I've studied the nature of abuse pretty closely and I can tell you know whatever your saying doesn't quite match up with the truth.
Posted 3/6/09
To OP: Have you learned anything anyway?

IMO:
It is sad.
That the person you love or you used to, doesn't give you the respect you're due since you're partners / lovers.
BTW, I haven't been into any relationships but I've seen a lot of this happening.
Posted 3/6/09
It's sad seeing so many childish and immature responses to this hard boiled subject.

It's horrible for children to grow up in these kind of environments and I really feel with the women who are being abused like this. It is not their fault and it's not as easy to get out as you may think it is. Sometimes the abuse has been going on for so long that they actually start to believe the words their husband yells at them, like "your worthless" for example and they think that they don't deserve anything better. Most women don't know that there is a lot of "homes" or shelters to go to, to live temporarily until you have stabilized yourself, which can be quite tough if you also have a child.

Fear is the most common source as to why women choose to stay in an abusive relationship. But there can also be a strong sense of Love towards the other person and the need to try and make it work in the relationship.
There's a lot of other reasons also, like economics, the lack of family support etc etc.
Posted 3/6/09

yueguang-ji-yi wrote:

Well, I just got out of an abusive relationship that included (of course) hitting, controlling, comparing, sexual pressure, and talking down. He ended up cheating on me, so I was able to get away from him before it got any worse... O.o Anyway, I'm just wondering what you all think about abusive relationships...
Don't think about the negative relationship that you had with him, and instead start to learn how to love yourself more. Because anything negative will only take away your time, energy, and resources from you with no return. And you had something better to devote whatever that's yours to: yourself.

So pickup a hobby, something new that you would like to do, or improve upon. Learn to appreciate, advocate, and understand the most important person that's one of the kind in this world, yourself. And when you can find happiness in loving yourself first, that's when you can be happy for loving others. And do it now, because the time you have right now is the most precious, that's why it's called "present."
Posted 3/6/09

asamiueto wrote:

^

don't ask for opinions if you can't take them (regardless of wtf you ask).
you are your own person. enjoy the `torture` or leave and learn your lesson.


Orrrrr you can shut the fuck up~~
=D
Now, there's an idea!
Posted 3/6/09

ShroomInferno wrote:

^ looks like she needs it badly.


Looks like you need to shut the fuckk up, too.
=D
Posted 3/6/09

DomFortress wrote:


yueguang-ji-yi wrote:

Well, I just got out of an abusive relationship that included (of course) hitting, controlling, comparing, sexual pressure, and talking down. He ended up cheating on me, so I was able to get away from him before it got any worse... O.o Anyway, I'm just wondering what you all think about abusive relationships...
Don't think about the negative relationship that you had with him, and instead start to learn how to love yourself more. Because anything negative will only take away your time, energy, and resources from you with no return. And you had something better to devote whatever that's yours to: yourself.

So pickup a hobby, something new that you would like to do, or improve upon. Learn to appreciate, advocate, and understand the most important person that's one of the kind in this world, yourself. And when you can find happiness in loving yourself first, that's when you can be happy for loving others. And do it now, because the time you have right now is the most precious, that's why it's called "present."


Whyyy, thank you. What a kind thing to say. I am moving on indeed and learning from my mistake of staying with him for so long. But you know, he was my first boyfriend and I thought I loved him, but I was wrong. What I really don't need are stupid fuckkers telling me that I'm looking for attention and being weird and saying abuse is cool (not you, but others. >.>;). I know I really shouldn't care what people on the internet say (if it's rude), but seriously? Have you READ what they've written? Come on. They need to grow up a little.

Anywayyyy, I'm trying and that's what matters, right? ^____^
Posted 3/6/09

yueguang-ji-yi wrote:


ShroomInferno wrote:

^ looks like she needs it badly.


Looks like you need to shut the fuckk up, too.
=D


Looks like you don't know how to mult-quote. =D

Your response to my post just proved me right. You WANT it.
Posted 3/6/09

ShroomInferno wrote:


yueguang-ji-yi wrote:


ShroomInferno wrote:

^ looks like she needs it badly.


Looks like you need to shut the fuckk up, too.
=D


Looks like you don't know how to mult-quote. =D

Your response to my post just proved me right. You WANT it.


