Is it okay to end a friendship?
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Posted 4/16/09
I am having a dilemma right now with my friends. Here's the situation:

We have been best friends since high school. We bonded over anime and mangas. But now, 6-8 years later, we have nothing in common any more. We just grew apart, and we all accepted it, or at least beginning to understand it. We just couldn't find things to do together now when someone has a birthday or to just hang out. We've done hurtful, though not consiciously, things to each other. It's just become too stressful, and made me a little paranoid and feel like they are talking behind my back or something like that. I don't want it to end at all, but hope that at least we can still be friends who could be civil and say hi every once in a while. I would talk to them, but we are not a talk-based group of friends. We barely have an hour-long conversation on the phone before, so calling them out of the blue is gonna look super out of character for me. and the only time I see them, is when there is an occation, but that is really not the best time to confront someone. Can anyone help me please?
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Posted 4/16/09
This should be in the advice thread.. but hey... isn't this what friendship is? Nonsensical interaction amongst others?

I'd say keep it chill. Leave it be unless it's gonna bite you in the ass later. Otherwise, it's nice to have friends that you don't need to talk to everyday. People change.
Posted 4/16/09
Let it die out, it is obvious it is causing you a problem. And if you guys really lost a connection it shouldn't be that hard. I know it kinda sounds surreal but most of my friends back in the third grade are now gangster wannabes. I want nothing with their life style, or to get involve. So yea just let it die out, im pretty sure you will be happier not being paranoid all the time.
Posted 4/16/09
Meh, why not??

I don't really see the reason for ''not ending your friendship'' when you like it
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30 / F / Milford, PA
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Posted 4/16/09
I don't think you need to say anything, it'll happen on its own.
Theres no point in causing trouble I've been in your situation...
if you go and say something to your friends you really will be the one they talk about.
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26 / M / London
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Posted 4/16/09
just stop talking to him.
Posted 4/16/09
Why be friends if you don't like them anymore?
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20 / F / Los Angeles
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Posted 4/16/09 , edited 4/16/09
just end it, if your friend doznt hang out with you, talk to you, or at least do something physical with you or make you happy then end it, theres really no reason to stay friends with that person, i ended a 2 year long friendship, i coudnt stand her anymore
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Posted 4/16/09
personal thread, use the personal advice thread


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