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Sex Isn't about love anymore?
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It seems that you're brainwashed about love... Love is just a side effect of the chemicals produced in the brain made for one purpose, to breed. There's no such thing as love in the first place so it's natural that sex is just about the physical.
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Sure, sex may just be chemicals telling you to breed. But that's why were HUMANS. We have higher mental capabilities, we can place an emotional value on sex or any other physical thing...that's what makes us humans no? YOU, sir are the brainwashed one. Just because the rudimentary function of sex is to breed doesn't mean that's all it's for, were not primates, were not animals. And according to your logic, then the emotion empathy, love, joy they're all fake, they don't exist, so then sir. Why do you watch anime? Or movies, or why do you kiss your mother? Why do you do anything that makes you happy? According to your logic all of these things are useless, they don't exist. Can you prove that love doesn't exist? Because guess what, I can prove that love DOES exist. Take a look at past news, every other day there's another story of how some man/woman saved a complete stranger, Why? Because of love. Why do we own pets? Because we want to have someone to love. Why do we watch romance movies? To invoke the emotion love. Why do you cry when you've watched a drama, and one of the main character dies? Because you've developed an emotional bond with that person. Through their actions you feel closer to them. So basically what I'm trying to get at is your logic is flawed, Love does exist, you just have to work at it.
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sex was never about love.. that just from movies. sex is about reproducing and feeling good. people do it for those 2 purposes.
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Kill099 wrote:

It seems that you're brainwashed about love... Love is just a side effect of the chemicals produced in the brain made for one purpose, to breed. There's no such thing as love in the first place so it's natural that sex is just about the physical.


Erm.....you do know that there are people who lack "sex drive"(AKA Asexuals) yet they are still capable of loving and caring about one another and getting married, right? Just because you don't like sex or not sexually attracted to the person does not mean you cannot love or care about them. There are some people who ar asexual but got married to there spouse and have a sexless marriage.It's a common misconception that if you are asexual, it automatically means you can't still be romantically attracted to a person(i.e an "aromantic asexual").

You can read more about it here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexual

Remember Love has nothing to do with sex. Love is imply about caring about one another. Two and two can go together but one can also exist without the other,

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CecilTheDarkKnight_234 wrote:

umm sex is never about love, it's about producing more people for the planet and carrying on your legacy sure you do fall in love and sex with people then have sex with them but you don't have to love someone to have sex with them >.<


It is true that sex can exist without love but I also think two and two can go together. I imagine if a sex act is fueled by the emotion of caring about each other, it can be a beautiful thing(And this is coming from a virgin. Still I imagine sex must feel nice). Also in the case of Straight people, if there is love behind the motive of having sex, then the couple will mot likely stay together and raise a family. So I think in that aspect, Love can be valid when it comes to sex.

As a side note, I have no problem with non conceptive sex(i.e Recreational sex) because:

1.)It's actually quite natural. There are many species of animals who practice non-conceptive sex as a form of social bonding and pleasure.

2.) Non conceptive ex by itself is not a bad thing. It' only if you think with your dick and vagina rather then your mind that it's bad.

3.) If we label recreational sex as automatically a wicked act, then logically it means that sterile people and Gays who have a sex drive( I know that not all Gays are sexually active. In fact there is such a thing as being a "Gay-asexual." I'm jut saying that the vast majority of people have some sex drive, including Gays) must be all bad, automatically. Does that sound logical to you?

Enough said.

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QuasimodoSunday wrote:


Kill099 wrote:

It seems that you're brainwashed about love... Love is just a side effect of the chemicals produced in the brain made for one purpose, to breed. There's no such thing as love in the first place so it's natural that sex is just about the physical.


Erm.....you do know that there are people who lack "sex drive"(AKA Asexuals) yet they are still capable of loving and caring about one another and getting married, right? Just because you don't like sex or not sexually attracted to the person does not mean you cannot love or care about them. There are some people who ar asexual but got married to there spouse and have a sexless marriage.It's a common misconception that if you are asexual, it automatically means you can't still be romantically attracted to a person(i.e an "aromantic asexual").

You can read more about it here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexual

Remember Love has nothing to do with sex. Love is imply about caring about one another. Two and two can go together but one can also exist without the other,



Love is just a chemical addiction, the brain of someone in love looks like the brain of someone on crack. Also since there are 3 different kinds of love, its possible for one person to be in love with more then one person at the same time. Love is just a chemical released into the reward center of the brain. Oxytocin.


