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Abusive Relationships
Posted 3/6/09

meowzy wrote:


asamiueto wrote:
being a `victim` is to let it happen. by staying, you encourage it.


that's a pretty insensitive and childish thing to say. I've studied the nature of abuse pretty closely and I can tell you know whatever your saying doesn't quite match up with the truth.


study some more.
Posted 3/7/09

Omok wrote:


Rebanex wrote:

It's sad seeing so many childish and immature responses to this hard boiled subject.

It's horrible for children to grow up in these kind of environments and I really feel with the women who are being abused like this. It is not their fault and it's not as easy to get out as you may think it is. Sometimes the abuse has been going on for so long that they actually start to believe the words their husband yells at them, like "your worthless" for example and they think that they don't deserve anything better. Most women don't know that there is a lot of "homes" or shelters to go to, to live temporarily until you have stabilized yourself, which can be quite tough if you also have a child.

Fear is the most common source as to why women choose to stay in an abusive relationship. But there can also be a strong sense of Love towards the other person and the need to try and make it work in the relationship.
There's a lot of other reasons also, like economics, the lack of family support etc etc.


Ahhh; words of wisdom from a fellow 15 yr old. ahhh; the heart warming tears...*content smile + tears.*

YUP I'm weird. ANYWAYS; (I have no idea why I did that but yeahhh! it was a spur-of-the-moment type of thing)

JUST so this post of mine wouldn't be stupid. *coughs*itwillifidno'tstoprambling*coughs*

Abusive relationships are not something that's new, or rare, or easy, or fun. If I recall correctly, it was 1/3 woman or 1/2 woman in their life time will experience an abusive relationship of some kind. (Great; what does THAT say about men? HUMMM. Glad I'm gay.) Though, as much as I'd LIKE to think -and say- all men are violent-stupid-morons, the truth is; abuse comes in many different forms and shapes, and not just from guys. When most people think of abusive relationships we normally get the image of a tall/strong/bucky(? a word?) guy and a small fragile girl, and well, the girl is the victim, and is obviously physically abused. --- well, that example IS abuse; but there's many more...


Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual. Slapping, hitting, and kicking are forms of physical abuse that can occur in both romances and friendships.

Emotional abuse (stuff like teasing, bullying, and humiliating others) can be difficult to recognize because it doesn't leave any visible scars. Threats, intimidation, putdowns, and betrayal are all harmful forms of emotional abuse that can really hurt — not just during the time it's happening, but long after too.

Sexual abuse can happen to anyone, guy or girl. It's never right to be forced into any type of sexual experience that you don't want.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/relationships/abuse.html


What do I "think about abusive relationships"?

Honestly; it's a very hard situation (once again, I'm glad I'm gay <3 --- what can I say? Less chances :D) to tackle. Like the common sense thing would be 'get out! ASAP' --- I'm sure even a five year old can tell you that.

So; why DON'T people do that?

WELL, the answer is not black-and-white. Relationships are confusing. They're complex. The (guy) can be some REALLY cool amazing popular guy, and you two could've been together for YEARS before it got abusive; or like something happened and THEN the person became abusive (e.g: a father who suddenly lost their job of ten years, and now don't know what to do and stays home all day long drinking ._.; ) --- I'm sure no one would know what to do during those kinds of situations. Well, I'm sure as hell I wouldn't know. it's NOT just as simple as leaving -- SO anyways; what do I think of it? Eh; well, leaving? Maybe. BUT pausing and stopping the relationship? Obviously. Get counseling? Without a DOUBT. (for both parties) and if all else don't work. Just pack up and leave. Break contact with the guy (or girl).


I am wisdom itself
Posted 3/7/09

asamiueto wrote:


yueguang-ji-yi wrote:


asamiueto wrote:

^

don't ask for opinions if you can't take them (regardless of wtf you ask).
you are your own person. enjoy the `torture` or leave and learn your lesson.


Orrrrr you can shut the fuck up~~
=D
Now, there's an idea!


how about you stop crying about it?
stupid ugly girls like you are always abused.
enjoy =p


You seriously think I'm crying about something a person on the internet says?
I'm not that pathetic.
And me? Ugly? I think not. I think I'm quite fabulous, actually.
You're the one who has no real pictures of yourself.
Therefore, you're the one who's either fat or ugly.
^___^
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Posted 3/7/09 , edited 3/7/09

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asamiueto wrote:


yueguang-ji-yi wrote:


asamiueto wrote:

^

don't ask for opinions if you can't take them (regardless of wtf you ask).
you are your own person. enjoy the `torture` or leave and learn your lesson.


Orrrrr you can shut the fuck up~~
=D
Now, there's an idea!


how about you stop crying about it?
stupid ugly girls like you are always abused.
enjoy =p


You seriously think I'm crying about something a person on the internet says?
I'm not that pathetic.
And me? Ugly? I think not. I think I'm quite fabulous, actually.
You're the one who has no real pictures of yourself.
Therefore, you're the one who's either fat or ugly.
^___^


Lol.
Good going Asami, now I can't compare my vivacious self to this tramp.
Yes, this is really me; a chubby Pokemon in a Hitler outfit >_>
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Posted 3/12/09
This reminds me of my sister && brother-in-law.
They fight at a light reason! They're so childish.. this people... tsk tsk tsk.
My brother-in-law hurts my sister whenever they have some debate about some reason which should be talked easily. They fight like a child and it irritates me! My nephew and niece had done nothing to deserve such parents. Poor them.. but all my sister can say is.. "That's what I call LOVE!" LOOOOOOOOOVE?
For goodness sake!
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Posted 3/12/09

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I won't tolerate with that kind of relationship. Even if I love the person, I have more pride.


i cant agree more... it just puts me off when someone does that.
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Posted 3/12/09
this kind of relationship really sucks... i have empathy to the abusee,,poor souls. i would recommend you to get rid of the abuser as soon as possible.. coz if not, you'll be destroying your life -sacrificing without worth..
Posted 3/12/09
I hit her once, she stayed.

I hit her twice, she stayed.

I hit her so much that we needed counseling.

Then afterwards I hit her again.



Now I don't know if he's trying to become the next best boxer or if she prides herself in being a very good punching bag.

Why they stay together, who knows?
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Posted 3/12/09
Sounds like OP was leaving the kitchen without a valid reason.
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Posted 3/12/09
i will not tolerate it. at the first sign of abusiveness, i will get out of there ASAP and not give him a second chance and will not wait for him to "change".
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Posted 3/14/09

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Well, I just got out of an abusive relationship that included (of course) hitting, controlling, comparing, sexual pressure, and talking down. He ended up cheating on me, so I was able to get away from him before it got any worse... O.o Anyway, I'm just wondering what you all think about abusive relationships...

***EDIT: This is NOT me trying to get attention. I just want to know what you all think. God damn. If I was trying to get attention, I'd be fat and ugly, but since I'm not, I'm not attention-seeking. Jeeez. =.=;


Until it got any worse?

Where the hell was your mind at? It was already bad, sheesh.
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