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A long distance relationship is only good in theory, when it put in to practice its doesnt go as smoothly
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Long distance relationships can work if you really love that girl and would do anything for her. You just need to fight till the end. You never know what might happen. Only weak characters quit easily.
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Long distance relationships can work if you really love that girl and would do anything for her. You just need to fight till the end. You never know what might happen. Only weak characters quit easily.


Im not saying they dont work, and im not saying they do, im saying the majority of the time between average people it doesnt turn out well
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Jenrard wrote:

Long distance relationships can work if you really love that girl and would do anything for her. You just need to fight till the end. You never know what might happen. Only weak characters quit easily.


Im not saying they dont work, and im not saying they do, im saying the majority of the time between average people it doesnt turn out well


I know what u mean. The people who made this anime just wanted to say " that there's never a perfect ending ".

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I think thats why they went with a more realistic ending instead of a happy ending
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i don't think there's something wrong in struggling to keep contact for the sake of keeping your love for each other-well,unless you do it forever^^-..i mean of course one day you have to meet and strengthen the love that developed over distance. if by chance you then find it a burden or hard work or you feel disturbed by doing it then you loose with this what we call game of love..what's the use of doing it anymore? you just have to cut it out , go on with your life and that's the end of story!^^

remember,no work is hard when you love doing it..
keeping contact despite of distance is like building a bridge of chance for the one you love..


On the contrary: No matter how much you love something, work is work. It's like people who become artists because they love creating art. After a certain point, no matter how much they love art, it becomes hard to keep doing it. It's still work and it's hard.

You need more than love to maintain a relationship, whether it be long distance or not. Communication is just as important as your feelings and the physical part makes it worth the efforts you put in. To see the person, hear the person, feel the person, be able to hug them, kiss them, hold their hand, etc... Sure, you can see them on the webcam these days and hear them over the phone at the same time, but really it isn't the same at all as having them standing right next to you. For long distance relationships, the efforts usually begin to outweigh the results and they begin to fall apart.

Granted, your chances of success are higher if you've known and been with each other for sometime before the distance was put there. But as I believe I said before, the longer you're apart, the chance of staying together drops.

Long distance friendships tend to do a lot better than long distance romance in general.
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No matter how much you love something, work is work. It's like people who become artists because they love creating art. After a certain point, no matter how much they love art, it becomes hard to keep doing it. It's still work and it's hard.

You need more than love to maintain a relationship, whether it be long distance or not. Communication is just as important as your feelings and the physical part makes it worth the efforts you put in. To see the person, hear the person, feel the person, be able to hug them, kiss them, hold their hand, etc... Sure, you can see them on the webcam these days and hear them over the phone at the same time, but really it isn't the same at all as having them standing right next to you. For long distance relationships, the efforts usually begin to outweigh the results and they begin to fall apart.

Granted, your chances of success are higher if you've known and been with each other for sometime before the distance was put there. But as I believe I said before, the longer you're apart, the chance of staying together drops.

Long distance friendships tend to do a lot better than long distance romance in general.


go job Asou-kun you hit the nail on the head, even if you like something in your routine, it becomes something you have to do not something you want to do. physical contact in another key contributor in a relationship, this doesnt just include kissing or sex, there is tonnes of things that helps keep a relationship together. love is a fickle thing. within personal contact chemicals are released to tell the brain that there is physical contact, in the example of a kiss, the brain knows there is a kiss when you imagine a kiss over the internet, its does not get helded upon the same standards in the brain then a normal kiss would. There for you recieve less excitement or happiness in somes cases from the kiss. So if you feel that you long distance relationship is becomeing a chore to do, its better just to end it. I'll give you an example, youre starting a newspaper chain and you need to buy a zerox machine to easily make copies, instead of printing them out manually on an old printer, the cost of the printer (100$) is represent by the formula y= 25x + 100 the zerox cost 2000$ but only 5 dollars a month to print the supply when the printer is 25 a month. y=5x+2000, if you graph that on a calculator you'll see two lines one start lower down with a steeper curb when the other starts higher with less of a curb, depending on how long its goes, each is a viable optionyear only to have (this sort of got off point but I was trying to use the saying it takes money to make money to try to illustrate that if you goes through short term great loss of happiness it may be better then going though a little bit every now and then for a longer time is actually more painful, but if the wall breaks and you survives that chapter of you lives together you love will be stronger then anything and will most likely be together forever). So now with my point, isnt a short term split better then dragging out a dead relationship until it evenutally breaks anyways, but you can only take this into light if love is black and white (im not making a interractial comment) but love is a complex thing. It doesnt follow rules or deadlines so you never know how something will turn out that why im not telling people what to do only that its an option. take a look at you hand and see if you actually have a strong hand or if your just bluffing
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It's all right if we talk about it like this.But in reality,who knows? People nowadays are all pretty materialistic.They'll feel afraid of being forgotten by the person they loved and feel insecured >_< This is usually why couples break apart.The feeling of being insecure,afraid of being dumped after waiting for that particular person all that time..
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nakakapikon wrote:

