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Is Abstinence A Good Thing? Debate!
Posted 1/12/10
I guess i will say one thing once some does get married they stop having sex as well
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Darkphoenix3450 wrote:


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Darkphoenix3450 wrote:


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I think abstinence is a good thing. No STDs, no teen pregnancies, and less emotional pain.


Things you really do not need to worry about if you take steps towards safe sex and monthly checkups. (aka.. knowing your partner)

Emotional pain??? Sex stimulated your mind, it Aids you to relieve the stress and aids in the creation of braincells.

What emotional pain are you speaking of? I am not talking about rape Digs.


But we could eliminate the need for checkups all together. The only true safe sex is abstinence. STDs can still be passed on and pregnancy will always be a factor.

Sex is an emotional thing as well, not just a physical thing. Why do you think girls are emotionally abused and why some starve themselves or have distorted body images? It's all about sexual attraction and wanting to be more attractive then others, some guys have the same issue. Break ups within a sexual relationship can cause emotional damage to anyone. I personally know several girls who "fell in love" and had sex only to have their hearts broken when their boyfriends didn't want them anymore.


'That would happen matter if you have sex or not. Once you form a attachment to someone there is always the risk of losing this person sex or no sex.


This is very true, but I think a sexual relationship adds to the pain. Plus having multiple partners spreads STDs faster. They say one in four people in New York City now have Herpes.
Posted 1/12/10

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It's still within the topic of discussion, which is about improving one's life with sex.

However, I must now improve my own life once again not with sex, but with my active lifestyle fitness training.


sounds wonderful I think many of us should do the same lol (hopefully you're talking about what I think you are)

You mean pole dancing? Heck yeah! [/sarcasm]

I'm a fitness trainer by trade, so you can be sure I know just how to get the same kind of benefits from sex with exercising.
Posted 1/12/10
If you abstain, you might become compulsive. People need to blow off some steam regularly.
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DomFortress wrote:


mystic17 wrote:


DomFortress wrote:


It's still within the topic of discussion, which is about improving one's life with sex.

However, I must now improve my own life once again not with sex, but with my active lifestyle fitness training.


sounds wonderful I think many of us should do the same lol (hopefully you're talking about what I think you are)

You mean pole dancing? Heck yeah! [/sarcasm]

I'm a fitness trainer by trade, so you can be sure I know just how to get the same kind of benefits from sex with exercising.


I like to think I am a jack of every trade. But Fitness trainer never did that, yet.

I never seen a need for one. I always thaut building a healthy body, and being in shape came natural. It was just instinctual or something.

But then I guess not everyone is in love with playing sports. I have been playing soccer sense the time I could walk till last summer.

Hell the fact is at 5'6" I have been 130 pounds up till I got out of the air force, now few years later and a free gym pass do to schooling, I am 5'6" 155 pounds yet I did not gain a single pound of fat on me.

Tell me DomFortress do you exercise to stay in shape or do it for fun? I always thought staying in shape and exercising was just the natural fun thing to do. Never did it to be in shape.. I did it for it was fun.

Posted 1/12/10

Darkphoenix3450 wrote:


DomFortress wrote:


mystic17 wrote:


DomFortress wrote:


It's still within the topic of discussion, which is about improving one's life with sex.

However, I must now improve my own life once again not with sex, but with my active lifestyle fitness training.


sounds wonderful I think many of us should do the same lol (hopefully you're talking about what I think you are)

You mean pole dancing? Heck yeah! [/sarcasm]

I'm a fitness trainer by trade, so you can be sure I know just how to get the same kind of benefits from sex with exercising.


I like to think I am a jack of every trade. But Fitness trainer never did that, yet.

I never seen a need for one. I always thaut building a healthy body, and being in shape came natural. It was just instinctual or something.

But then I guess not everyone is in love with playing sports. I have been playing soccer sense the time I could walk till last summer.

Hell the fact is at 5'6" I have been 130 pounds up till I got out of the air force, now few years later and a free gym pass do to schooling, I am 5'6" 155 pounds yet I did not gain a single pound of fat on me.

