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Sex Isn't about love anymore?
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Posted 7/13/09

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Even so lust and love are just about the same thing. If your to look at the human brain it is the same part of the brain. Love is only the feeling of need and mix in the lust for someones body into it. There really nothing else to the idea of love.


There is much more to the idea of love, there just isn't much to what causes it.
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i think sex and love are different things. sex is a physical thing (mostly) and love is mental (duh). i don't think that having sex with someone you don't love is wrong or bad. it's normal. if you have lust for a hot boy (or girl) but you still don't love anyone you can do it with someone else (as long as they don't protest). sometimes i even wonder if love actually exists.
and sex thingy is everyone's fault (even mine and every teen's) cause' it's media's fault for making those stuff, parent's fault for letting their children watch them, and teen's fault for watching them and then growing up into adults that will do what's on those shows again (or at least making the producers think that sex actually interests people (and it does).
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This might be a common response, but I think it's fairly accurate: the media is largely to blame, here. People who own products and companies have a RESPONSIBILITY when they use media to produce wholesome content. But instead then send out controversial images just to get a REACTION out of people. They actually hire psychologists to create the kinds of ads that will be the most reactive that way. It's disgusting.

My parents alwyas taught me sex was a very special experience between two people who love each other. And that's true. But when I became a teenager, I noticed all the public sexuality in the media and my classmates going on about (when they didn't know the first thing about what they were talking about...stupid...) sexual stuff, and I got two different messages. I couldn't understand why my classmates didn't think it was something special like my parents had taught me. I was really confused about it for a while. Of course, I was always a reasonable person so I didn't engage in any sexual activites, because I figured if I wasn't sure, I shouldn't do it. Unfortunately, not many others had that idea.

Eventaully, I figured out that really, it's up to the individual and the couple to decide what's best for them. Personally, being a very sensitive and emotional person, I need to have an extremely strong emotional connection with someone before I engage in sexual activies. If I don't, I feel SO dirty. I feel disgusted in myself and like it's wrong. I'm not saying that's how it is or should be for EVERYone, just saying how it is for me. So yes, I do need the love before I can be comfortable with sex. However, there are some who insist they don't. But even so, wouldn't sex be a more fulfilling experience if you were in love with the person you were doing it with? Hence the term, "making love". That's the way I see it, anyway.
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I do sadly agree...

In this generation, the media, parents, everyone in general makes an impact on the kids.

I myself am one of them.
I am 12, going to the 8th grade soon and last year in 7th grade I heard my friend talk about a rumour that some girl was trying to get laid but couldn't because of her grandma was home, or something. I just think it's ridculous now-a-days.... you can't even control it. But if you look, anywhere and everywhere it seems to be there. In TV, songs, and things that we listen to or put to use in everyday life. So you can't really point fingers and blame.

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It's not just the media to blame, but the role models that the younger generation have. A child's parents to say that sex is a beautiful thing, but should only happen with the one you know you're going to be with for a long time. But if they knew that their "really cool" older sibling(s) was sleeping around, who do you really think that the child is going to take after? Where did the older sibling learn to act like this? From friends? Media? Maybe their friend's parents?

Nowadays, the world more or less functions on "What's cool" and losing one's virginity just happens to be one of them. Most of the younger generation nowadays barely have any sense of judgment, or shame, or honor. Or any other qualities that would make them into well-respected adults.

It's sad to think how the future will be like.
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Love is just a strong emotion and nothing more
the word "love" its self is overrated. I don't believe
that having sex with everyone or anyone who
isn't special is right but i believe
as long as you, yourself don’t regret your actions
its fine. Again human beings are able to fool
themselves and believe that they "love" someone
while in reality they may despise the person.
I personally hate the word "Love" and for all it
stands because in the end love will only bring
pain. so i believe that others may not judge peers around them
but only could only judge themselves by their own actions.
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I blame the media largely for this but some parents are also to blame because they're too busy with work and their own lives to even care about what their child is being exposed to.

The media portrays sex as something cool and that if you're not doing it, you're not cool. Telling someone that you're a virgin is like putting a huge sign above your head saying, "hello, I'm the biggest loser around." Having sex is also a "macho" thing for guys. If you haven't slept with someone before you enter college or at least by your freshman year, you're not man enough. Teen tv shows are now more liberal with sprinkling sex in episodes; just look at shows like Gossip Girl, Degrassi, One Tree Hill, The Secret Life of an American Teen, etc. Popular Rap and RnB songs glorify sex and sleeping around like it's going out of style.