i don't think there's something wrong in struggling to keep contact for the sake of keeping your love for each other-well,unless you do it forever^^-..i mean of course one day you have to meet and strengthen the love that developed over distance. if by chance you then find it a burden or hard work or you feel disturbed by doing it then you loose with this what we call game of love..what's the use of doing it anymore? you just have to cut it out , go on with your life and that's the end of story!^^

remember,no work is hard when you love doing it..
keeping contact despite of distance is like building a bridge of chance for the one you love..


On the contrary: No matter how much you love something, work is work. It's like people who become artists because they love creating art. After a certain point, no matter how much they love art, it becomes hard to keep doing it. It's still work and it's hard.

You need more than love to maintain a relationship, whether it be long distance or not. Communication is just as important as your feelings and the physical part makes it worth the efforts you put in. To see the person, hear the person, feel the person, be able to hug them, kiss them, hold their hand, etc... Sure, you can see them on the webcam these days and hear them over the phone at the same time, but really it isn't the same at all as having them standing right next to you. For long distance relationships, the efforts usually begin to outweigh the results and they begin to fall apart.

Granted, your chances of success are higher if you've known and been with each other for sometime before the distance was put there. But as I believe I said before, the longer you're apart, the chance of staying together drops.

Long distance friendships tend to do a lot better than long distance romance in general.


well,that's exactly my point! i don't think i deserve a contrary here^^.. your example about the artist applied to my thought only there are missing sentences..'after a certain point,no matter how much they love art,it becomes hard to keep doing it..i'ts still work and it's hard..then why don't they end it? they find it hard.. end it!

and yeah.. i don't remember saying that the two people involved in a long distance relationship should keep their distance forever!they should meet up right? the 'keeping contact' is building the bridge.. the bridge that they will pass through to be able to reach each other.. am i clear?^_^
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nakakapikon wrote:


Asou-kun wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:

i don't think there's something wrong in struggling to keep contact for the sake of keeping your love for each other-well,unless you do it forever^^-..i mean of course one day you have to meet and strengthen the love that developed over distance. if by chance you then find it a burden or hard work or you feel disturbed by doing it then you loose with this what we call game of love..what's the use of doing it anymore? you just have to cut it out , go on with your life and that's the end of story!^^

remember,no work is hard when you love doing it..
keeping contact despite of distance is like building a bridge of chance for the one you love..


On the contrary: No matter how much you love something, work is work. It's like people who become artists because they love creating art. After a certain point, no matter how much they love art, it becomes hard to keep doing it. It's still work and it's hard.

You need more than love to maintain a relationship, whether it be long distance or not. Communication is just as important as your feelings and the physical part makes it worth the efforts you put in. To see the person, hear the person, feel the person, be able to hug them, kiss them, hold their hand, etc... Sure, you can see them on the webcam these days and hear them over the phone at the same time, but really it isn't the same at all as having them standing right next to you. For long distance relationships, the efforts usually begin to outweigh the results and they begin to fall apart.

Granted, your chances of success are higher if you've known and been with each other for sometime before the distance was put there. But as I believe I said before, the longer you're apart, the chance of staying together drops.