Tell me DomFortress do you exercise to stay in shape or do it for fun? I always thought staying in shape and exercising was just the natural fun thing to do. Never did it to be in shape.. I did it for it was fun.


It's all for fun, because it's not like I'm making money off my so-called trade when I'm offering free training lessons to my friends.
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digs wrote:


Darkphoenix3450 wrote:


digs wrote:


Darkphoenix3450 wrote:


digs wrote:

I think abstinence is a good thing. No STDs, no teen pregnancies, and less emotional pain.


Things you really do not need to worry about if you take steps towards safe sex and monthly checkups. (aka.. knowing your partner)

Emotional pain??? Sex stimulated your mind, it Aids you to relieve the stress and aids in the creation of braincells.

What emotional pain are you speaking of? I am not talking about rape Digs.


But we could eliminate the need for checkups all together. The only true safe sex is abstinence. STDs can still be passed on and pregnancy will always be a factor.

Sex is an emotional thing as well, not just a physical thing. Why do you think girls are emotionally abused and why some starve themselves or have distorted body images? It's all about sexual attraction and wanting to be more attractive then others, some guys have the same issue. Break ups within a sexual relationship can cause emotional damage to anyone. I personally know several girls who "fell in love" and had sex only to have their hearts broken when their boyfriends didn't want them anymore.


'That would happen matter if you have sex or not. Once you form a attachment to someone there is always the risk of losing this person sex or no sex.


This is very true, but I think a sexual relationship adds to the pain. Plus having multiple partners spreads STDs faster. They say one in four people in New York City now have Herpes.


That is why you should get monthly checkups and know your partners history as well. I go to the clinics with my sex partners so she can see you are clean and so you know if she is clean. Its just stupid to sleep with people you do not know.. Just like its stupid to share needles, pick fights in Bars with gang members, or Believe in illogical things without evidence, such as tooth fairies, flying cows, the monkey God (Chinese myth. ), and if the sky is falling or not.





Posted 1/13/10
It's really on how you look at it. Like some of the above posts have kind~ of pointed out - it could build up and then become compulsive. Although I find that view kind of ridiculous, it's possible in this time and age where sex is considered addictive as a drug would be .

It's smart for sexually active persons to get regular check ups and to know who they're going to be messing around with. Both need to get checked in order to not spread STD's and all that crap to everyone else. With that said, safe sex IS no sex. I've been in high school for the last three and a half year, and all I can say is that when speakers say "Safe Sex" I think of an oxymoron. No matter how many products, rubbers, drugs you use (unless you're tied...or vis. for a male (I think.) there's always that chance of a pregnancy, and of acquiring some disease. In order to avoid emotional trauma (something mentioned on here before too) it's just better to abstain from it altogether. Until you're actually ready to deal with the emotions, pressures, and muck ups that could happen.

It honestly doesn't matter because we're all individuals, and as individuals we have the chance to choose what and how we're going to do things. My view is different than Sally's view, and that's alright because we make our own choices. Just don't infect others with your diseases, cause that's just not cool.
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Posted 1/13/10

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I guess i will say one thing once some does get married they stop having sex as well


Ah, don't fall for such stereotypical nonsense!!!!!!!!! Now 30 years w/ same & only partner- I'd say it gets better, more fun, even.
As for the subject of abstinence, .................... I don't think it's in human nature to willingly abstain, we were wired for the act of procreation w/ pleasure.
There are times & situations for certain individuals which may call for abstinence. This requires discernment & self discipline. It's always wise to think before you act, & some of us may be stronger than others both mentally & physically to the abstinence challenge,
--But should it be a judgement call by one for all?
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Posted 1/14/10 , edited 1/14/10
I've noticed that the people who are the most vocal proponents of sexual abstinence are also the ones who develop the most unusual fetishes as compensation.

I also think that if something is actually unpleasant to you, and you abstain from it. That is good for you. I don't like the effects of marijuana, so I abstain from it. I don't feel like I'm missing anything.

