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I read through all the informations through the internet, about the 80% and stuff. I thought to myself, I'm definitely NOT gonna be that majority, I AM going to report it. I even called my teacher, he gave me a phonenumber a officer. When I talked to him, I knew if I do it now, there's no turning back. But when I told my mom she said to me if I report it, everybody know about it, as in our whole family. And rather being sympathized, people will think you are stupid. Because people who hadn't been there first-hand wouldn't know WHY you get molested first place. She disencouraged me report it. You see, my mom is a very conservative chinese. And that relative was a man she knew growing up together with.

Besides, I have no proof, I'm the only talking. It happened years back. What can I do about it? Not everybody is informed as much as I do. And when so many don't believe it's just not worth it.

Right now, now I'm just living through misery everyday, trying to move on with my life because life goes on no matter what. It's stupid, I know, because now everyday I regret about what I could've done. But I think if I gone through it the second time, my decision might just end up the same, because all the difficulty i have to go through before appearing on court.


That's just ridiculously sad and stupid. If I had a kid who was molested I would be enraged and I wouldn't care whoever it was, I'd want them to be in jail. But people would think you were stupid instead? For being molested as a child? It's just insane, but I guess more conservative and traditional families wouldn't like something like this to get alot of attention.


How would that be a problem for traditional and conservative families? We don't blame child molestation on the children. One of my good friends was molested in a public classroom and no one feels it's her fault. We lovingly car for her, in fact it doesn't even get her down. There is healing from things like this. If anything I would argue that conservative and traditional families would be happier to seek justice and help their child through what happened to ease pain and bring about healing so the child isn't scarred.


I didn't mean all traditional and conservative families. Asian families that are very traditional, that just don't talk about these kinds of things, would not be very eager to make something like this known to be an issue in their family.



oh ok, sorry for taking your statement to be general ^-^
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Posted 8/2/09

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Yei wrote:


blacktulip_y wrote:



I read through all the informations through the internet, about the 80% and stuff. I thought to myself, I'm definitely NOT gonna be that majority, I AM going to report it. I even called my teacher, he gave me a phonenumber a officer. When I talked to him, I knew if I do it now, there's no turning back. But when I told my mom she said to me if I report it, everybody know about it, as in our whole family. And rather being sympathized, people will think you are stupid. Because people who hadn't been there first-hand wouldn't know WHY you get molested first place. She disencouraged me report it. You see, my mom is a very conservative chinese. And that relative was a man she knew growing up together with.

Besides, I have no proof, I'm the only talking. It happened years back. What can I do about it? Not everybody is informed as much as I do. And when so many don't believe it's just not worth it.

Right now, now I'm just living through misery everyday, trying to move on with my life because life goes on no matter what. It's stupid, I know, because now everyday I regret about what I could've done. But I think if I gone through it the second time, my decision might just end up the same, because all the difficulty i have to go through before appearing on court.


That's just ridiculously sad and stupid. If I had a kid who was molested I would be enraged and I wouldn't care whoever it was, I'd want them to be in jail. But people would think you were stupid instead? For being molested as a child? It's just insane, but I guess more conservative and traditional families wouldn't like something like this to get alot of attention.


How would that be a problem for traditional and conservative families? We don't blame child molestation on the children. One of my good friends was molested in a public classroom and no one feels it's her fault. We lovingly car for her, in fact it doesn't even get her down. There is healing from things like this. If anything I would argue that conservative and traditional families would be happier to seek justice and help their child through what happened to ease pain and bring about healing so the child isn't scarred.


Of course nobody is gonna blame the child. But then she/he'll will get all the attention as 'the girl/boy who got molested'. And when you have to really go through the whole dillemma. I started at my best friend, and then I told my counselor, she encouraged me to tell my mom, and then I have to tell my dad, and then my homeroom teacher, afterwards the investigator.

Can you imagine how many more people I gotta tell if I were going all out? I was totally ready for it, but then there will always stupid to discourage because they are ashamed (my parents in this case) The police just want the glory of saving another innocent teenage girl. Which is just as pathetic. And the fact they are all asking same ol' stupid question is unavoidable. They keep on asking you down to detail, which I honestly dun really remember anymore.
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Imo, pedophiles should not be given a chance #2 or #3 as some have been given. They did it once, they were aware of it, they were in control and they will do it again. The "...117 before they get caught" pretty much proves that. Execution should be re-approved for such cases, pedophelia should be removed from its roots before, as a "mental instability", it spreads to both the victims and the pedophiles own family.

