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Posted 1/12/10

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saroin420 wrote:

why is it that after sex people change ??

i think that sex clarifies who truly are.
there is not one person that doesnt change after sex


Could it not be that the said person finally got what they wanted (sex from the second party) and they no longer have to put up a facade? At least that's what I sense a lot from these all these girls that are jaded because guys they thought where sweet ended up being douches after they got laid.


im one of those girls.
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Lol, well for me it made me more comfortable with my current bf,
We were in the "omgosh what can I do and not do around them" stage for 10 months.
Finally we did and now we don't care O.O burp, pick noses LMAOOOOO
I think it makes you more comfortable, but with a bad experience it'll make it more awkward.
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After good sex, your body chemistry changes. Your brain will release various different chemicals to make you feel different.

Our behaviors change depending on the emotion we're experiencing. Emotions are mixtures of chemicals that our body produces and releases.

If a guy is just after the release, it'll be relieving and empty...he'll want to move on after, very similar to masturbation except there is the added validation of getting laid.

If a guy genuinely likes the girl and it's more than just about sex, his brain will release an entirely different set of chemicals to make him feel different.

For me, I found that if I don't genuinely like the girl, I'll want her to leave after sex. If I really like her, I'll be more open to connect with her and be more affectionate towards her.
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In all honesty I don't think I changed after having sex. I felt like I could relate to other girl's better, but sex was never an important part of my life then, now yes I have a different view on sex maybe because I'm older..
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Virgin here. Yeah, so what?

Mental changes happen after sex. People experience euphoria and often a new creative strive. It must be so amazing...
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I think theres a few types of catagories of people.

1.Those who grew up with everything sexual, so it was easy and natural to have sex, ex. good looking, sexy voice, active and optimistic, or some other quality that leads to attraction. So its just natural to have sex over and over and if people make a big deal out of it, they'll think its weird. But usually they stay in their own circles unless they meet someone with a lot of money or great personality.

2.Those who learned over time about how to get into relationships, like me who was a really shy guy who couldn't learn how to talk to girls, until after a few years of learning seduction/pickup/understanding relationships. Sort of a transformation from a weakling stupid and lack responsibility, leadership, and sexuality into an alpha male of society.

or girls (looking at magazines, taking chances, and learning from other girls) (I don't really know how girls go through the transformation)

3.Those that get a first taste of it, and instantly gets addicted to the first person they have sex with and decide to marry and make babies. They feel a sense of responsibility towards the one they fucked and want to be with them forever and ever and ever and ever.

Well I was the nerd/geek that went through a transformation, and after reading a lot about the theory and philosophy behind everything. If you understand that its natural for guys to do what they do, have sex with girls, spread their genes around, while girls have the responsibility of taking care of a baby and having more of a sense of need to stay with one guy. It makes me feel relationships and love is pointless. I know girls usually think more emotionally and with their body than their minds, and guys ... well they think with the lower part of their body.

So what I used to always get scared and sweat and nervous about its really stupid because I understand that its just natural, so its more of a game for me. I don't randomly go for girls. I find one i like a lot, bed her.... have perhaps a relationship for awhile, really liking the girl. Then I move on to the next one.. -_- still bad though when you don't care, makes you believe that whether the girl has a boyfriend or not it doesn't matter. You can still have sex with her. And if you do get into a serious relationship its so easy to cheat... so I kept getting in trouble with my gf's because I'd always like someone while with my gf....

Perhaps my way of thinking is too free, to have sex and accomplish it with anyone you want... I don't know how I'll ever get married...

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I can't really speak about college in the states, but here in Shanghai, sex seems to feel different with each girl that I've been with. Depending on how they do it'll determine whether or not I'll change after sex.

Some are really emotional during it - I like them afterwards
Some are like logs, or both people are like logs - run away
Some are really kinky or weird - depends, I just note the experience - run away
Some are really needy and need it badly - really hot... like it when their horny
Some just connect on a deeper level - girlfriend material
Some make you feel frustrated because they suck at it or talk to much - run away
Some flirt so much that makes you want them so much when your having sex - fb's (fuck buddy) but you can't think of anything afterwards so not good to get into a relationship with... You won't be able to do anything else.. (most fun type)
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When I have sex, it will be with the person I am married and in love with. If I do change, it will be for the better because I know she and I connected on a more intimate level than people who have one night stands.
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SUCCESSSSSSS!!!!

We are talking about after sex if I am right?
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After Sex = Sleep
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Posted 1/13/10

haywee wrote:

I think many people find that it is the transition into adulthood, so that's why they change. The only thing I have found about it is that people become more immature and won't shut up about it.


That's actually quite true. Well said =]
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I have no idea
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I don't think anything really changes as much, I'd say if anything it's a confidence thing. You know you've done it, therefore you don't feel insecure about not having done it.
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Posted 1/13/10

Bboi wrote:


chrishoody wrote:


Darkphoenix3450 wrote:

'Sex changes you?' I do not think so. Usually after sex, I have sex again.. 3 times a day at least...'

But I have always been truthful with my self and others. I say whats on my mind, and that will not change.


man you're a beast :D


Don't let him fool you, he's probably doing "sex" with his hand(right or left).
ahaha 3x a day, 365 days a year. Even if you were married that streak wont last long.



LOL let us not doubt *sarcasm
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Posted 1/13/10
Dear boys and girls.... Let me put this way After sex i go to sleep no after sex... becuse there was an after sex after that one... Soooo... IM burnt out... Wtf there is no cigar, no talking ( mybe thanking), mybe a shower, but in moust cases IT A 100% pure sleep... you can call me non romantic or a whimp but after a good sex you need to sleep..... END OF discussion
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