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Sometimes it takes a long time for someone to move on. Staying away from Crystal may be his way of trying to get over the pain. Sometimes the one who needs to deal with the pain is the one who is already in it. For now, I would let him fight his own battle but remind him that you are his friend and that your are there if he ever needs you. Life goes on no matter what blocks one's way.
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Yuki-kyo-kira wrote:



Sometimes it takes a long time for someone to move on. Staying away from Crystal may be his way of trying to get over the pain. Sometimes the one who needs to deal with the pain is the one who is already in it. For now, I would let him fight his own battle but remind him that you are his friend and that your are there if he ever needs you. Life goes on no matter what blocks one's way.


Thank you for the advice. I have another thing to ask of you. One of my other best buds Chris. I'm getting worried about him. He's addicted to smoking. he's not even supposed to be smoking because he's underage. It's not like he's pressuring me to smoke, but i'm just worried about the outcomes that will happen to him. I know that he starting smoking because of his low life and the way his parents treated him. i know that addiction is a big problem. what should i do?
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Sometimes slapping him in the face works (I do not mean literally). Go to google and type in "ingredients in cigarettes" then select "Cigarette Ingredients - Chemicals in Cigarettes" and print it. You can show him the 599 adictive ingredients in cigarettes and show example of what may happen to him if he continues smoking. Make sure you tell him that you are telling him this for his own good!
Here's the link for the website to make it easier: http://www.tricountycessation.org/tobaccofacts/Cigarette-Ingredients.html
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well i had this problem with one of my ex-friends almost 1 year i dont know if i should keep on not talking to him or should i firgive lets just say he said "lets do it sometime and he also commented that my friends and i one of use lookined like we were having a baby what should i do it really pissed me of
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well i had this problem with one of my ex-friends almost 1 year i dont know if i should keep on not talking to him or should i firgive lets just say he said "lets do it sometime and he also commented that my friends and i one of use lookined like we were having a baby what should i do it really pissed me of


Well, he should never have said that, but you need to understand the some guys do not think before they speak. You should trust your heart. What your friend thinks of herself is something she needs to talk about. She should trust herself and believe that she is beautiful the way she is. Never give in to others and do what you want to do.
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Yuki-kyo-kira wrote:


emolover4ever wrote:

well i had this problem with one of my ex-friends almost 1 year i dont know if i should keep on not talking to him or should i firgive lets just say he said "lets do it sometime and he also commented that my friends and i one of use lookined like we were having a baby what should i do it really pissed me of


Well, he should never have said that, but you need to understand the some guys do not think before they speak. You should trust your heart. What your friend thinks of herself is something she needs to talk about. She should trust herself and believe that she is beautiful the way she is. Never give in to others and do what you want to do.


Thakns a lot that helped a lot and im going to consider that a lot
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Yuki-kyo-kira wrote:



Sometimes slapping him in the face works (I do not mean literally). Go to google and type in "ingredients in cigarettes" then select "Cigarette Ingredients - Chemicals in Cigarettes" and print it. You can show him the 599 adictive ingredients in cigarettes and show example of what may happen to him if he continues smoking. Make sure you tell him that you are telling him this for his own good!
Here's the link for the website to make it easier: http://www.tricountycessation.org/tobaccofacts/Cigarette-Ingredients.html


How many months it's been? i wonder . . . .
When I confronted him about his smoking problem and showed him the paper with all the nasty ingredients that cigarettes have and how it can effect him, he just gave me an annoyed look and told me that he already knows. i asked him if he knows then why isn't he even trying to stop smoking. Chris says he's an addict and it helps him when he's irritated or angry. It's hard trying to tell him all the time that he needs to stop and that I'll help him. I mean understand the kind of pressure and pain his mom puts him under but what are friends for if they can't help each other when they're down. Nothing i tried will work. Chris tells me he's thankful for having me as a friend even though he won't quit smoking.
Do you think this is something I can't make him stop doing?
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If he wants to stop then he could go to rehab or another place that could help him. It's not easy to quit.
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If he wants to stop then he could go to rehab or another place that could help him. It's not easy to quit.


Chris still refuses to stop smoking. He refuses to go to a help center. I don't know if theres much i can do for him. . About a 11 months ago Chris moved in with me. And then after 5 months he moved back with his Mother due to legal stuff. And now about 1 month ago he moved in with me again. His mom have alot of problems thanx to his dad. So now he has lots of problems. His mom just kets him smoke. But my mother says to do something about it cause she doesn't want him smoking by or near the house especially cause she thinks me or my younger sister might try to smoke. I can't do anything if he doesn't let me help him or wants to be helped. Please please please help me
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Posted 10/14/10
This may be a little drastic, but give him an incentive. If your mom (presumably the owner of your house) doesn't want him smoking in or around the house, she has every right to kick him out. I know both you and Chris are having a lot of issues, but right now i seems as though he needs a little structure and incentive in his life. He either should stop smoking in your house and around it (and hopefully the difficutly level of this will lead to quitting) or not live there anymore. Harsh but it is not his house...

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Posted 11/8/10

nikki12390 wrote:

This may be a little drastic, but give him an incentive. If your mom (presumably the owner of your house) doesn't want him smoking in or around the house, she has every right to kick him out. I know both you and Chris are having a lot of issues, but right now i seems as though he needs a little structure and incentive in his life. He either should stop smoking in your house and around it (and hopefully the difficutly level of this will lead to quitting) or not live there anymore. Harsh but it is not his house...

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