There can be problems when it is not a personal decision, but one that is imposed by an authority - be it a religious or government authority. --Sexual abstinence "pledges" have actually been proven to have the opposite effect, actually causing the participants to engage in riskier practices:

http://soundmedicine.iu.edu/segment/1919/Teen-Abstinence-Pledges

We all know what happened when the U.S. Government imposed abstinence of alcohol during Prohibition.

http://www.u-s-history.com/pages/h1596.html

<<The Prohibition era of the 1920s gave rise to the organized crime syndicate in the United States. Federal efforts to enforce prohibition, including raids on speakeasies, were countered by well-organized bootlegging operations with national and international connections. A particularly notorious gang of the times was Al Capone's mob in Chicago. There were also gangs in Detroit, New York and other cities. Wars among gangs, producing grisly killings, frequently made headlines.>>
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Posted 1/15/10
"So in my opinion I say Abstinence is not not good for your health." ?
[Two negatives make a right? So you're saying that abstinence is good for your health?]

I think abstinence is fine. Sex 'improves' your health, according to the article you have. Being abstinent doesn't necessarily mean that it's bad for you.

Plus, there are others things people can do that can 'improve' their health, like dieting and working out. And before people say 'but sex is eaAaAsier', then go ahead and do that, child. I'd just rather work out hardcore rather than have sex all the time.
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Posted 1/15/10

Darkphoenix3450 wrote:


digs wrote:

I think abstinence is a good thing. No STDs, no teen pregnancies, and less emotional pain.


Things you really do not need to worry about if you take steps towards safe sex and monthly checkups. (aka.. knowing your partner)

Emotional pain??? Sex stimulated your mind, it Aids you to relieve the stress and aids in the creation of braincells.

What emotional pain are you speaking of? I am not talking about rape Digs.


let me help clear all this up before it gets out of hand 1st off ill agree that sex is good for you.Everybody needs to have it period.

The problem with sex in modern times isnt "to do or not to do", but rather "when". I don't know any cultures that practice the art of no sex ever (i cant remember the term for it).

Abstinence in modern times generally refers to waiting to have sex until you r married or at least an (mature) adult. So in that sense abstince for children is far more healthier than a sexual relationship with a new partner they know nothing about every night. Just trust me when i say safe sex and monthy checkups dont happen with children.I know from 1st, 2nd, and 3rd hand experience-it just doesnt happen.

Have u ever been in a relationship? then u know about possible emotional pain associated with sex. add to that, children having sex with everyone while at the same time decieving anyone.

This is what digs is trying to say. Notice how he said "no teen pregnancies"

Now if you are just talking about adults here, you won't get much of a discussion. Like i said, i dont know of ant mainstream culture that practices no sex forever. peace over war
Posted 1/15/10 , edited 1/15/10

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let me help clear all this up before it gets out of hand 1st off ill agree that sex is good for you.Everybody needs to have it period.

The problem with sex in modern times isnt "to do or not to do", but rather "when". I don't know any cultures that practice the art of no sex ever (i cant remember the term for it).

Abstinence in modern times generally refers to waiting to have sex until you r married or at least an (mature) adult. So in that sense abstince for children is far more healthier than a sexual relationship with a new partner they know nothing about every night. Just trust me when i say safe sex and monthy checkups dont happen with children.I know from 1st, 2nd, and 3rd hand experience-it just doesnt happen.

Have u ever been in a relationship? then u know about possible emotional pain associated with sex. add to that, children having sex with everyone while at the same time decieving anyone.

This is what digs is trying to say. Notice how he said "no teen pregnancies"

Now if you are just talking about adults here, you won't get much of a discussion. Like i said, i dont know of ant mainstream culture that practices no sex forever. peace over war

I think it's due to the possibility that those societies who succeed in practicing their culture of abstinence on sex, couldn't sustain a whole generation in order for them to live and tell about it.
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Posted 1/17/10
Everyone has their own sets of morals, opinions, and emotions.
I'm all for abstinence, and I really don't think that having sexual intercourse will make me less stressed than I am or anything.
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Posted 1/18/10
I think all reasonable human beings here would agree that unless abstinence has health benefits, it is not a good thing. Does it have any?
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