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and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.
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yeah,there's nothing wrong with that but that doesn't mean that you have to do 'THAT'-just 'THAT' -for the rest of your life! gosh..lol..

concerning the 'not the same person you initially fell in love with'>>>that's why you have to meet ASAP!(copy-pasted)^_^


I didn't mean that literally... and it's not like I meant they'd be doing that forever... But again as luckystars1...


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Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


Meeting sooner really won't change much, however that's also depending on the amount of time you've been separated to begin with, and sometimes trying to meet again may be impossible with the life that they have... it may conflict with the schedule of both of their lives and the distance is definitely another factor that both persons have to consider. In the end, it still may take a long time to meet again and inevitably... it's the same result. It's hard for people, in general, to regain the friendship/relationship that they once had... and even building a new one. It's never the same, and like I said before, both persons have changed due to the experiences they had separately. And because of this, they might not understand each other fully. And I know that, based on my own experiences with friends and past relationships. Distance does make things harder to work. People get so caught up in their own separate lives that it's hard to go back... it's hard to get back to the people that are/were important to them. Just because they care, it doesn't mean they can easily get there... because their life right now, is something that conflicts with going back.
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yeah,there's nothing wrong with that but that doesn't mean that you have to do 'THAT'-just 'THAT' -for the rest of your life! gosh..lol..

concerning the 'not the same person you initially fell in love with'>>>that's why you have to meet ASAP!(copy-pasted)^_^


I didn't mean that literally... and it's not like I meant they'd be doing that forever... But again as luckystars1...


luckystars1 wrote:

Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


Meeting sooner really won't change much, however that's also depending on the amount of time you've been separated to begin with, and sometimes trying to meet again may be impossible with the life that they have... it may conflict with the schedule of both of their lives and the distance is definitely another factor that both persons have to consider. In the end, it still may take a long time to meet again and inevitably... it's the same result. It's hard for people, in general, to regain the friendship/relationship that they once had... and even building a new one. It's never the same, and like I said before, both persons have changed due to the experiences they had separately. And because of this, they might not understand each other fully. And I know that, based on my own experiences with friends and past relationships. Distance does make things harder to work. People get so caught up in their own separate lives that it's hard to go back... it's hard to get back to the people that are/were important to them. Just because they care, it doesn't mean they can easily get there... because their life right now, is something that conflicts with going back.


yeah.. everything depends upon the situation!there would always be factors that would affect your idea and mine.. so,neither of us is wrong.. aren't you glad?^_^.. congratulations to both of us.*clap*
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Posted 3/8/08

luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^

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nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^



they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much
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they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much


I think she's talking about it in a general aspect rather than directly relating it to the movie, but then again... who knows... You make a lot of valid points, just thought I'd let you know and that I completely agree with your standpoint. Good job ^^
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I don't know..after watching this anime,I really sat back and thought about this topic..
You know,when I was younger,I always thought that love could go through any barriers.If two people truly loved each other,they wouldn't let something like distance stop them.That should be what every one of us believed at some point of our lives.
But if two people struggled to keep contact with each other just to keep loving each other,I don't think that that's love at all.That's selfishness.If they kept on strrugling to drag up something to talk/write about,sooner or later,one will feel like he/she is burdening the person he/she loves by wanting them to keep on doing this.They would think that they themselves are being a burden just by wanting the person they love to keep loving them even though the chance of ever meeting are slim...or maybe never.By this time,they may deliberately break contact,hoping that the other person would forget them and go on with life.It's okay to be hated by the person you loved..but for that person's happiness,it's the right thing to do.


I completely agree with you. When I was younger I too thought that no matter what true love can conquer all obstacles. I know now through experiences that it isn't necessarily true. With a long distance relationship both persons have to be commited. I was in a long distance relationship before. At first we were together for almost a year but unfortunately I moved awhile unable to see him physically anymore. I loved him with all my heart and struggled to keep the relationship going. Our phone calls gradually got shorter and I most of the time neither of us would say anything from a loss of words. I had no idea what to say to him and I knew that I was changing day by day and most likely he was too. I hated it because I truely wanted to be with him and share his daily experiences. Distance wouldn't allow this. We ended up breaking off the relationship because neither of us could take it anymore. We had different lives and we needed each other physically. There were times when I'd give up anything in the world just to give him a hug. The long distance relationship taught me a lot and I know that even if I love someone with all my heart I need to see that person physically for it to work out. I believe it depends on the couple though. Its extremely hard but if the time apart isn't for too long then it might work out.
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Posted 3/9/08

luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^



they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much


oh i see.. but we're not talking mainly about 5cm/sec here..^_^.. we are discussing in general so it means that everything will depend,ne? and anyway, i loved the ending too!^^
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nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^



they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much


oh i see.. but we're not talking mainly about 5cm/sec here..^_^.. we are discussing in general so it means that everything will depend,ne? and anyway, i loved the ending too!^^


my first comment was in response to something you said related to the story so thats where the link came from, also miss fang im glad someone one my side, when I first took the side as the realistic one. I toughed I might get peppered by dreamers. Actually the whole perpose was to not only recieve you opinions, but to make people see the harsh reality behind all the dreams, but I hate to be the one to step on peoples dreams but If only one person sees both side then I'd feel like justice is done
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luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^



they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much


oh i see.. but we're not talking mainly about 5cm/sec here..^_^.. we are discussing in general so it means that everything will depend,ne? and anyway, i loved the ending too!^^


my first comment was in response to something you said related to the story so thats where the link came from, also miss fang im glad someone one my side, when I first took the side as the realistic one. I toughed I might get peppered by dreamers. Actually the whole perpose was to not only recieve you opinions, but to make people see the harsh reality behind all the dreams, but I hate to be the one to step on peoples dreams but If only one person sees both side then I'd feel like justice is done


