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Over-doting parents, obnoxious little brother, and a desperate older sister
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are our cultures really that different?

My brother, who is 4, is the most abusive little thing in this world. He has no discipline and does anything and everything he wants in this house. My family's Chinese, and apparently, Chinese men like sons over daughters. My dad lets him do everything he wants to do, and refuses to let anyone teach him manners. Now my brother's a spoiled brat. He punches&kicks everyone, blows raspberries at everyone, and throws things everywhere. You know how you're supposed to respect your elders? My brother kicks my grandparents all the time.
To me? It's the same thing. He pinches me, pulls my hair out (I have very long hair), and rips up my homework. Of course I get angry, but my dad yells at me whenever I yell at him. My brother's really abusive, but I can't do anything to stop his abuses because my dad protects him after my brother hits me. No one is allowed to yell at him in my household, not even my mom. Is this ridiculous or what?
Today, he ran downstairs and pinched my arm really hard, his nails are really sharp and it literally broke my skin and it was swollen and everything. I was screaming because it was really painful, but he would not let go. I got frustrated and pinched him back. But my dad stormed down and roared at me. He said that what I did was child abuse and I could go to jail for it, but I was like what the heck, what he did wasn't abuse? He then struck me really hard on my head and told me that if I pinch him again I would be kicked out of my house. I was like, "how was that not child abuse?" My dad was like, "you're 18 now so it's not child abuse anymore"

How would you deal with a little brother like this and a patriarchal father like this? What's really child abuse? My dad hitting me? or me pinching my brother back?
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No personal threads. Reported.
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Posted 5/30/09
personal?
It's just a situation asking your opinions...
let me rephrase some things then~
we used to be able to post these things wayyy back when
Posted 5/30/09
aren't all asian parents like this?
my mom is the same.
the only difference is that i don't have a younger brother.
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Posted 5/30/09 , edited 5/30/09
Gunmyle is like the Crunchy Roll police force. Strict, swift, and cold-hearted.
He reports EVERYTHING.

Anyway, that kinda makes me sad. My parents would NEVER in the world hit my sister or me, and I'm half- Chinese.
I guess it has to do with how traditional your family is.
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Posted 5/30/09
very unneccessary~ must be a newbie
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Posted 5/30/09
Me?
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25 / F / East Coast USA
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Posted 5/30/09
lol
no not you, that CR police dude
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25 / F / East Coast USA
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Posted 5/30/09
what has your mom done?
my dad dotes on him because he's a son and he's the younger one.
Posted 5/30/09
she slaps me, yells and threatens.
but all the threats are empty threats.
she only does this when she gets really pissed though.
your dad was being a tad irrational.
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Posted 5/30/09 , edited 5/30/09
lol just making sure...

My parents will just get pissed, but they would never hit us. They get worked up so easily and we used to have to say~ "Calm down!"
They would get mad at us for saying that too. At least words are their weapon and not their body.
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Posted 5/30/09
Oh wow, that sucks horribly lol. I would say, start finding pranks to pull on your little brother. Figure out what that little cunt is afraid of and use it against him. I'm sorry but i don't know how the Chinese are but i can tell they definitely favor the males. As i know that in history they would kill their daughters over their sons, etc. Which i find horrible. Little boys are demons, demons i tell you, i was one too. I think it's horrid that your dad is hitting you and not this little hell child.

You definitely need to start ignoring your little brother and don't give him what he's seeking. He wants you to get upset, it makes him feel better. Just take it and get that booger face back when he least expects it in the best teaching way possible. Also, try your best to make it so your dad doesn't find out because he doesn't seem afraid to hit a woman, which is fucking horrible imo.

Good luck :] come stay at my house! My little sister doesn't kick bite or pinch.
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gunmyle wrote:

No personal threads. Reported.


someone is calling you a newbie
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25 / F / East Coast USA
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Posted 5/30/09
I just don't get why he only dotes on my brother though. everyone says he's really obnoxious, but only my dad thinks that he's a pearl. I've done nothing wrong and he hits me... so strange
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Baka-God wrote:


gunmyle wrote:

No personal threads. Reported.


someone is calling you a newbie


I don't care.
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