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Um I have this big problem going on with my friends and I, I'm not to sure when and how I got myself involved when I tried not to be involved. So here's what's been happening. My friend Chris who's moved in with me and my family due to family problems really likes this girl named Crystal who moved to my town a few months ago. On the other hand my friend Nick (which literary beats me up sometimes yet is somehow my annoying friend) also likes this girl Crystal. Which Nick is a big time player but he seems more serious about this girl. And this guy Seth who is Crystal's childhood friend is coming to visit her this Winter Break but problem is he also likes her. Chris leans on me for talks and supports. Nick has also been talking to me for some tips. My next door neighbor who is my childhood friend Cierra has become friends with Crystal and says that Crystal is confused on who she likes and who she loves. I really don't know what to do about this situation
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Well, first I would tell each of your friends that you do not want them to fight over a crush. Crystal will follow her heart and pick the guy she wants to date. She may not pick either of them. The best thing to do is go out on a get-together with Chris, Nick,Seth, Crystal, and Cierra. Leave Crystal alone with one of them. Make sure Cierra is in on the plan. Have her help you get the other two away from Crystal when she is alone with one of them. Also, Crystal must be with each guy (seperately) for the same amount of time, between 5 and 10 minutes should be good. At the end of the get-together, have Cierra and Crystal go home together, unless Crystal is holding the hands of either Chris, Nick, or Seth. Cierra and Crystal must talk about the day. Have Cierra ask Crystal what she thought about each of the boys. Cierra should be able to see the changes in Crystal's expressions as she talks about each of the boys. If she blushes or smiles a lot when talking about one of them, that is the one she likes. Wait for Cierra to send you the name of the boy Crystal chose. Cierra also, must incurrage Crystal to ask that boy out. The next day, after recieving the text or call and after Crystal talks to the boy she likes, try to apologize to the othe boys (even though it's not your fault) and tell them that there will be a girl for them. Pat each of the boys on the back then try to chare them up!
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I don't know exactly what happened when each of them got to be alone with Crystal. But at the beginning Chris was the only one with Crystal. And Seth was whining all the time about how he wanted to go over with Crystal. Nick just kept quiet. then, Seth got his chance. still no idea what happened. Chris got a few snacks. since he was hungry. Nick was quiet with a few comments in our random conversations. Then Nick got his chance. still no idea what happens. Seth was kinda happy but he was still whining. Chris was snacking quietly kinda getting at was going on. Cierra was bored and quiet the whole time but was anxious to see the results. When the day was over i walked Seth to the hotel he was staying at, then walked Nick home, and then came home with Chris. And waited for Cierra to tell me what Crystal had thought and what was what and etc. it was confusing when Ceirra told me, but it's nothing official yet. But Crystal seemed to think Seth was really funny and cute. Crystal thinks Chris needs to be more happy instead of his sad kindness. And Nick, Nick is a sweet charmer but Cierra thinks she might go for Nick. Even though it seems that she likes all of them which was the problem to begin with.
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So it seems like Chris is out of the running, so to speak. Crystal now must decide between Seth and Nick. Now is the time for her to take both of them out together (the 3 of them). Have Cierra tell Crystal that the one that makes her heart thump more is the one she likes more. Make sure both of them know that the other is going. They both have to go or this doesn't work. If neither of the two makes her heart pound, then to her, Seth and Nick are just good firends. (this is the hard part)
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The aura around everyone is soo different now. I don't know the details but Crystal ended up with no one. She said they're all good friends. I guess that was the best choice in the end. But I've never seen Nick cry, ever. Not even when we were little kids. He's never been serious about a girl so it makes me sad to see it turn out this way. When Crystal gathered everyone to speak clearly. Nick just kept quiet. He didn't even cry until everyone left. I'd like some advice if you can please help me with my friends once more.
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It is hard to be regected. The only thing you can do is support him. Hang out with him, doing his favorite things. Avoid anything that may remind him of Crystal. Do not try to set him up unless he asks you to. He will grow and learn from this experience. Sometimes you might have to leave him alone. Don't take any mean things he may say personal. Remember to stay by his side whenever he needs you. Nick will one day find the love of his life. All it takes is the support of his friends and family, and some time.
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I'll try to be as supportive as I can. Him being gloomy doesn't fit at all. But his family won't support him. . . But anyway I'll tell you how he's doing after awhile.
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How is it going?
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Uh Nick? He's doing better . . . . I guess. However Seth hasn't given up on Crystal. Afterall since he's been after her the longest he's been told he's just a friend before. But Nick was almost sent to a boarding school, like i said his family is very strict and unsporting. They don't understand him at all. His parents are always out traveling for work or vacation out of state or country. His strict older brother and carefree older brother care for him. But his strict older brother runs everything it seems like. I wish they could see Nick's pain. it leaves me in odd position.
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Uh Nick? He's doing better . . . . I guess. However Seth hasn't given up on Crystal. Afterall since he's been after her the longest he's been told he's just a friend before. But Nick was almost sent to a boarding school, like i said his family is very strict and unsporting. They don't understand him at all. His parents are always out traveling for work or vacation out of state or country. His strict older brother and carefree older brother care for him. But his strict older brother runs everything it seems like. I wish they could see Nick's pain. it leaves me in odd position.