@ Blacktulip_y - I find your lack of self-interest rather disturbing. Is it about you, or your family? Who is the one that had to suffer the pain and the shame? It wasn't someone close to you, it wasn't your friend, it wasn't your family, it was YOU! How can you even care about the shame your family would have to go through if people knew when you yourself was the one who went through hell for years. The only thing your mum should be ashamed of is not trusting her own daughter and even thinking about herself when you're the one that had to "take all the shame" for years. I'd cut ties with such a stupid family as soon as I can. Good luck with your future.
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Asian families (or maybe just Chinese, I think) has this funny thing going when it comes to dealing with issues like that. Other families or people are DYING to hear anything bad from your household. It's just negative things are more popular then your positive things. When you gossip, you don't talk good stuff about others either right?

I just hate my parents as much, I hate them for not protecting me. That's why I'll be leaving this place when I turn 21 and they have no way of stopping me.

To tell the very truth, now that I think about it, I should've not tell my parents at all because they were ones who was stopping me. I should've just stab that man to death and since I'm underage I might get away with it.
Posted 8/3/09
There are at least 1152 offenders in my area, which is a pretty scary thing. There are so many children walking back and forth from school or work where I live, so knowing that there are that many offenders makes me feel unsafe.
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Posted 8/3/09

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There are at least 1152 offenders in my area, which is a pretty scary thing. There are so many children walking back and forth from school or work where I live, so knowing that there are that many offenders makes me feel unsafe.


Yeah, it's pretty scary how many there are. I should make a separate topic just to let people know how many offenders live near them.
Posted 8/3/09
What's kind of messed up is that most of the cases revolve around men doing the offenses. Most of the registered (if not all) sex offenders in my area are middle aged men. I remember when I first had my virginity taken was when I was 14 while I was hanging out with one of my skater buddies and this 23 yo goth chick. Her boyfriend was away for the weekend and given the fact that she was such a horn dog she decided to jump my bones right there on her couch. I was sorta not willing at first because I had never done it before but then after awhile I got into it. But then again, it would be considered rape since she was more than 5 years older than me at the time, although I couldn't really say if she's a pedophiler

I don't know, if I had really disliked it and decided to report it...people would probably laugh in my face because I'm a guy and that's probably why most cases of guys getting raped go unreported.

According to the US statistics on rape:

1-6 Women are raped.
1-33 Men are raped.
44% of the victims are under 18.
60% of the cases go unreported.

Since more than half of the cases go unreported, it makes one wounder what the truth is behind it all as far as which sex is more likely to rape another.

IMO, both are equally capable.
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Posted 8/4/09 , edited 8/4/09

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What's kind of messed up is that most of the cases revolve around men doing the offenses. Most of the registered (if not all) sex offenders in my area are middle aged men. I remember when I first had my virginity taken was when I was 14 while I was hanging out with one of my skater buddies and this 23 yo goth chick. Her boyfriend was away for the weekend and given the fact that she was such a horn dog she decided to jump my bones right there on her couch. I was sorta not willing at first because I had never done it before but then after awhile I got into it. But then again, it would be considered rape since she was more than 5 years older than me at the time, although I couldn't really say if she's a pedophiler

I don't know, if I had really disliked it and decided to report it...people would probably laugh in my face because I'm a guy and that's probably why most cases of guys getting raped go unreported.

According to the US statistics on rape:

1-6 Women are raped.
1-33 Men are raped.
44% of the victims are under 18.
60% of the cases go unreported.

Since more than half of the cases go unreported, it makes one wounder what the truth is behind it all as far as which sex is more likely to rape another.

IMO, both are equally capable.


Yeah, that was rape, since you were only 14. But she proabably isn't a pedophile because you may not have been prepubescent since you were over 13. And wow, I would have thought that must have been horrible for you because of how much older she was and you were only 14. But you were only "sorta" unwilling and then got into it? Was she very young-looking and attractive for her age?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/8022861.stm

Most pedophiles are men, though there are also women who are pedophiles. Due to the stereotype that pedophiles are always male, it has been difficult to determine the prevalence of females with pedophilia; however studies in the UK and USA suggest that a range of 5% to 20% of child sexual abuse offenses are perpetrated by women.


For rape, I think the reason it's rare with women is because they generally wouldn't need to.
Posted 8/4/09

Yei wrote:


illincrux wrote:

What's kind of messed up is that most of the cases revolve around men doing the offenses. Most of the registered (if not all) sex offenders in my area are middle aged men. I remember when I first had my virginity taken was when I was 14 while I was hanging out with one of my skater buddies and this 23 yo goth chick. Her boyfriend was away for the weekend and given the fact that she was such a horn dog she decided to jump my bones right there on her couch. I was sorta not willing at first because I had never done it before but then after awhile I got into it. But then again, it would be considered rape since she was more than 5 years older than me at the time, although I couldn't really say if she's a pedophiler

I don't know, if I had really disliked it and decided to report it...people would probably laugh in my face because I'm a guy and that's probably why most cases of guys getting raped go unreported.

