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Spanking causes Fear?
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Posted 5/21/09 , edited 5/21/09

Do kids need spanking? Will kids be good when spanked? Should parents spank when angry? Is spanking an abuse and why? Moreover this is a general thread on spanking so anything on it can be discussed and posted here.
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My parents never spanked me or any of my siblings.

... so i don't really know what to say...

but when i see parents doing it to their little kids in public... i kinda feel sad ... especially when the kids totally innocent... its just the parents are too aggressive

i'm probably not going to do that to my future child(ren).
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Spanking .. meh. I know for a fact if a kid does not learn discipline, he/she grows up to not obey the laws/rules of society. I think that time out, spanking, and other forms work. Some more than others, but i don't believe that spanking is abuse. It's merely disciplining your child, you punish your child when she/he does bad, and you give him/her candy or toys when he/she does well. If not, then they will just be out of control not understanding right from wrong.
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I got spanked two times by my parents. But I really deserved it.

If I remeber right I would have deserved a lot more slapps in the face. Even got slapped by a teacher one time. I was a bastard in school...
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Posted 5/21/09 , edited 5/21/09
I don't think it should be illegal (it's legal in most places) but it should be within certain limits. It should be followed by a session of explanation or apologies, I guess. [AH! Rule: NO ONE should be slapped/hit on the face.]
The situation must be taken into account, too. Public spanking is...embarrassing (for both parties).
I think it does play a role in "controlling" certain behaviours. However, which are you using: "good control" or "bad control"?
Vague, yes, but I don't feel like thinking right now.
PS: I do spank children (lightly i.e. no markings left & often with hand), explain what they did wrong, and go through apologies or rewards when they do behave. And no, they're not my children since I don't have any (but I have permission, you could say).

Posted 5/21/09
spanking should be done, twice or thrice or more (but not everyday <_<) to a kid to discipline him/her.
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i've never been spanked by anyone ever....
but i think it's not an abuse as long as it's within limits
Posted 5/21/09 , edited 5/21/09
Of course parents want spankings to cause fear, that's why they do it. They want you to fear it so much to the point that the thing you just did a few minutes ago will never happen again. Thats what's wrong with kids now, they don't have fear. Parents aren't being as strict as they used to be, and then they have the nerve to make it illegal? It's insane.

Half of the time the little demons deserve being spanked. Saying it's child abuse is just retarded.

Burning a child with an iron purposely is child abuse.
Pushing them down the stairs is child abuse.

But the one thing I'll never agree with is slapping them.
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Spanking should be done when necessarily and in the form of discipline. My parents disciplined us very well growing up and we grew up with a better sense of respect. Many people here (the states) think that its child abuse or its bad to spank their children but its what causes them to grow up the way they are. If kids grow up not knowing their boundaries and limits they will take advantage of that and it will show how they are when they grow up. Im not saying everyone is the same but majority. I've seen some kids in their teens talking back, cussing, saying a bunch of rude things that you know if your kids said that to you, you will bitch slap them but the parent doesnt do anything because they feel that if they do it is bad or "will look bad on them".

It's all psychological too, you go for the cheese and you get zapped. You don't want to get zapped, so you dont go for the cheese. Same thing with conditioning a child. I'll most likely discipline my children (when the time comes lol) but to the point of this is wrong and this is right and not really high physical abuse.

Since the majority of people here now are at a younger age some of you may or may not experience this but growing up and seeing younger generation talk back to their parents and have no respect for them really irritates me. Yes I've heard "shut up mom" "DONT F*CKEN TOUCH MEE!!" "STOPP ITT!!!" ive heard it all lol...
Posted 5/21/09
Yea. I got spankings when I really deserved them.

I remember getting spanked with a clothes hanger. That's when I was so eager to go to my neighbor's house in hope to play their Nintendo Family Computer in the very early morning. My mother brought down the punishment.

I was into it because I never had one and I rarely had the opportunity to play it. >.^

My family was poor.
Posted 5/21/09
my mother spanks. unpleasent.
Posted 5/21/09
yeah.... but fortunately, i didn't get one....
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Posted 5/21/09
Lol,

there are people who actually enjoy some ''spanking'' ;D
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Posted 5/21/09 , edited 5/21/09
If the kid is way too discipline. Then sure, he might need a gentle spanking (but spanking is meant to sting). But there is no need for parents to go beyond the limits into physically scaring their children for the rest of their lives.
Posted 5/21/09
I don't think it's wrong but it should have STRICT LIMITS my dad is a drunk and he spanked me with a belt as hard as he could for 3 years if I left a speck of dust on the floor or forgot to wash a dish.....I couldn't sit for weeks is it abuse? Not in most cases in mine yes.
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