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Let's talk about rape. I looked for duplicates, but didn't see any. The only rape threads I saw discussed.. Lol well they're about other stuff. If you find a thread for rape that makes more sense than this one, please be kind enough to direct me to it.

Alright, so lets get this started.
There's the thread about if Rape news bothers you or not, and there's a thread somewhere about young children raping other young children, but I didn't see a topic that was created by a victim of one of these crimes. Lol yeah sorry to break it to you so casually. I know this is a serious subject, I just have had to find ways to deal with it and humor is one of them. I read through a lot of the posts in the topic about rape cases bothering people, and I found it interesting. Rape happens so often that it's lost it's meaning to people. It's dealt with in bulk, if you know what I mean.

I'll try to give you a short version of the story. Lol telling it is getting old now.

Right, so technically I wasn't actually raped, but I was molested for eight years. Started when I was four/five-ish, I ended it when I was about 11/12ish. He's four years older than me. That makes him nine(ish) when he started (twisted kid, huh). Anyway we both grew up and he went off to fight in Iraq (didn't have much respect for the troops for a long time because of this) and blah blah blah etc etc etc

I could have made this thread a lot more emotional, but I'm already below the belt for a lot of people out there. It's a touchy subject. This is where it might get a little more difficult to read for touchy people.

Sexual abuse isn't as simple as it seems to a lot of people. For children, people think "Why don't they just tell someone?" and other things along the lines of that. It's not that simple. How do you even SAY something like that? What words are you supposed to use? It's embarrassing and highly intimidating. It takes a kid with balls to tell someone; especially if they do it right away. Know what else is scary, one doesn't know if they'll be taken seriously or not. Even if you do have the balls to tell someone (for me it was my parents), you don't know if they'll believe you. Fortunately, mine did believe me and I never had to find out what happens to one emotionally when their parents don't believe them.


As a child, I was very very insecure about things. I was insecure about my looks, and I was insecure because I was different than the other kids. Lol I didn't really have very many friends for a long time. There are a couple, though... Anyway, I was also really insecure about the abuse thing. I knew it wasn't normal and that it was bad. I just didn't really understand the seriousness of the situation for a long time. The school would occasionally have people come in to talk about sexual abuse, but they didn't.. Lol this is terrible.. But they weren't graphic enough. They didn't go into enough detail about how sick and terrible it really was. By trying to shelter the children, all they did was make me insecure because I knew it was wrong, but not insecure enough to tell my parents.. Or even my best friend at the time, whom I trusted with every other secret I had. I was a very complex child. I felt strong and inappropriate emotions at a very young age. Depression, for example. I was a very very depressed little girl. I didn't appear that way, though. It usually took me at night, and I'd cry for just hours and hours til I fell asleep. My mom never knew any of this, I don't think. I made sure to be quiet so that they didn't ask what was wrong. I knew I had a secret I needed to tell, but I didn't have the words to say it. This made me an extremely guilty child, too. Again, no one knew any of this. All they saw was the happy, caring little girl that I displayed. It wasn't a lie. I wasn't unhappy most of the time. I didn't think about it most of the time. I did a lot when I was alone, though.



What I want to know is if any other people out there with similar experiences felt the same way I did as a child. The insecurity, the depression. Was it just me? I already know the answer to that, but I'd like to hear your thoughts anyway.

So. Anyone care to speak up?

EDIT: I've read each and every comment on this thread so far and I really appreciate that there hasn't been any flaming or disrespect. Lol I actually expected there to be a bit. If this thread needs to be moved, I'm perfectly fine with that.

I left this part out of the story lol but I should probably mention it. I'm as over it as it gets. I actually (not lying) in person told him to his face that I forgave him. And I meant it. Until he asked what I was forgiving him for. Then I sort of got pissed again . Anyway, this is as good as it gets. Don't waste too much of your time feeling sorry for me. Who you need to be supporting are the other people. People who aren't over it. I can think about it and laugh (in a bitter, maniacal way, but it's laughing all the same). They can't. Lol so while I appreciate those who care, don't waste your sympathy on me, give it to someone who really really needs it.

One more thing, if you have a specific story you want me personally to see, then either message me, or quote this post so that I get some sort of notification. Thanks =)
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I was never molested, but a relative of mine was. She was about the same age as you, but the guy who did it was her uncle(a grown ass man). I think she told her father, but he didn't believe her or didn't want to believe it. The only person that believed her was her step mom(my grandmother). My grandmother took my aunt when she was around 8 or 10 and raised her. Up to this day she still carries all the negative things that people have done to her inside her.She's very bitter and angry. My aunt is a decent person, but she tends to be miserable( Misery loves company). She say things to put people down,but what like about her is she don't cover her emotions all the time. If she's pissed or sad she will let you know........ sometimes.
You don't want to be 50 and miserable so I hope you let it go, forgive the bastard and live your life. Forgive him for you because I know for sure he's living his life, so enjoy yours.
Sometimes adults can be a bunch of douche bags, and you wonder why there's so much kids catching STDs and getting pregnant. Health Ed teachers and the people from the Dept. of Health need to be real with teens.