According to the US statistics on rape:

1-6 Women are raped.
1-33 Men are raped.
44% of the victims are under 18.
60% of the cases go unreported.

Since more than half of the cases go unreported, it makes one wounder what the truth is behind it all as far as which sex is more likely to rape another.

IMO, both are equally capable.


Yeah, that was rape, since you were only 14. But she proabably isn't a pedophile because you may not have been prepubescent since you were over 13. And wow, I would have thought that must have been horrible for you because of how much older she was and you were only 14. But you were only "sorta" unwilling and then got into it? Was she very young-looking and attractive for her age?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/8022861.stm

Most pedophiles are men, though there are also women who are pedophiles. Due to the stereotype that pedophiles are always male, it has been difficult to determine the prevalence of females with pedophilia; however studies in the UK and USA suggest that a range of 5% to 20% of child sexual abuse offenses are perpetrated by women.


For rape, I think the reason it's rare with women is because they generally wouldn't need to.


sigh i wish some woman would rape me
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CecilTheDarkKnight_234 wrote:


Yei wrote:


illincrux wrote:

What's kind of messed up is that most of the cases revolve around men doing the offenses. Most of the registered (if not all) sex offenders in my area are middle aged men. I remember when I first had my virginity taken was when I was 14 while I was hanging out with one of my skater buddies and this 23 yo goth chick. Her boyfriend was away for the weekend and given the fact that she was such a horn dog she decided to jump my bones right there on her couch. I was sorta not willing at first because I had never done it before but then after awhile I got into it. But then again, it would be considered rape since she was more than 5 years older than me at the time, although I couldn't really say if she's a pedophiler

I don't know, if I had really disliked it and decided to report it...people would probably laugh in my face because I'm a guy and that's probably why most cases of guys getting raped go unreported.

According to the US statistics on rape:

1-6 Women are raped.
1-33 Men are raped.
44% of the victims are under 18.
60% of the cases go unreported.

Since more than half of the cases go unreported, it makes one wounder what the truth is behind it all as far as which sex is more likely to rape another.

IMO, both are equally capable.


Yeah, that was rape, since you were only 14. But she proabably isn't a pedophile because you may not have been prepubescent since you were over 13. And wow, I would have thought that must have been horrible for you because of how much older she was and you were only 14. But you were only "sorta" unwilling and then got into it? Was she very young-looking and attractive for her age?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/8022861.stm

Most pedophiles are men, though there are also women who are pedophiles. Due to the stereotype that pedophiles are always male, it has been difficult to determine the prevalence of females with pedophilia; however studies in the UK and USA suggest that a range of 5% to 20% of child sexual abuse offenses are perpetrated by women.


For rape, I think the reason it's rare with women is because they generally wouldn't need to.


sigh i wish some woman would rape me


But then it wouldn't be considered rape

Anyways, we need to continue therapy, reply to my guest book post!!
Posted 8/4/09 , edited 8/4/09



I guess the correct term for it would be sagitary rape since we were both willing for the most part. I can't remember the exact details of her face/body (this was 12 years ago), but I think she was pretty attractive?

Nevertheless, it just pisses me off that there are so many twisted fucking guys out there who are sexual predators and it almost doesn't seem fair to me as a man. I'm almost considering marking all of these assholes in my area on my phone via gps and then beating their heads in with a bat whenever I get a chance just to get the numbers down. Sigh, since you've showed that link to us I've been thinking of telling my gf to be careful when she goes out after sun down. I would fucking explode if anything happened to her!
Posted 8/4/09

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I guess the correct term for it would be sagitary rape since we were both willing for the most part. I can't remember the exact details of her face/body (this was 12 years ago), but I think she was pretty attractive?

Nevertheless, it just pisses me off that there are so many twisted fucking guys out there who are sexual predators and it almost doesn't seem fair to me as a man. I'm almost considering marking all of these assholes in my area on my phone via gps and then beating their heads in with a bat whenever I get a chance just to get the numbers down. Sigh, since you've showed that link to us I've been thinking of telling my gf to be careful when she goes out after sun down. I would fucking explode if anything happened to her!


well we have map and list of where they live so why not hunt them down like animals and just kill them all off?? what harm could it really do we need to fucking kill them all off anyways >.>
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I guess the correct term for it would be sagitary rape since we were both willing for the most part. I can't remember the exact details of her face/body (this was 12 years ago), but I think she was pretty attractive?

Nevertheless, it just pisses me off that there are so many twisted fucking guys out there who are sexual predators and it almost doesn't seem fair to me as a man. I'm almost considering marking all of these assholes in my area on my phone via gps and then beating their heads in with a bat whenever I get a chance just to get the numbers down. Sigh, since you've showed that link to us I've been thinking of telling my gf to be careful when she goes out after sun down. I would fucking explode if anything happened to her!


lol I don't think that's a good idea, I think you should always be on your guard but not paranoid, because like someone else said, even people who are not registered could be capable of offending.