The problem about helping others with a family issue is that one gets to involved in the problem that one may get hurt. Nick needs a friend to stand by his side. Be there for him and always support him. Nick will one day move away from his family and he should know that you are there if he needs you.
As for Seth, he will one day either find someone else who he loves even more then Crystal or Crystal may realize that her feelings for him are more then just friendship. But that is for her and him to decide. Sometimes standing as the neutral party is the best. Watch over the way Seth and Crystal act, but you do not need to keep tavbs on them. Don't worry, as time moves on, so do we.
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How is everything?
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Uh Nick? He's doing better . . . . I guess. However Seth hasn't given up on Crystal. Afterall since he's been after her the longest he's been told he's just a friend before. But Nick was almost sent to a boarding school, like i said his family is very strict and unsporting. They don't understand him at all. His parents are always out traveling for work or vacation out of state or country. His strict older brother and carefree older brother care for him. But his strict older brother runs everything it seems like. I wish they could see Nick's pain. it leaves me in odd position.


The problem about helping others with a family issue is that one gets to involved in the problem that one may get hurt. Nick needs a friend to stand by his side. Be there for him and always support him. Nick will one day move away from his family and he should know that you are there if he needs you.
As for Seth, he will one day either find someone else who he loves even more then Crystal or Crystal may realize that her feelings for him are more then just friendship. But that is for her and him to decide. Sometimes standing as the neutral party is the best. Watch over the way Seth and Crystal act, but you do not need to keep tavbs on them. Don't worry, as time moves on, so do we.


wow you sound so wise. . . .
Everything is how to say well. . . Nick is doing better. . I guess. More like he's pretending to be okay. And what I meant when I said it leaves me in a odd position is because well Nick's strict older brother is going to marry my older sister soon (and she's pregnant). I wish Nick would try and talk to me. I know he's not okay. Maybe I'm just worrying to much, I mean Nick's always been such a strong figure.
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Don't let your gaurd down! Nick is probably going through the stages of denial. His 'mask' will slip and he will need you. Stay by his side and tell him that you are there when he needs you!
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Don't let your gaurd down! Nick is probably going through the stages of denial. His 'mask' will slip and he will need you. Stay by his side and tell him that you are there when he needs you!


Nick is going back to dating again but i think things still aren't good with Crystal. I mean we all used to be friends and now Nick isn't even talking or being in the same room (or cafeteria) with her. I go to his house about everyday or he comes over and we talk more and he doesn't bully me anymore ether but it still doesn't feel right. even when he beat the hell out of me or was chasing after crystal it was like we were connected as friends but now it just feels like void filled talking though it feels on the outside like we're having fun it doens't on the inside.
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