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I dunno what to say coz' I never experienced it or even a relative.. lol......
but I think it's a gross...?
a 4 year old kid getting molested..? never heard a story like that before...
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People are more likely to be raped by someone they personally know, be wary of that.
So if your uncle, stepfather, board-mate etc. etc. seems to look at you in a perverse and sly way, avoid being alone with him.

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And girls forcefully engages a guy into sexual intercourse is rape too. If it's not sexual intercourse and it's only erotic confrontations, the right term is sexual-harassment .
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thank God I was never raped. sexual abuse or molestation: I don't like to think about that.
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thank God I was never raped. sexual abuse or molestation: I don't like to think about that.


amen to that .
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I know a friend who was molested and when it became known to her parents she moved........... I can't seem to remember her face....... It was such a long time ago..........
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Let's talk about rape. I looked for duplicates, but didn't see any. The only rape threads I saw discussed.. Lol well they're about other stuff. If you find a thread for rape that makes more sense than this one, please be kind enough to direct me to it.

Alright, so lets get this started.
There's the thread about if Rape news bothers you or not, and there's a thread somewhere about young children raping other young children, but I didn't see a topic that was created by a victim of one of these crimes. Lol yeah sorry to break it to you so casually. I know this is a serious subject, I just have had to find ways to deal with it and humor is one of them. I read through a lot of the posts in the topic about rape cases bothering people, and I found it interesting. Rape happens so often that it's lost it's meaning to people. It's dealt with in bulk, if you know what I mean.

I'll try to give you a short version of the story. Lol telling it is getting old now.

Right, so technically I wasn't actually raped, but I was molested for eight years. Started when I was four/five-ish, I ended it when I was about 11/12ish. He's four years older than me. That makes him nine(ish) when he started (twisted kid, huh). Anyway we both grew up and he went off to fight in Iraq (didn't have much respect for the troops for a long time because of this) and blah blah blah etc etc etc

I could have made this thread a lot more emotional, but I'm already below the belt for a lot of people out there. It's a touchy subject. This is where it might get a little more difficult to read for touchy people.

Sexual abuse isn't as simple as it seems to a lot of people. For children, people think "Why don't they just tell someone?" and other things along the lines of that. It's not that simple. How do you even SAY something like that? What words are you supposed to use? It's embarrassing and highly intimidating. It takes a kid with balls to tell someone; especially if they do it right away. Know what else is scary, one doesn't know if they'll be taken seriously or not. Even if you do have the balls to tell someone (for me it was my parents), you don't know if they'll believe you. Fortunately, mine did believe me and I never had to find out what happens to one emotionally when their parents don't believe them.


As a child, I was very very insecure about things. I was insecure about my looks, and I was insecure because I was different than the other kids. Lol I didn't really have very many friends for a long time. There are a couple, though... Anyway, I was also really insecure about the abuse thing. I knew it wasn't normal and that it was bad. I just didn't really understand the seriousness of the situation for a long time. The school would occasionally have people come in to talk about sexual abuse, but they didn't.. Lol this is terrible.. But they weren't graphic enough. They didn't go into enough detail about how sick and terrible it really was. By trying to shelter the children, all they did was make me insecure because I knew it was wrong, but not insecure enough to tell my parents.. Or even my best friend at the time, whom I trusted with every other secret I had. I was a very complex child. I felt strong and inappropriate emotions at a very young age. Depression, for example. I was a very very depressed little girl. I didn't appear that way, though. It usually took me at night, and I'd cry for just hours and hours til I fell asleep. My mom never knew any of this, I don't think. I made sure to be quiet so that they didn't ask what was wrong. I knew I had a secret I needed to tell, but I didn't have the words to say it. This made me an extremely guilty child, too. Again, no one knew any of this. All they saw was the happy, caring little girl that I displayed. It wasn't a lie. I wasn't unhappy most of the time. I didn't think about it most of the time. I did a lot when I was alone, though.



What I want to know is if any other people out there with similar experiences felt the same way I did as a child. The insecurity, the depression. Was it just me? I already know the answer to that, but I'd like to hear your thoughts anyway.

So. Anyone care to speak up?


