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what can you do to make your friend happy?
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Doesn't help thinking short term with people that are depressed.


You'll only cheer them up for a time period of amazing.. (at best) half a day. Which might lead to them feeling even more miserable.

"She/he visits me only out of pity, I'm so pathetic...."

For me, one of the most important things to get out of my main depression, was to able to really pour my heart out to a psychologist.
Though I did consider suicide at one point, I thought to myself, about my reason for depression, and how my death would affect those near me.

My train of thought was concluded with a realization.

Life's too precious to be so easily thrown away. To take suicide, is equal to spitting in the face of those that care/know you, and telling them to fuck off to hell. Especially towards your parents.

It doesn't even matter if your parents "suck", show them your made of better stuff than that and become someone strong.

Meh, why do I bother.
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Kippu wrote:


have a friend that really want to die and i always try to make her happy. she always trying to cut her wrist.. need help


If your friend is cutting herself, and saying she wants to committee suicide, I suggest you make her go and talk to a councilor.
Or if she's one of those emo people, that think cutting is cool, and act sad sometimes just for attention. I say slap some sense into her, and tell her you're not her puppet. She can keep herself entertained without dragging you into it.
Killing yourself is a cowardly way out of life. If she's having such a tough life. Tell her to run away and start a new one.


Plus, if she's under 18 and is talking about committing suicide openly, she can be admitted to a psych ward and get to be locked up for a couple weeks. :/

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AHTL wrote:

Doesn't help thinking short term with people that are depressed.


You'll only cheer them up for a time period of amazing.. (at best) half a day. Which might lead to them feeling even more miserable.

"She/he visits me only out of pity, I'm so pathetic...."

For me, one of the most important things to get out of my main depression, was to able to really pour my heart out to a psychologist.
Though I did consider suicide at one point, I thought to myself, about my reason for depression, and how my death would affect those near me.

My train of thought was concluded with a realization.

Life's too precious to be so easily thrown away. To take suicide, is equal to spitting in the face of those that care/know you, and telling them to fuck off to hell. Especially towards your parents.

It doesn't even matter if your parents "suck", show them your made of better stuff than that and become someone strong.

Meh, why do I bother. <_<


ILY.
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spensaur wrote:


Kippu wrote:

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You know, I used to be like you guys. "If they want to die, then let them die"
Your mind changes after someone you know commits suicide though. No one should kill themselves. I think it's a cowardly way out of life. You should work hard for a happy life. Giving up is too easy. If things are real bad, then they should just move somewhere, where no one knows them and start a new.

Anyway, instead of trying to make your friend laugh for one day, which is the stupidest thing I have ever heard.. You should make her see a counselor and try to talk her out of it. IF she's being serious that is. If she's doing it for attention. Then smack her for me, will ya? I hate emo kids that fake just for attention.


Let the cowards die. I had a friend in high school commit suicide. It's a horrible thing, i won't say i didn't cry for him, i attended his funeral, and i admit i miss him. But honestly, if you're that much of a priss to do it, or try it. Good for you, less people on this earth to steal my oxygen. Just moving isn't always the best idea either. You're even more alone, and if they're having problems with life, that means they're probably having mental problems with coping with people and making friends. How are they going to make friends being alone in a new city? I was somewhat joking about the natural selection bit. But i still think that way in most aspects.


I'm not too sure about that. My friend that committed suicide had tons of friends. Over 200 people came to his funeral. Not everyone that wants to commit suicide means they have trouble making friends and are just lonely.
Some do it because of family problems, or people that traumatize them.
Instead of getting rid of their life, they can easily get rid of the people around them, by simply starting a new. They can be who ever they want and can even change themselves.

If you visited your friends funeral, then I'm sure you saw the look on their families faces, right?
If you had a chance to change his mind, you honestly wouldn't? He was just in high school. I don't think it was fair for him to take away his life before he experienced anything. I'm sure your oxygen would have been fine if he continued on living.
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Thanks, I guess CountessD.



Fun fact, or well, not so fun.

The reason people take suicide, is amazingly enough, not always because of lack of friends/social life.

Sometimes people go through a shock that is so big, that they can't cope with the sorrow/despair/pain, or that person hides it too well, or (again) the friends (or sometimes, "friends") don't understand/know what to do, or how to help the person in question.

I read a story, of a girl who took suicide, because it became known to everyone on her school; that she had had done sexual things with her boyfriend.

We're talking about a girl, with outstanding grades, a fair amount of friends and nice parents.

All gone, because someone thought, "Hey, lets send this sms telling someone about her sexual experience, and I'm SURE that person won't send it to someone else again."


Sometimes, I feel like kicking someone hard.
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get him/her wasted
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Have sex with them.
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Tell her, "Don't be a pussy, life is life. Fucking deal with it, everyone else has to."
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TheYeager wrote:

Have sex with them.


I second this.
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Posted 6/18/09
the chick friends, probably replying to their feelings, my friends, probably still hanging out,lol.
Posted 6/18/09
I give them gift or say funny things ` or either tickle tickle*
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i am emotionless most of the time....they're the one's to make me laugh...

haha<3 it's opposite
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Posted 6/19/09
I'll do my best thank you guys...
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Posted 6/19/09
Talk to them in my FOB accent.
Posted 7/16/09
Post in Personal Advice thread instead please

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