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the two people involved in a long distance relationship don't usually end up together.. unless they strive that hard to be with each other no matter what.. i had always believed that the formula for everlasting love is.. COMMUNICATION+ RESPECT..
yeah.. communication really does a lot..
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nakakapikon wrote:

the two people involved in a long distance relationship don't usually end up together.. unless they strive that hard to be with each other no matter what.. i had always believed that the formula for everlasting love is.. COMMUNICATION+ RESPECT..
yeah.. communication really does a lot..


Yah.... you need communication, but on top of that it has to be constant, in your darkest hours or thier's people need someone to be out there for them. If you're in a relationship your partner is the first person you consider, so you always need to be able to contacted them. Also it adds up if you always phone each others, or are online with each other, Is it worth you financial stain for a dead end relationship even if you do love them.

"If you love something let it go,
If it comes back to you it`s your,
If it doesn`t, it never was."
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'if you love something let it go,
if it comes back to you,it's yours
if it doesn't,look for it
if you can't find it,it's not meant to be yours'

but don't feel bad.. everything happens for a reason.. that which is yours is just somewhere out there waiting for you..~nihaha! just being dramatic here..hihih..
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we seem so cold and non caring to people in long distace relationships, we need a optimist to join this discussion, I have a certain flare in chatroom that make me somewhat popular online, and I've experienced many online relationships, my most memorial was during the summer, but as soon as school started again, that ended. The person I was in a relationship with has personal problems in her life and I was more of a good friend (that still counts at a relationship), I've experienced three identical experiences but they drifted appart, this one lasted longer, but just like the others we drifted apart. We come from seperate world, we live in seperate worlds, but for those two months I was actually happy. Long distance relationship even if breif can still influence the people you have them with. so in conclusion, every relationship has to involve atleast two people, so remember you may not be that upset if things go south. All you can do is be happy for the other people involved, as they can finally rejoins reality, rarely they even meet again in the futur, so think about your present and let the other people experence thier present, cause that all we have to hold on to, the here and now.


I dont even know how I started this rant, I seem to change my though mid writting, and everything sound better in my head, sorry if you get lost trying to grip what I'm trying to say.
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I think relationships formed at a distance are different than ones formed close that spread apart. An online friendship is one developed to be exactly that: a relationship of verbal support. But if someone close to you leaves, there is a whole different connection.
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thats basically what im saying, real life connections fall under a special catogory, but you can still be influence by a non physical relationship as well, never underestimate the power of words
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luckystars1 wrote:

"If you love something let it go,
If it comes back to you it`s your,
If it doesn`t, it never was."



nakakapikon wrote:

'if you love something let it go,
if it comes back to you,it's yours
if it doesn't,look for it
if you can't find it,it's not meant to be yours'

but don't feel bad.. everything happens for a reason.. that which is yours is just somewhere out there waiting for you..~nihaha! just being dramatic here..hihih..


That quote is a total crap. Why would you let it go?
My opinion...if you love something, grab " it when you can...chances will never come twice.
Only let it go when you know that you can never have "it".



You need to let them go so they can enjoy thier life, you can no longer be the chain that keeps them from enjoying thier new life, this is thier new home, dont constrain them with memories of the past.
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Jeremy_N wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


Jeremy_N wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

"If you love something let it go,
If it comes back to you it`s your,
If it doesn`t, it never was."



nakakapikon wrote:

'if you love something let it go,
if it comes back to you,it's yours
if it doesn't,look for it
if you can't find it,it's not meant to be yours'

but don't feel bad.. everything happens for a reason.. that which is yours is just somewhere out there waiting for you..~nihaha! just being dramatic here..hihih..


That quote is a total crap. Why would you let it go?
My opinion...if you love something, grab " it when you can...chances will never come twice.
Only let it go when you know that you can never have "it".



You need to let them go so they can enjoy thier life, you can no longer be the chain that keeps them from enjoying thier new life, this is thier new home, dont constrain them with memories of the past.


Well, that is a right thing to do, but wouldn't the only one who getting hurt is the one-who-let-his/her love go?
There really aren't many thing that could hurt someone more than saying good-bye to someone whom he/she loved dearly, whether it's a friendship kind of love or a romantic kind of love.

It hurt, really hurt. You don't know how much pain it inflicted, and how long it'd take someone to recover from that wound; and you will never know, until you experience it, that is...

When one is in love, and I mean both romantic and friendship kind of love, it's alright to be a little selfish. Besides, memories are precious. Our memories are the only paradise from which we can never be expelled. Why would it be bad if we constrain someone with memories of the sparkling moments...that...we shared...together?


yes,it will hurt and that's it..in love, it's not really wrong to be selfish at times as what you have said,but if the two of you don't share the same feelings it is unnecessary..at one angle, the wound would be fatal for you if you let go of someone you love but rest assured,it will heal.. time heals almost everything.. on the other hand,if you would push someone to be with you who doesn't love you,he/she will suffer the rest of her life..