Long distance friendships tend to do a lot better than long distance romance in general.


well,that's exactly my point! i don't think i deserve a contrary here^^.. your example about the artist applied to my thought only there are missing sentences..'after a certain point,no matter how much they love art,it becomes hard to keep doing it..i'ts still work and it's hard..then why don't they end it? they find it hard.. end it!

and yeah.. i don't remember saying that the two people involved in a long distance relationship should keep their distance forever!they should meet up right? the 'keeping contact' is building the bridge.. the bridge that they will pass through to be able to reach each other.. am i clear?^_^


What Im saying is that they could never be together again, and if not they got to still love each other no matter what, how long, and whatever temptations, fears, concerns they may come across, since they must travel so far only a few survive, but when they travel for a long time, lives change, people change, if you meet again its not the same person you meet years before, though you know him somewhat from whatever contact you had, they're still a diferent person, they experiences and everthing, just remeber they still a bit of what you fell in love with deep inside.
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nakakapikon wrote:


Asou-kun wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:

i don't think there's something wrong in struggling to keep contact for the sake of keeping your love for each other-well,unless you do it forever^^-..i mean of course one day you have to meet and strengthen the love that developed over distance. if by chance you then find it a burden or hard work or you feel disturbed by doing it then you loose with this what we call game of love..what's the use of doing it anymore? you just have to cut it out , go on with your life and that's the end of story!^^

remember,no work is hard when you love doing it..
keeping contact despite of distance is like building a bridge of chance for the one you love..


On the contrary: No matter how much you love something, work is work. It's like people who become artists because they love creating art. After a certain point, no matter how much they love art, it becomes hard to keep doing it. It's still work and it's hard.

You need more than love to maintain a relationship, whether it be long distance or not. Communication is just as important as your feelings and the physical part makes it worth the efforts you put in. To see the person, hear the person, feel the person, be able to hug them, kiss them, hold their hand, etc... Sure, you can see them on the webcam these days and hear them over the phone at the same time, but really it isn't the same at all as having them standing right next to you. For long distance relationships, the efforts usually begin to outweigh the results and they begin to fall apart.

Granted, your chances of success are higher if you've known and been with each other for sometime before the distance was put there. But as I believe I said before, the longer you're apart, the chance of staying together drops.

Long distance friendships tend to do a lot better than long distance romance in general.


well,that's exactly my point! i don't think i deserve a contrary here^^.. your example about the artist applied to my thought only there are missing sentences..'after a certain point,no matter how much they love art,it becomes hard to keep doing it..i'ts still work and it's hard..then why don't they end it? they find it hard.. end it!

and yeah.. i don't remember saying that the two people involved in a long distance relationship should keep their distance forever!they should meet up right? the 'keeping contact' is building the bridge.. the bridge that they will pass through to be able to reach each other.. am i clear?^_^


What Im saying is that they could never be together again, and if not they got to still love each other no matter what, how long, and whatever temptations, fears, concerns they may come across, since they must travel so far only a few survive, but when they travel for a long time, lives change, people change, if you meet again its not the same person you meet years before, though you know him somewhat from whatever contact you had, they're still a diferent person, they experiences and everthing, just remeber they still a bit of what you fell in love with deep inside.


that's why they should meet up ASAP!^_^
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and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?
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and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^
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and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


I think there's nothing wrong with that, however... why remain stagnant for the rest of your life with that person to only reminisce about the past, without moving forward and exploring the new possibilities of that relationship? But as luckystars1 said, they're not the same person you initially fell in love with... and as time goes on, people do change (maybe even into someone you don't find attractive--internally, not externally). And besides, perhaps the way you remember them has been fogged with time and glossed over with the good things that happened, erasing all the bad... and when you reunite with that person, neither of you might remember what was so appealing in the first place.
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yeah,there's nothing wrong with that but that doesn't mean that you have to do 'THAT'-just 'THAT' -for the rest of your life! gosh..lol..

concerning the 'not the same person you initially fell in love with'>>>that's why you have to meet ASAP!(copy-pasted)^_^
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