I just think that sex is a big deal because you're risking so many things: the chance that your contraceptive isn't working properly, or you didn't take the pill and getting pregnant. The chance of getting an STD or even HIV/AIDS.
To me, having sex with someone I love and trust would be a lot more meaningful and enjoyable than having some random one night stand with some asshole you met at a party and being too drunk to even realize what the hell you're doing.
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Posted 7/17/09
well..this question will take different answers for sure.
Individual differences makes us apart from each other.


For some, it's true. But for some, it is not. thats all
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Posted 7/17/09

Yei wrote:

I think it's just human nature to not look at sex so sacredly and more just physically, and the media and society in general exploit that, so it has lost most of it's emotional value. For me, sex is supposed to be sacred and about love, sex without love just seems so unfulfilling and too emotionally problematic.


i agree with the human nature part and the media part stuff
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Joushio wrote:

Lately I've been noticing that sex has become more about only the physical aspect and less and less about the emotional kind of thing. Is this all the media's doing? Has something so sacred fallen so far as to be a way of profit? Everywhere you look now-a-days there's sex, The movies, ads, banners, clothing. It's all centered around sex(By all I mean most...) I hear it way to much, I'll be walking somewhere and they'll be 13-14 year old kids talking about how they'd love to -censored- their teacher, or another classmate. Who do you blame though? The media? Parents? Teachers? I just don't know, it's really quite sad that something so beautiful can be molded into simply a physical enjoyment...Thoughts? Opinions?


(Please only reply if your going to be mature about this...)


Actually, studies show that at least on a woman’s part, emotional attachment is necessary for a fulfilling and enjoyable sexual experience. For men it’s always been more physical, but I’m an eighteen year old virgin. Could’ve had sex a few times…like maybe twice. But, I chose not to, because I for one WOULD like to have something special to share with a woman who I truly love and want to spend the rest of my life with. Problem is, I doubt I’ll ever find a woman my age who’s also a virgin. So, it’s kind of hard to want to stay pure when nobody else is. You see what I’m saying?
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Posted 7/17/09
I find it sort of funny and ironic many of the comments in this thread are almost mirror images of what I heard my parents and teachers say about my generation. The youth of today isn't going through anything people haven't gone through before. I don't think the standards of behavior among a normal person has changed at all, or ever will. I do admit Cuddlebuns may have a point about the reality of this low standard being more common knowledge due to the media though.
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DarkDaigoro wrote:

It's not just the media to blame, but the role models that the younger generation have. A child's parents to say that sex is a beautiful thing, but should only happen with the one you know you're going to be with for a long time. But if they knew that their "really cool" older sibling(s) was sleeping around, who do you really think that the child is going to take after? Where did the older sibling learn to act like this? From friends? Media? Maybe their friend's parents?

Nowadays, the world more or less functions on "What's cool" and losing one's virginity just happens to be one of them. Most of the younger generation nowadays barely have any sense of judgment, or shame, or honor. Or any other qualities that would make them into well-respected adults.

It's sad to think how the future will be like.


ahaha..!
you cant blame other people. we have different beliefs and judgment. what may be good for someone may be bad for someone else..so yeah.

hello btw..
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i-hate wrote:

Love is just a strong emotion and nothing more
the word "love" its self is overrated. I don't believe
that having sex with everyone or anyone who
isn't special is right but i believe
as long as you, yourself don’t regret your actions
its fine. Again human beings are able to fool
themselves and believe that they "love" someone
while in reality they may despise the person.
I personally hate the word "Love" and for all it
stands because in the end love will only bring
pain. so i believe that others may not judge peers around them
but only could only judge themselves by their own actions.


Love doesn't always hurt ,It hurts only for those who had a bad experience .Love itself is a positive feeling .Yes ,It hurts like all HELL but that's why it's true love ..so don't lose hope and keep your head up high my friend...

It's just sad that many ppl like to have sex just for fun ,what's with all the 'have sex with random guys/girls I don't like' ,that's just stupid ..

Having sex with someone you truly love is so much better ...
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"Sex Has Never Been About Love!"

Sex is about passing on your DNA to the next generation.
Are brain reacts to certain stimulus to insure that you Mate with a prime DNA specimen.
That is all love is! The brain reacting to a prime candidate for breeding.
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Posted 8/18/09
first of all, HAHAHAHA! this is a funny thread.
2nd, does that really matter if love = sex.

No. it does not. Either you have sex or u don't. duh. Since when did love matter? HA. You silly humans and your illusions.
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