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Posted 12/23/07
I found this line in a review " - the pace and path of a cherry blossom petal as it falls to earth, for example, the simple, pure but overwhelming feelings that we deny ourselves as adults, true love, that’s what this anime is about", so I was wondering what you opinions on the statement "true love conquers all" and if you believe long distance releationships can actually work
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Well, I guess it can, since it often does. I don't think this anime is saying that. I think it's saying that it doesn't always. I also think that it says long distance relationships can be maintained, but they aren't worth what you lose.
Posted 12/23/07
Not really, the film is not about love conquers all, its about how people change so fast over the long time. So I think its really hard to maintained that kind of relationship.
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MrGids wrote:

Not really, the film is not about love conquers all, its about how people change so fast over the long time. So I think its really hard to maintained that kind of relationship.
Those are more or less my thoughts. I think distance is definitely a killer. Though it's not impossible, it's extremely difficult.

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Many have tried and failed to maintain long distance relationships. Its not impossible but gets diffcult and really sticky, when the party left behind begins to feel lonely and start to look around for alternative companionship, like a surrogate bf/gf.

In this case it doesnt apply - they just lost track of each other, period.
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Many have tried and failed to maintain long distance relationships. Its not impossible but gets diffcult and really sticky, when the party left behind begins to feel lonely and start to look around for alternative companionship, like a surrogate bf/gf.

In this case it doesnt apply - they just lost track of each other, period.
I think that's the most common case. That's why I liked the second chapter so much. Eventually, and this happens in a lot of cases, you begin to feel embarrassed to send letters. You feel weird trying to, because you know inside that you actually have no clue what the other person is going through. You can no longer talk to them about experiences because you aren't there with them. I lose contact with my friends for that reason. My best friend moved away, and I promised to stay in touch, but I simply have nothing to say to him. Things that we used to share become irrelevant, and talking about the past can only last so long. It can get painful. I totally understand why he stopped sending those messages.
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msilky wrote:

Many have tried and failed to maintain long distance relationships. Its not impossible but gets diffcult and really sticky, when the party left behind begins to feel lonely and start to look around for alternative companionship, like a surrogate bf/gf.

In this case it doesnt apply - they just lost track of each other, period.
I think that's the most common case. That's why I liked the second chapter so much. Eventually, and this happens in a lot of cases, you begin to feel embarrassed to send letters. You feel weird trying to, because you know inside that you actually have no clue what the other person is going through. You can no longer talk to them about experiences because you aren't there with them. I lose contact with my friends for that reason. My best friend moved away, and I promised to stay in touch, but I simply have nothing to say to him. Things that we used to share become irrelevant, and talking about the past can only last so long. It can get painful. I totally understand why he stopped sending those messages.


I've that happened to me to before. I've lost complete contact with a few friends coz we promised to keep in touch but somehow or rather, distance is a GREAT barrier, sad to say. That's why I cherish my friendships more these days. You dont need many, just a few good ones whom you can get along with (and who understand you) and count on when things get rough. Quality over quantity.
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I really think the secret to a long releationship is a lack of a social life, because those who dont have one cant go out and find someone better, or closer. Though its a sad though but the only way it was really work is if both parties love each other enough and basically rejected everyone else. Not that its hard to remain faithful to one person, but it becomes harder with only limited sorce of contact
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I really think the secret to a long relationship is a lack of a social life, because those who don't have one cant go out and find someone better, or closer. Though its a sad though but the only way it was really work is if both parties love each other enough and basically rejected everyone else. Not that its hard to remain faithful to one person, but it becomes harder with only limited source of contact.


I see where you're coming from. You basically have to be willing to devote every spare moment to maintain the relationship. I'm not sure if you're right, but it would make sense.
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luckystars1 wrote:

I really think the secret to a long relationship is a lack of a social life, because those who don't have one cant go out and find someone better, or closer. Though its a sad though but the only way it was really work is if both parties love each other enough and basically rejected everyone else. Not that its hard to remain faithful to one person, but it becomes harder with only limited source of contact.


I see where you're coming from. You basically have to be willing to devote every spare moment to maintain the relationship. I'm not sure if you're right, but it would make sense.


Of course it makes sense, everything makes sense in my head
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I dont really think they work out a lot. Besides in the movie it about reality not really "true love conquers all"
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Love can transcend distance, but only to an extent I believe.

You can only write letters or e-mails for so long. Eventually you get wrapped up in your own life and lose time to write and then when you have the time, you have no idea what to write to them anymore. You can write fairly frequently at the beginning because it hasn't been long since you've spoken to one another (probably), but the longer you're apart, the less frequently you can write because you lose things to write about. Eventually, the letters (or e-mails) usually stop being exchanged.

You can also only talk on the phone so much, because spending hours on the phone every day is a bit ridiculous (not to mention pricey). Even then because of the distance, you have to fish for things to talk about. The conversations and phone calls eventually begin to get shorter and they begin to space out or become limited to short calls or just stop all together.

Either way, communication eventually becomes limited or cuts off entirely. So I think the longer you're apart, the less likely the relationship is going to work out. If it's a shorter amount of time apart, the more likely it's going to work out. When you're young like Akari and Takaki were, though, the chances of maintaining a relationship over such a long time is much lower than if it were between young adults.

True love can only conquer so much. Physical distance is probably its greatest obstacle.
Posted 1/5/08
^so long but you're quite right.. but if you really love the person you can conquer all the struggles.. ahah^^ well for Takaki and Akari they didn't do any actions at all so it turned out a failed future for them together..
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Love can transcend distance, but only to an extent I believe.

You can only write letters or e-mails for so long. Eventually you get wrapped up in your own life and lose time to write and then when you have the time, you have no idea what to write to them anymore. You can write fairly frequently at the beginning because it hasn't been long since you've spoken to one another (probably), but the longer you're apart, the less frequently you can write because you lose things to write about. Eventually, the letters (or e-mails) usually stop being exchanged.

You can also only talk on the phone so much, because spending hours on the phone every day is a bit ridiculous (not to mention pricey). Even then because of the distance, you have to fish for things to talk about. The conversations and phone calls eventually begin to get shorter and they begin to space out or become limited to short calls or just stop all together.

Either way, communication eventually becomes limited or cuts off entirely. So I think the longer you're apart, the less likely the relationship is going to work out. If it's a shorter amount of time apart, the more likely it's going to work out. When you're young like Akari and Takaki were, though, the chances of maintaining a relationship over such a long time is much lower than if it were between young adults.

True love can only conquer so much. Physical distance is probably its greatest obstacle.


Again, pretty much my thoughts exactly. Great minds think alike I suppose. Eventually, communication becomes awkward and, unfortunately, unhelpful. Eventually, the two realize that they live different lives that neither know anything about.
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If you really love someone you have to let them go, cause for you to be happy they have to be unhappy which in the end won't make you happy anyways
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