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What would you do if your friend was getting abused by their parents?
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Posted 7/24/09
your friend got hurt by his/her parents (abuse) and he or she doesn't want you to tell it to anyone.
what would you do?
just tell it in hope that your friend gets help
or you don't tell it cause your scared of what the parents of the kid might do to him/her if they found out.

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yes or no? and why?
Posted 7/24/09
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This thread is fine. The OP doesn't imply that it's a personal thread and there's room for discussion here.

If it was my friend I would first assess how he/she felt towards their parents. If my friend still loved them then I'd go easy on being critical of the parents as it'd just alienate you from your friend.
But if my friend wanted to get away then I'd do whatever I can to help them - let them stay at my house, phone Social Services or find out which are the right places to go for info on these situations, raise some cash for him/her to move away etc.
You may know what's right or wrong being an outsider but it's what your friend wants you to do at the end of the day, regardless of whether you agree with it or not. You can try and make them see otherwise but you can't make the decision for them.
Posted 7/24/09
i dont know
Posted 7/24/09 , edited 7/24/09
Oh, ok, so the thread is good. ^^ sorry for doubting at first... :[
Um, like I said before, just go and help your friend! get an adult help, like the police. Don't just ignore it and wait for something to happen because you will regret it.
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It depends on the "abuse"
Every family has problems, every parents has snapped and hit their child at least once. First I would make sure that my friend is actually in trouble, and she's not just whining about her parent's always hitting her

I've been hit by my parents by a whip to a hard heeled shoe. It's just their way of punishing me if I did something wrong. I don't hate them, it's their way of parenting. But if my friend was actually in trouble, and was being abused for absolutely no reason. I would help her to move out and start a new life. Comfort her when ever she's down, and if she ever needs a place to stay, welcome her to my place with open arms.
Posted 7/24/09
well they told me
so they should be comfortable with telling everyone
cause i cant keep a secret.
and if he/she is my friend they should know that.
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Posted 7/24/09
If it is severe then it is time to help him/her by asking a responsible adult.
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Posted 7/24/09
i think it's enough to stay by her side and do all you can to make your friend happy and get over the situation.
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Posted 7/24/09
my mom used to beateth me with a belt. :/
Posted 7/24/09
if he/she was having a real abuse and they were hurting him/her alot then its better to tell any open-minded adult you trust his decision and he will not tell anybody about it , because he will think with a solution better than me , and will know how to help here

its all depend on the person you gonna tell , so dont chose any one
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Posted 7/24/09 , edited 7/24/09
If it was legitimate beatings or abuse I would call the police anonymously and tip them off and feign not knowing anything to my friend but give the PD all the info I could if they asked. Note that legitimate abuse is not getting spanked with a belt or something similar, unless they are doing it repeatedly and for no reason. Abuse is getting bruised significantly, bones being broken, being beaten for no apparent reason, blood being drawn, etc etc.

As for my friends feelings, is it right to get involved, moral dilemma, what do I do what do I do?!?! I quote Nietzsche, "All it takes for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing." Or something to that effect. If you know your friend is being abused and you do nothing about it you are no better than the person doing the abusing.
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Posted 7/24/09
i already hav the friend stuation lol.. but i'm shared it with my friends...
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Posted 7/24/09
Call the police and get them arrested. No one touch my friends.
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Posted 7/25/09
The better question is, what can you do?
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Posted 7/25/09

lalouse wrote:

Call the police and get them arrested. No one touch my friends.




I would only do that if they were getting beat for no reason.
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