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Posted 5/13/09

swtcakes wrote:

Open relationship?...
oooh you mean sex with no strings attached lol

Seriously, who thinks up these things? Open relationships? come on...
If you really like a person, you shouldn't be feeling like dating someone else...
Unless you are not ready to commit and wants to date around.
In that case, just get a friend with benefits...

contrary to what you say, it DOESN'T take 'two very mature people' for an open relationship;
It just takes two confused horny teenagers who want to sleep around or try 'new things'.
If you're really that mature, you'd know what commitment is.


Chill -_-'

It's said that half of all the people in a relationship has cheated on their partner at some point, it's that common. So if it's in peoples nature, why not fuck around with a clean conscience? As long as both partners are in on it, what's the problem?

And contrary to what you believe, I do think it'll take 2 very mature and confident people, rather than two immature jealous teenagers.
Posted 5/13/09

DRO1 wrote:

no, solely for the fact that i dont wanna catch some other assholes herp.


since your scared of std's would you agree if she agrees that there will be no sex involved just plain dating and flirting...btw just because its called STD's it doesnt mean its only transmitted through sexual contact...
Posted 5/13/09

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DRO1 wrote:

no, solely for the fact that i dont wanna catch some other assholes herp.


since your scared of std's would you agree if she agrees that there will be no sex involved just plain dating and flirting...btw just because its called STD's it doesnt mean its only transmitted through sexual contact...


Like herpes, and if you live outside europe, your idea of STDs is most likely very far from the truth...
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Posted 5/13/09

Okazu606 wrote:


swtcakes wrote:

Open relationship?...
oooh you mean sex with no strings attached lol

Seriously, who thinks up these things? Open relationships? come on...
If you really like a person, you shouldn't be feeling like dating someone else...
Unless you are not ready to commit and wants to date around.
In that case, just get a friend with benefits...

contrary to what you say, it DOESN'T take 'two very mature people' for an open relationship;
It just takes two confused horny teenagers who want to sleep around or try 'new things'.
If you're really that mature, you'd know what commitment is.


Chill -_-'

It's said that half of all the people in a relationship has cheated on their partner at some point, it's that common. So if it's in peoples nature, why not fuck around with a clean conscience? As long as both partners are in on it, what's the problem?

And contrary to what you believe, I do think it'll take 2 very mature and confident people, rather than two immature jealous teenagers.


i am "chill"
I don't know, did my previous post make me sound angry or worked up?
I didn't mean to...

And that's your opinion, I respect it, but my opinion is that people who agree on open relationships just want to date around and try new partners. They are not ready to commit to a single relationship. That does not spell mature to me.
Sure it takes confidence, but not maturity

"Two people can look at the same picture and see completely different things."
It's the same concept here. You see it as being mature, I see it as being irresponsible.
And I don't think any woman will ever be emotionally ready for an open relationship with a guy unless she's the type that likes to sleep with different men every now an then?

This makes me question, what ever happened to commitment...
what ever happened to a beautiful relationship where you love one person and one person only.
how can anyone feel special knowing your significant other is fooling around with other people.
You'd feel insecure... and people that don't feel insecure in these types of open relationships aren't "mature", like you stated, they just don't give a hoot, in my opinion. They are the types that cheat a lot probably. No responsibility or concern towards others feelings.
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Posted 5/13/09
I'm not sure.

I talked to my partner about becoming swingers, but he said no.

And yes, it takes two mature, emotionally strong people to agree on this sort of thing. Not everybody likes the idea of having a relationship, while seeing other people, and both parts know about it. Personally, I wouldn't mind this kind of relationship, but if the other part doesn't agree with it, is a no.
Posted 5/13/09

swtcakes wrote:


i am "chill"
I don't know, did my previous post make me sound angry or worked up?
I didn't mean to...

And that's your opinion, I respect it, but my opinion is that people who agree on open relationships just want to date around and try new partners. They are not ready to commit to a single relationship. That does not spell mature to me.
Sure it takes confidence, but not maturity

"Two people can look at the same picture and see completely different things."
It's the same concept here. You see it as being mature, I see it as being irresponsible.
And I don't think any woman will ever be emotionally ready for an open relationship with a guy unless she's the type that likes to sleep with different men every now an then?

This makes me question, what ever happened to commitment...
what ever happened to a beautiful relationship where you love one person and one person only.
how can anyone feel special knowing your significant other is fooling around with other people.
You'd feel insecure... and people that don't feel insecure in these types of open relationships aren't "mature", like you stated, they just don't give a hoot, in my opinion. They are the types that cheat a lot probably. No responsibility or concern towards others feelings.