Im sorry to hear that and I feel like beating that person who did that to you to death. I was also molested. It started when I was 4-5 years old. I remember it clearly and I try to forget it but I can't. The person who did it was my cousin and it hurts like hell everytime I have to see him. He even gave me a f*cking book for christmas, I feel like burning it, all the other stuff he gave me I threw them away. One day I couldn't take it anymore I think I was 11 years old and I cried, I told it to my sister and she told it to the oldest sister in the family. But nothing really happened after that. I don't think my parents know about this. I just burry the pain inside, sometimes I even cry even though I try not to. And sometimes I even feel insane or something, i cant really explain it. But I'm just so mad over that I didn't say no the time he threatened me. I did the same thing as you did, I hid it so no one could see it. And I too was a very insecure, quiet girl but I always have a smile on my face.
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Really sorry that happened to you. Ive never been in anything like that, although one of my ex's was molested by her best friends dad. And he apparently molested his own daughter aswell...(not going into too much detail about it, since its not my business, also since its a touchy subject like you said) She ended up telling her mom though and the police were obviously involved.. Apparently they really did use a teddy-bear and ask her where he touched her hah, but still not something to laugh over..
Some people are just so sick and twisted, so selfish to fullfil their sexual desires that they forget other people are people too, with emotions and thoughts, feelings and so on.... sick people...


Anyways, I'm glad you came forward about it eventually... I just hope it doesnt damage your future relationships, because you are a pretty girl who does sound like you have potential.
That also applies to everyone, dont let it damage your future, im sure it's hard, but we're meant to overcome.
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Im sorry to hear that and I feel like beating that person who did that to you to death. I was also molested. It started when I was 4-5 years old. I remember it clearly and I try to forget it but I can't. The person who did it was my cousin and it hurts like hell everytime I have to see him. He even gave me a f*cking book for christmas, I feel like burning it, all the other stuff he gave me I threw them away. One day I couldn't take it anymore I think I was 11 years old and I cried, I told it to my sister and she told it to the oldest sister in the family. But nothing really happened after that. I don't think my parents know about this. I just burry the pain inside, sometimes I even cry even though I try not to. And sometimes I even feel insane or something, i cant really explain it. But I'm just so mad over that I didn't say no the time he threatened me. I did the same thing as you did, I hid it so no one could see it. And I too was a very insecure, quiet girl but I always have a smile on my face.


omgosh your story is sorta similar to mine I was molested by my cousin. 2 of them actually. I was confused & afraid to say anything back then. I was 4 when it happened. the only people who knows are 3 people: my sister, friend & oldest cousin. I can't tell my mom now since it's too late & plus she'd blame me for not saying anything sooner .__. it still bothers me to this day. my deepest apologies that this happened to you btw *bows*
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AnnThai wrote:


Im sorry to hear that and I feel like beating that person who did that to you to death. I was also molested. It started when I was 4-5 years old. I remember it clearly and I try to forget it but I can't. The person who did it was my cousin and it hurts like hell everytime I have to see him. He even gave me a f*cking book for christmas, I feel like burning it, all the other stuff he gave me I threw them away. One day I couldn't take it anymore I think I was 11 years old and I cried, I told it to my sister and she told it to the oldest sister in the family. But nothing really happened after that. I don't think my parents know about this. I just burry the pain inside, sometimes I even cry even though I try not to. And sometimes I even feel insane or something, i cant really explain it. But I'm just so mad over that I didn't say no the time he threatened me. I did the same thing as you did, I hid it so no one could see it. And I too was a very insecure, quiet girl but I always have a smile on my face.


omgosh your story is sorta similar to mine I was molested by my cousin. 2 of them actually. I was confused & afraid to say anything back then. I was 4 when it happened. the only people who knows are 3 people: my sister, friend & oldest cousin. I can't tell my mom now since it's too late & plus she'd blame me for not saying anything sooner .__. it still bothers me to this day. my deepest apologies that this happened to you btw *bows*


Thank you. My deepest apologies to you too.
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I read about 12 year old boys raping 8 year old girls and I just think "What's happening to the world?"

Enough said.
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I dunno what to say coz' I never experienced it or even a relative.. lol......
but I think it's a gross...?
a 4 year old kid getting molested..? never heard a story like that before...


do you live in a shoe box..?



rape is scary, so is molestation. I feel extreeeemely fortunate that it's never happened to me.
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I'm sorry to the ones out there that had this happen to them... I'm fortunate to have never had any of this stuff happen to me... I'm grateful to my mom that she never let us be alone with my grandpa on my dad's side... since he molested my aunt and stuff.... one of the shelter/protections that she did right... but of course, she knew about him........
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Sexual abuse isn't as simple as it seems to a lot of people. For children, people think "Why don't they just tell someone?" and other things along the lines of that. It's not that simple. How do you even SAY something like that? What words are you supposed to use? It's embarrassing and highly intimidating. It takes a kid with balls to tell someone; especially if they do it right away. Know what else is scary, one doesn't know if they'll be taken seriously or not. Even if you do have the balls to tell someone (for me it was my parents), you don't know if they'll believe you. Fortunately, mine did believe me and I never had to find out what happens to one emotionally when their parents don't believe them.

So. Anyone care to speak up?


You just spoke my mind I'm glad there was someone else who's mature to understand that. I have a feeling if you never went through that yourself, you'll never know how it's 'embarrassing' to tell your parents or a responsible adult.

You never really get over it, but I'm glad there are people who think like me ^^
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