Why the fuckk does it matter if I know how to multi-quote?
Multi-quoting doesn't define life, fagggggg.
=D
And I really don't want anything but for you to STFUUUUUUUU~~
^___^
Posted 3/6/09

yueguang-ji-yi wrote:
Why the fuckk does it matter if I know how to multi-quote?
Multi-quoting doesn't define life, fagggggg.
=D
And I really don't want anything but for you to STFUUUUUUUU~~
^___^


Impossible if you keep on quoting me with such hostile answers.
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Posted 3/6/09

Rebanex wrote:

It's sad seeing so many childish and immature responses to this hard boiled subject.

It's horrible for children to grow up in these kind of environments and I really feel with the women who are being abused like this. It is not their fault and it's not as easy to get out as you may think it is. Sometimes the abuse has been going on for so long that they actually start to believe the words their husband yells at them, like "your worthless" for example and they think that they don't deserve anything better. Most women don't know that there is a lot of "homes" or shelters to go to, to live temporarily until you have stabilized yourself, which can be quite tough if you also have a child.

Fear is the most common source as to why women choose to stay in an abusive relationship. But there can also be a strong sense of Love towards the other person and the need to try and make it work in the relationship.
There's a lot of other reasons also, like economics, the lack of family support etc etc.


Ahhh; words of wisdom from a fellow 15 yr old. ahhh; the heart warming tears...*content smile + tears.*

YUP I'm weird. ANYWAYS; (I have no idea why I did that but yeahhh! it was a spur-of-the-moment type of thing)

JUST so this post of mine wouldn't be stupid. *coughs*itwillifidno'tstoprambling*coughs*

Abusive relationships are not something that's new, or rare, or easy, or fun. If I recall correctly, it was 1/3 woman or 1/2 woman in their life time will experience an abusive relationship of some kind. (Great; what does THAT say about men? HUMMM. Glad I'm gay.) Though, as much as I'd LIKE to think -and say- all men are violent-stupid-morons, the truth is; abuse comes in many different forms and shapes, and not just from guys. When most people think of abusive relationships we normally get the image of a tall/strong/bucky(? a word?) guy and a small fragile girl, and well, the girl is the victim, and is obviously physically abused. --- well, that example IS abuse; but there's many more...


Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual. Slapping, hitting, and kicking are forms of physical abuse that can occur in both romances and friendships.

Emotional abuse (stuff like teasing, bullying, and humiliating others) can be difficult to recognize because it doesn't leave any visible scars. Threats, intimidation, putdowns, and betrayal are all harmful forms of emotional abuse that can really hurt — not just during the time it's happening, but long after too.

Sexual abuse can happen to anyone, guy or girl. It's never right to be forced into any type of sexual experience that you don't want.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/abuse.html


What do I "think about abusive relationships"?

Honestly; it's a very hard situation (once again, I'm glad I'm gay <3 --- what can I say? Less chances :D) to tackle. Like the common sense thing would be 'get out! ASAP' --- I'm sure even a five year old can tell you that.

So; why DON'T people do that?

WELL, the answer is not black-and-white. Relationships are confusing. They're complex. The (guy) can be some REALLY cool amazing popular guy, and you two could've been together for YEARS before it got abusive; or like something happened and THEN the person became abusive (e.g: a father who suddenly lost their job of ten years, and now don't know what to do and stays home all day long drinking ._.; ) --- I'm sure no one would know what to do during those kinds of situations. Well, I'm sure as hell I wouldn't know. it's NOT just as simple as leaving -- SO anyways; what do I think of it? Eh; well, leaving? Maybe. BUT pausing and stopping the relationship? Obviously. Get counseling? Without a DOUBT. (for both parties) and if all else don't work. Just pack up and leave. Break contact with the guy (or girl).
Posted 3/6/09 , edited 3/7/09

yueguang-ji-yi wrote:


asamiueto wrote:

^

don't ask for opinions if you can't take them (regardless of wtf you ask).
you are your own person. enjoy the `torture` or leave and learn your lesson.


Orrrrr you can shut the fuck up~~
=D
Now, there's an idea!


how about you stop crying about it?
stupid ugly girls like you are always abused.
enjoy =p
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