I think the point of letting everyone know who's a sex offender is to stop people from unknowingly letting them babysit their kids or from inviting them over for parties, not to become paranoid and scared to walk down the street.
Posted 8/4/09 , edited 8/4/09

Yei wrote:


illincrux wrote:




I guess the correct term for it would be sagitary rape since we were both willing for the most part. I can't remember the exact details of her face/body (this was 12 years ago), but I think she was pretty attractive?

Nevertheless, it just pisses me off that there are so many twisted fucking guys out there who are sexual predators and it almost doesn't seem fair to me as a man. I'm almost considering marking all of these assholes in my area on my phone via gps and then beating their heads in with a bat whenever I get a chance just to get the numbers down. Sigh, since you've showed that link to us I've been thinking of telling my gf to be careful when she goes out after sun down. I would fucking explode if anything happened to her!


lol I don't think that's a good idea, I think you should always be on your guard but not paranoid, because like someone else said, even people who are not registered could be capable of offending.

I think the point of letting everyone know who's a sex offender is to stop people from unknowingly letting them babysit their kids or from inviting them over for parties, not to become paranoid and scared to walk down the street.


Oh yeah, that makes me feel less paranoid knowing that there are sex offenders out there that haven't even been registered yet! God, in my area alone (within a 500 yard radius), there is 3 convicted assholes. And from what i've read, the average rapist commits 100-150 acts of rape before getting caught!!!

Yeah maybe you're right about me being paranoid...it's an eye opener though...for me at least. And you know, we were considering sticking around and having children, but now that I see where all these twisted fools are and how close they all are to us; well, i think I'll use that web site to find a place where there isn't as many.

And you know, I really don't think i'm being paranoid. Because if we have a girl, that means 1 out of every 6 of her friends that I meet will have been raped...its fucked up man.

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I probably shouldn't say this, but I brought the topic of rape up tonight with my girl and as a matter of fact she had been raped a couple of times when she was younger. When I asked her how it affected her, she told me, "it sort of just felt like I got beat up and nothing more..." Basically she made it sound like it was nothing which kinda pissed me off but whatever...what right do I have about it? Anyways, I'm curious to know if others feel that way?

I hope she sticks to animecrave...
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illincrux wrote:


Yei wrote:


illincrux wrote:




I guess the correct term for it would be sagitary rape since we were both willing for the most part. I can't remember the exact details of her face/body (this was 12 years ago), but I think she was pretty attractive?

Nevertheless, it just pisses me off that there are so many twisted fucking guys out there who are sexual predators and it almost doesn't seem fair to me as a man. I'm almost considering marking all of these assholes in my area on my phone via gps and then beating their heads in with a bat whenever I get a chance just to get the numbers down. Sigh, since you've showed that link to us I've been thinking of telling my gf to be careful when she goes out after sun down. I would fucking explode if anything happened to her!


lol I don't think that's a good idea, I think you should always be on your guard but not paranoid, because like someone else said, even people who are not registered could be capable of offending.

I think the point of letting everyone know who's a sex offender is to stop people from unknowingly letting them babysit their kids or from inviting them over for parties, not to become paranoid and scared to walk down the street.


Oh yeah, that makes me feel less paranoid knowing that there are sex offenders out there that haven't even been registered yet! God, in my area alone (within a 500 yard radius), there is 3 convicted assholes. And from what i've read, the average rapist commits 100-150 acts of rape before getting caught!!!

Yeah maybe you're right about me being paranoid...it's an eye opener though...for me at least. And you know, we were considering sticking around and having children, but now that I see where all these twisted fools are and how close they all are to us; well, i think I'll use that web site to find a place where there isn't as many.

And you know, I really don't think i'm being paranoid. Because if we have a girl, that means 1 out of every 6 of her friends that I meet will have been raped...its fucked up man.

[edit]

I probably shouldn't say this, but I brought the topic of rape up tonight with my girl and as a matter of fact she had been raped a couple of times when she was younger. When I asked her how it affected her, she told me, "it sort of just felt like I got beat up and nothing more..." Basically she made it sound like it was nothing which kinda pissed me off but whatever...what right do I have about it? Anyways, I'm curious to know if others feel that way?

I hope she sticks to animecrave...


The average rapist commits 100-150 acts of rape before getting caught? That doesn't sound right, I don't think that many people wouldn't report anything.

Your gf was actually raped a couple of times when she was younger? Well I guess it depends on the circumstances, but if I was raped I would probably be devastated, I don't know how I could just feel "beat up." I've heard of some people feeling ashamed and wanting to keep it secret when they get raped or molested. But it depends on the circumstances, like if it was some random guy who attacks you on the street or someone you know who takes advantage of you.
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