First  Prev  1  2  3  4  Next  Last
advantages and disadvantages to having sex before a permanent spouse.
4294 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
forgot where
Offline
Posted 3/10/09 , edited 3/14/09
what r the advantages and disadvantages to having sex before a permanent spouse.? i use permanent spouse interchagablely with marriage because not everyone will ever get married or stay married for that matter.

And this quesion doesnt apply to those who will stay single thier entire life. (like me)

i personaly know a few advantages- such as trusts, respect, love (hopefully).
If u dont feel respected, loved, or trusted by your spouse, your in the wrong relationship.And if u arnt giving those things u r an asshole and deserve to die.

i dont know any real disadvantages in a permanent serious relationship. Some people would like to argue that if u arnt good in bed your wife or whatever will leave you.

but that doesnt make sense because
#1) marriages or permanent relationships shouldnt be based on sex to begin with. Studies show that most marriages last longer when based on respect, not love or sex. You can beat your wife and still llove her. You can be great in bed and still be beaten by your spouse. But no man who respects a woman would ever hit her.especially thier wife.

#2) having sex is like fighting/martial arts. Practice makes improvement. and experience is great training. why not train in your relationship? ask your spouse how she likes it and where she wants it. I saw this on Oprah once. These older couples were having a hard time having good sex cause they have been doing it so long.So Oprah recommended watching a few porn flick together and discussing how they want to be touched, where they wanted to be touched, ect.
Same thing with fighting. teach your lover how to do jujitsu. do it naked, idk.... be creative. my sensei always told me that being aggressive can make up for a lack of skill. The same thing goes for sex.

#3)if one of you happens to lack both skill and aggressiveness in sex, then teach them. Why would the person your supposevly in love with dump over something that can be fixed with relative ease? Its like martial arts. Just because im not a master today, doesnt mean i cant train to become one tomarrow. Same with sex.
If u happen to be the one with more experience, dont belittle your partner because he/she isnt. thats being a bitch. especially in a permanent relationship.why not teach them? it can be a fun date. teach him/her a little martial arts while your at it. it add spice to life.

but maybe im naive and ignorant. If there r other disadvantages- enlighten me.

(btw, its bad to beat your wife- martial arts r meant to be used to kill people who r after your wife, not killing your wife)

Edit: btw, just for a qucik understanding, i am talking about serious relationships only.If u blow through 500 men a night, but u were serious about each one, that situation still counts as a permanent spouse/marriage.Only 50% of marriages last in the USA.and marriage or a permanent spouse isnt for everyone.once again this quesion only applies to those who want to be in a serious one at least one time before they die. peace over war
548 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M / Boston
Offline
Posted 3/10/09
Hahaha! You finally post a thread not about fighting, and you compare everything in it to fighting!

You're probably my favorite thread-starter.
Posted 3/10/09
can someone summarize..
Posted 3/10/09
alot of things you said is true....but there are many things that's a disadvantage in marriages such as a spouse being abused or being controlled in the relationship (same as abuse) ....
Posted 3/10/09
Oh, one that's not about fighting. . . . sort of.

Are you saying that a healthy relationship can only be if a man can master his martial cock?
11195 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M / Big bad ass Los A...
Offline
Posted 3/10/09
Practice, and more practice. Then it all pays off when you're married, and your wife/husband is asking: "whoa, where did
you learn that!"
16399 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / F / Under your bed!!!...
Offline
Posted 3/10/09
Wow all your threads are about fighting. ^^

This one mentions it. xD But I agree respect is what keeps a relationship going.
19863 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
69 / M / Limbo
Offline
Posted 3/11/09 , edited 3/11/09
Advantage to no relationship: You'll get to sleep with as many chicks as you want (Or you can get), with no repercussions. (Unless one of em is clingy, then you'll have some crazy broad throwing drinks at your face.)

Disadvantage to no relationship: They probably won't be into the shit you want em' to do.
10817 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / F / Wales, UK
Offline
Posted 3/11/09
what r the advantages and disadvantages to having sex before a permanent spouse.?

advantages - i gess you get experence? i would not know...soz

disadvantages- what if your girl/you got pregnant? would he support you...or tell you to get rid of it...
I could never have an abortion, plush i'm a christian so sex before marrige is a no no for me, people laugh when i say this but you know what i don't really care *does peace sign*
1043 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
72 / F
Offline
Posted 3/11/09
You do compare everything to fighting and its quite funny haha. Well marriages are not about having sex, love, or whatever, marriage means being able to spend the rest of your life and maybe raise a family with one significant other.
5355 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
76 / M / UK
Offline
Posted 3/11/09
so u dnt 'one-gina' syndrome! haha
1181 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
33 / M / heterotopia
Offline
Posted 3/11/09

JJT2 wrote:

what r the advantages and disadvantages to having sex before a permanent spouse.? i use permanent spouse interchagablely with marriage because not everyone will ever get married or stay married for that matter.

And this quesion doesnt apply to those who will stay single thier entire life. (like me)

i personaly know a few advantages- such as trusts, respect, love (hopefully).
If u dont feel respected, loved, or trusted by your spouse, your in the wrong relationship.And if u arnt giving those things u r an asshole and deserve to die.

i dont know any real disadvantages in a permanent serious relationship. Some people would like to argue that if u arnt good in bed your wife or whatever will leave you.

but that doesnt make sense because
#1) marriages or permanent relationships shouldnt be based on sex to begin with. Studies show that most marriages last longer when based on respect, not love or sex. You can beat your wife and still llove her. You can be great in bed and still be beaten by your spouse. But no man who respects a woman would ever hit her.especially thier wife.

#2) having sex is like fighting/martial arts. Practice makes improvement. and experience is great training. why not train in your relationship? ask your spouse how she likes it and where she wants it. I saw this on Oprah once. These older couples were having a hard time having good sex cause they have been doing it so long.So Oprah recommended watching a few porn flick together and discussing how they want to be touched, where they wanted to be touched, ect.
Same thing with fighting. teach your lover how to do jujitsu. do it naked, idk.... be creative. my sensei always told me that being aggressive can make up for a lack of skill. The same thing goes for sex.

#3)if one of you happens to lack both skill and aggressiveness in sex, then teach them. Why would the person your supposevly in love with dump over something that can be fixed with relative ease? Its like martial arts. Just because im not a master today, doesnt mean i cant train to become one tomarrow. Same with sex.
If u happen to be the one with more experience, dont belittle your partner because he/she isnt. thats being a bitch. especially in a permanent relationship.why not teach them? it can be a fun date. teach him/her a little martial arts while your at it. it add spice to life.

but maybe im naive and ignorant. If there r other disadvantages- enlighten me.

(btw, its bad to beat your wife- martial arts r meant to be used to kill people who r after your wife, not killing your wife) peace over war


what about try before you buy?

just like when you go to a great sword maker, and try out a few samples so he can understand your form and what you need.

really no different from banging prostitutes until you get married in my view
Posted 3/11/09 , edited 3/11/09
Well, it might heighten the chances for you to have an affair - if you don't get some experience before marriage :0

Besides I don't think that humans were originally meant to be faithful to the one and only one...they love to screw around, that's just how it is.
Posted 3/11/09
Hmm, well a disadvantage is that when you've finally waited and married your partner, and after having sex... you discover that you're both not sexual compatible, then that could be a problem if you're wanting to enjoy it.
1067 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 3/11/09
Advantages: Lot's of fun
Disadvantages: STDs and unplanned pregnancies
First  Prev  1  2  3  4  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.