'sometimes,to do what's RIGHT,we need to give up the things we want the most..'

and yeah.. read between the lines^_^
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I don't know..after watching this anime,I really sat back and thought about this topic..
You know,when I was younger,I always thought that love could go through any barriers.If two people truly loved each other,they wouldn't let something like distance stop them.That should be what every one of us believed at some point of our lives.
But if two people struggled to keep contact with each other just to keep loving each other,I don't think that that's love at all.That's selfishness.If they kept on strrugling to drag up something to talk/write about,sooner or later,one will feel like he/she is burdening the person he/she loves by wanting them to keep on doing this.They would think that they themselves are being a burden just by wanting the person they love to keep loving them even though the chance of ever meeting are slim...or maybe never.By this time,they may deliberately break contact,hoping that the other person would forget them and go on with life.It's okay to be hated by the person you loved..but for that person's happiness,it's the right thing to do.
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i think this anime is about life. and what really happens. this is the first anime that i've seen that is pure reality. life happens real fast, and sometimes u cant stop it. u just have to hope everything turns out for the best.
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I don't know..after watching this anime,I really sat back and thought about this topic..
You know,when I was younger,I always thought that love could go through any barriers.If two people truly loved each other,they wouldn't let something like distance stop them.That should be what every one of us believed at some point of our lives.
But if two people struggled to keep contact with each other just to keep loving each other,I don't think that that's love at all.That's selfishness.If they kept on strrugling to drag up something to talk/write about,sooner or later,one will feel like he/she is burdening the person he/she loves by wanting them to keep on doing this.They would think that they themselves are being a burden just by wanting the person they love to keep loving them even though the chance of ever meeting are slim...or maybe never.By this time,they may deliberately break contact,hoping that the other person would forget them and go on with life.It's okay to be hated by the person you loved..but for that person's happiness,it's the right thing to do.


Exactly, over time it will become a chore, a mundane task, some days nothing happens and you end up writing jibberish, maybe you life isnt interesting, how do you keep a conversation going, But when do you know the right time to cut someone loose, that I cant tell you it differ per relationship, every relationship is different remeber that, you cant pridict whats gonna happen, thats the mystery of love, perhaps love can transend distance, im not saying it cant im just saying sometimes its better to let the one you love go, so they can expirence a new life, free from trying to love someone through a wall, after awhile you arms start to hurt.
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I think that when two poeple who were extremely close----perhaps the more because of that very closeness---meet again after a separation,there'l always a lesser or greator,of change.So,for example,if Takaki changes if some ways and tells Akari about it,she'll be glad if he changed for the better,but she'll feel left out because she wasn't there with him.This will always cause some negative feelings,especially when it concerns the one you love.And I think both of them knew in their hearts that they can never be just the same as before.
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Yah I know when two people meet after a long time they usually feel even more or not in loved at all, can your love for someone stand the test of time? If it can then you'd probably be together forever, if not tough luck theres lots of fish in the sea, just dont date a shark.
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Lavender88 wrote:

I don't know..after watching this anime,I really sat back and thought about this topic..
You know,when I was younger,I always thought that love could go through any barriers.If two people truly loved each other,they wouldn't let something like distance stop them.That should be what every one of us believed at some point of our lives.
But if two people struggled to keep contact with each other just to keep loving each other,I don't think that that's love at all.That's selfishness.If they kept on strrugling to drag up something to talk/write about,sooner or later,one will feel like he/she is burdening the person he/she loves by wanting them to keep on doing this.They would think that they themselves are being a burden just by wanting the person they love to keep loving them even though the chance of ever meeting are slim...or maybe never.By this time,they may deliberately break contact,hoping that the other person would forget them and go on with life.It's okay to be hated by the person you loved..but for that person's happiness,it's the right thing to do.


i don't think there's something wrong in struggling to keep contact for the sake of keeping your love for each other-well,unless you do it forever^^-..i mean of course one day you have to meet and strengthen the love that developed over distance. if by chance you then find it a burden or hard work or you feel disturbed by doing it then you loose with this what we call game of love..what's the use of doing it anymore? you just have to cut it out , go on with your life and that's the end of story!^^

remember,no work is hard when you love doing it..
keeping contact despite of distance is like building a bridge of chance for the one you love..
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The movies story is kinda similar to my last relationship hehe.

we've been a childhood friend since grade school, she moved when we're at the middle school and writing each others a letter to keep our communication alive. its been 10 years since we've met, we've been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years, and i stopped clinging to our relationship,since for her, she's suffering too much,wanting to meet once again, so i decided to break our relationship, coz i dont want to see her sad because we are meeting twice every semester. having a long distance relationship is kinda difficult i say.
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