http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/love-science.html


Somewhat interesting isn't it ? The science behind it. So yes it does have something to do with sex.
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its just the evolution of society with changing times, though the media may have had a hand in it I consider the impact it has had as minimal at best
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Sex has always been viewed differently throughout the ages in fact the Roman empire was famous for its orgy's but no matter what the common consensus is in the media or the everyday Joe what matters is you view of sex and what it means to you and the very fact that some people have shown disdain at the fact that sex is just physical rather than an emotional bond proves that there are people who still look for more in a relationship the just casual sex, and I am proud to be living in an era that we can express ourselves sexually in a manner of our own choosing as long as it is not hurting the people involved weather that be marriage swinging hetero homo or bi and to say that my own view on sex is the correct way is to imply everybody is the same mentally and to be honest i dont think i could handle a world of people acting like me!
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i for one think it's the media, peer pressure, and your intermediate surroundings.
kids that are young in their teen years possibly might think that they're in love and
it's the right thing to do but that are way in over their heads about sex. now a days
you see a numerous amounts of single parents.
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Allhailodin wrote:


QuasimodoSunday wrote:


Kill099 wrote:

It seems that you're brainwashed about love... Love is just a side effect of the chemicals produced in the brain made for one purpose, to breed. There's no such thing as love in the first place so it's natural that sex is just about the physical.


Erm.....you do know that there are people who lack "sex drive"(AKA Asexuals) yet they are still capable of loving and caring about one another and getting married, right? Just because you don't like sex or not sexually attracted to the person does not mean you cannot love or care about them. There are some people who ar asexual but got married to there spouse and have a sexless marriage.It's a common misconception that if you are asexual, it automatically means you can't still be romantically attracted to a person(i.e an "aromantic asexual").

You can read more about it here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexual

Remember Love has nothing to do with sex. Love is imply about caring about one another. Two and two can go together but one can also exist without the other,



Love is just a chemical addiction, the brain of someone in love looks like the brain of someone on crack. Also since there are 3 different kinds of love, its possible for one person to be in love with more then one person at the same time. Love is just a chemical released into the reward center of the brain. Oxytocin.


http://www.oxytocin.org/oxytoc/love-science.html


Somewhat interesting isn't it ? The science behind it. So yes it does have something to do with sex.


Allow me to rephrase:


I don't mean that love has NOTHING to do with sex. I meant to say is that Love does not equate with the act of having sex or lust. There are guys who have sex because of pure hedonistic reasons or if a girl(or a guy if he is gay) is "hot" but care nothing for the person they have sex with.I agree with you that Love has something to do with it but it does not equal sex entirely. That fact that we have "Dead beat dads" (who are obviously sexual people) who care nothing for their kids and spouse after copulation or people who don't have a sex drive who are interested in an intimate relationship cements my viewpoint.

As I said, there are asexual people who got married and are not interested in the act of having sex. They just simply care for one another and love each other. They express their love through other intimate matters rather than the act of having sex. Do you think that just because they don't want to have sex with each other they can't love or care about each other?

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Overall It's a lot of people's fault.

It's the kids and their immaturity. (They don't understand that they're just lusting and not loving. If you're 14 and you honestly think you're in love, you know jack shit.)

It's the media and their horrid hype. (The media pushes to sex. Transformers 2 + Megan foxx running in slow motion for example. The shit we call TV on MTV now a days all revolving around dating and sex. Pictures of lucid women everywhere, it's hard not to think of sex as a raging 13 year old boy seeing all of this served on a plate to you.)

It's the social agenda that people abide by. (It's become socially acceptable to have one night stands, or hook up with someone you just randomly meet at a club, event, school, what have you.)

It's the poor parenting jobs. (Because of the horrible society we live in our parents are working around the clock to provide for their children. Since they're gone for most of the time their children are home they can't instill the proper teachings in their children to respect women, and men alike. This also goes hand in hand with the kids and immaturity.)

So.. it's everyone's fault, I myself think that it's okay to have sex with someone who isn't your wife. But I believe that if you truly love one another, sex is a beautiful thing. It's much more satisfying when you have sex with someone you actually love rather than a one night stand. And I believe this is the way it should be, some people might think otherwise, but to each their own.

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For some people i guess.
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QuasimodoSunday wrote:


Kill099 wrote:

It seems that you're brainwashed about love... Love is just a side effect of the chemicals produced in the brain made for one purpose, to breed. There's no such thing as love in the first place so it's natural that sex is just about the physical.


Erm.....you do know that there are people who lack "sex drive"(AKA Asexuals) yet they are still capable of loving and caring about one another and getting married, right? Just because you don't like sex or not sexually attracted to the person does not mean you cannot love or care about them. There are some people who ar asexual but got married to there spouse and have a sexless marriage.It's a common misconception that if you are asexual, it automatically means you can't still be romantically attracted to a person(i.e an "aromantic asexual").

You can read more about it here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexual

Remember Love has nothing to do with sex. Love is imply about caring about one another. Two and two can go together but one can also exist without the other,



Ok, what you've said only applies to 1% who became asexual. The rest and majority are just blinded by what love really is and are sadly looking for ways to find one even through sex. What I'm trying to point out is that there's no such thing as love. We just misunderstood love.
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Hmm... all I can say is that the media could be a part of the
reason why sex is rampant nowadays... but I think that it's
because of the society already. People are changing. Sex
is about love actually. But nowadays the sex is just to have sex.

I think really that if you have sex with the person that you love
then it's better than having sex with a random person.
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