You did sound pretty worked up, and while you're entitled to your own opinion, I don't think things work that way...

How is it irresponsible if two adult persons who may have been married 10-20-30+ years, decides that they enjoy sex and would like to have sex with other partners? I think it's a very responsible way to do things - Both partners are in on it, no lying or cheating or keeping secrets, and a great amount of openess on the topic of sex.
Why is it different from man to woman?

Why is having an open relationship not beautiful? And who says you'd love your partner less/love others? It's just sex...
Just because the idea of being in an open relationship makes you insecure, doesn't mean others are as insecure or fail to have trust in their partners - if this was the case they wouldn't be in an open relationship.

You have the total opposite idea of how things really are...

"They are the types that cheat a lot probably. No responsibility or concern towards others feelings"

You couldn't be more wrong. Both partners like the idea of having sex with others, both are open and honest about it - It's not cheating, it is very responsible and it does indeed take others feelings into account.

...It's fine that you can't cope with the idea, but just because you prefer the colour red, doesn't make red everyone else's prefered colour - nor should it be.
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Posted 5/13/09

CrimelabS wrote:


DRO1 wrote:

no, solely for the fact that i dont wanna catch some other assholes herp.


since your scared of std's would you agree if she agrees that there will be no sex involved just plain dating and flirting...btw just because its called STD's it doesnt mean its only transmitted through sexual contact...


If you get serious with someone, then the responsible and moral thing to do for each other is get tested. Now, to counter your view on the exposure, I'm absolutely positive most people dont get STD's from sitting down on a dirty toilet in some downtown filthy New York club scene. I don't know what happy-go-lucky-muffins-and-cupcakes city you live in but in Planet Earth, STD's are everywhere, and if being preventative is being "scared" in your books, then pass me a fucking nightlight and enjoy your cock burning when you urinate.
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Posted 5/13/09
maybe you mean friends with benefits..
Posted 5/13/09

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I don't know what happy-go-lucky-muffins-and-cupcakes city you live in but in Planet Earth, STD's are everywhere...


Nope, they aint. And the chance of being infected even when having unprotected sex with someone who carries an STD aint all that great, with some diseases the chances are extremely low.
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Posted 5/13/09 , edited 5/13/09

Okazu606 wrote:


DRO1 wrote:
I don't know what happy-go-lucky-muffins-and-cupcakes city you live in but in Planet Earth, STD's are everywhere...


Nope, they aint. And the chance of being infected even when having unprotected sex with someone who carries an STD aint all that great, with some diseases the chances are extremely low.


Thanks for the info Forum M.D. I'll keep my paranoid rubber wearing at bay, while you continue to spread truth throughout the world!
Posted 5/13/09 , edited 5/13/09

DRO1 wrote:


Okazu606 wrote:


DRO1 wrote:
I don't know what happy-go-lucky-muffins-and-cupcakes city you live in but in Planet Earth, STD's are everywhere...


Nope, they aint. And the chance of being infected even when having unprotected sex with someone who carries an STD aint all that great, with some diseases the chances are extremely low.


Thanks for the info Forum M.D. I'll keep my paranoid rubber wearing at bay, while you continue to spread truth throughout the world!


You do that, and don't let the boogyman get you.
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Posted 5/14/09
i dont like it. >.<
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Posted 5/14/09

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i don't like it...

in a relationship, i don't want to come in second...
either, we're lovers or just friends >.>



Thats what I think =/
I don't see why anybody would want to share the guy/girl they like with somebody else >_<
Isnt that really the whole point of the relationship?
to be faithful and own each other? >_<
Posted 5/14/09
Hmmm.
If I already like someone, all the other people would just seem the same.
I can only look at them as friends. No more, no less.
I'm not capable of liking (nor having special feelings for) two individuals all at the same time.
Until my feelings of liking to that person vanish.
Even though I'm not in a relationship with that certain person.
This won't work for me.
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Posted 5/14/09
I don't particularly appreciate the idea of open relationships, but I'm not against it (oh and btw, I'm talking about platonic relationship here, no sex involved >_>). I really like the 1st definition, kind of romantic, but unrealistic though, as the happy ending doesn't always come =P. The 2nd definition is confusing o.o Anyways I agree that this kind of relationship requires two people with an extremely mature and open mind, or else it'd be a disaster. Sometimes it takes lots of experiences/obstacles for people to recognize where their hearts really belong, and to know that the person they need all along is the one who has been standing next to them since the beginning.

Personally, I can't bear the idea of sharing my beloved one with any other girls (haha yeah I easily get jealous xD). But if I really like that person, I will somehow accept to be involved in a open relationship, wishing that I'll make him realize that I'm the one for him >_~
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