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nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^



they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much


oh i see.. but we're not talking mainly about 5cm/sec here..^_^.. we are discussing in general so it means that everything will depend,ne? and anyway, i loved the ending too!^^


my first comment was in response to something you said related to the story so thats where the link came from, also miss fang im glad someone one my side, when I first took the side as the realistic one. I toughed I might get peppered by dreamers. Actually the whole perpose was to not only recieve you opinions, but to make people see the harsh reality behind all the dreams, but I hate to be the one to step on peoples dreams but If only one person sees both side then I'd feel like justice is done



quite the comment, Im not even sure how to respond, lol
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luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^



they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much


oh i see.. but we're not talking mainly about 5cm/sec here..^_^.. we are discussing in general so it means that everything will depend,ne? and anyway, i loved the ending too!^^


my first comment was in response to something you said related to the story so thats where the link came from, also miss fang im glad someone one my side, when I first took the side as the realistic one. I toughed I might get peppered by dreamers. Actually the whole perpose was to not only recieve you opinions, but to make people see the harsh reality behind all the dreams, but I hate to be the one to step on peoples dreams but If only one person sees both side then I'd feel like justice is done



quite the comment, Im not even sure how to respond, lol


but you responded as well..;-p
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nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:


nakakapikon wrote:


luckystars1 wrote:

and talk about the good old days together for the rest of thier lives?


is there something wrong with that?^^


Whats wrong with that? They havnt seen each others, and dont know anything about their lives apart, they lives seperate lives now.


yeah if they were far away from each other for ten gazillion years..^_^



they were away from each others most of thier adolence, they're adults they should know by now that the love they had years ago is in the past, they each have thier own lives and comitments, thats why I feel that the ending was realistic, and a reason loved the series so much


oh i see.. but we're not talking mainly about 5cm/sec here..^_^.. we are discussing in general so it means that everything will depend,ne? and anyway, i loved the ending too!^^


my first comment was in response to something you said related to the story so thats where the link came from, also miss fang im glad someone one my side, when I first took the side as the realistic one. I toughed I might get peppered by dreamers. Actually the whole perpose was to not only recieve you opinions, but to make people see the harsh reality behind all the dreams, but I hate to be the one to step on peoples dreams but If only one person sees both side then I'd feel like justice is done



quite the comment, Im not even sure how to respond, lol


but you responded as well..;-p


I know but I wasnt sure how so I just rambled on about it, until I felt it was good enough, though that ":mellow:" stoped me from ranting on some more. Okay so back to the topic at hand, Time is the largest factor, though the distance is important after a certain point, distance become in the never frequent visit zone
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my first comment was in response to something you said related to the story so thats where the link came from, also miss fang im glad someone one my side, when I first took the side as the realistic one. I toughed I might get peppered by dreamers. Actually the whole perpose was to not only recieve you opinions, but to make people see the harsh reality behind all the dreams, but I hate to be the one to step on peoples dreams but If only one person sees both side then I'd feel like justice is done


To be quite honest, I used to be a dreamer... up until a certain point in my life. I've always seen the harsh reality even then, however, I just refused to acknowledge its possibilities, until it slapped me right in the face. I think its all good and well to a be a dreamer... to be in that innocent and naive state (no offense, if I do happen to offend anyone)... personally, sometimes I wish I were still innocent and naive, but in order to gain wisdom... you must lose this part of yourself to attain the full capability of wisdom (sometimes this happens unwillingly--or unknowingly--through the experiences one goes through, which would be my case, I guess).
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luckystars1 wrote:

my first comment was in response to something you said related to the story so thats where the link came from, also miss fang im glad someone one my side, when I first took the side as the realistic one. I toughed I might get peppered by dreamers. Actually the whole perpose was to not only recieve you opinions, but to make people see the harsh reality behind all the dreams, but I hate to be the one to step on peoples dreams but If only one person sees both side then I'd feel like justice is done


To be quite honest, I used to be a dreamer... up until a certain point in my life. I've always seen the harsh reality even then, however, I just refused to acknowledge its possibilities, until it slapped me right in the face. I think its all good and well to a be a dreamer... to be in that innocent and naive state (no offense, if I do happen to offend anyone)... personally, sometimes I wish I were still innocent and naive, but in order to gain wisdom... you must lose this part of yourself to attain the full capability of wisdom (sometimes this happens unwillingly--or unknowingly--through the experiences one goes through, which would be my case, I guess).


I also used to be a dreamer back in the day but the harsh reality snuck up on my punched me in the face and I woke up. Im not saying being a dreamer in a back thing, just that sometimes you need to look at the bigger picture. If you only live with dreams for the rest of your life, it will be a long hard life full of disapointments. Also on the flip side a life without dreams seems lackluster and dull, and you'd stuggle to cope with the mundanity of you life. To really enjoy life you need a heathy balance which is something im trying to acheive here. But for some reason I can seem to get back into that dreamstate, even when I sleep I dont dream. It makes reality a hard thing to deal with, and at times I think that if I could dream, I'd might be happier but my intellect refuse to accept anything except what I can see, touch, smell, hear, and feel.
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