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marriage a big lie
Posted 2/23/10 , edited 2/24/10
ok ppl im not a pessimistic traumatize person. im not writing this forum on personal experience
yes i know ppl marry because they're "in love" or for other reasons i dont really wanna know.
what im just trying to convey is marriage to me is special but not necessary. i just wanted to know other ppls (meaning you) opinions.
so many ppl taint the image that i dont even know if it still holds any purpose.
some ppl criticize couples who are not married for living together or having a child together. but does being marry change the fact that it happen?
marriage is like any other relationship it may or may not work. so why ppl are making it a big deal
what's ur opinion on marriage?

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Posted 2/23/10
lolololol... I'm no genius but I think you are missing the point of marriage. Excuse me.
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Posted 2/23/10
People get married for all kinds of reasons, often times the wrong ones. It doesn't mean that marriage is a joke or anything. Some people get married because they do love each other & want to make public vows & declarations.

I think you're right though. If you love someone, you don't need papers to prove it. However, if you love someone, there's also no harm in proving it.

I do think too many people rush into marriage though. They don't take it seriously & think they can "simply" divorce if they don't like it. People who want to get married need to see the things a marriage involves, including effort & compromise.
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Posted 2/23/10
lol... I Think that you need to study more about marriage. There are several reasons why marriage exist since time immemorial.
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Posted 2/24/10
is something your relatives nag you about when you get past 20.. typical family reunions lines i hear:

when are you gonna find a nice girl and give us a niece or nephew?

you're still a grouchy bastard.. you're gonna die alone and miserable unless you get married.

don't you even think about adopting.. whatever happens your kid will never be a blood relative.

why the hell are you still single? don't worry auntie will set you up..

No..! don't hit on the girl down the lane. .she's your cousin 3 times removed! it's unnatural!

you're an embarrassment. why did you not become a priest. If you're just gonna be single?

i just grin and scratch my head like an idiot.
Posted 2/24/10
i know ppl marry for different reasons. but what im trying to convey is, why do ppl criticize other couple who are not married. like say couples living together. having a child together and what not.
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Posted 2/24/10

maijayson wrote:

i know ppl marry for different reasons. but what im trying to convey is, why do ppl criticize other couple who are not married. like say couples living together. having a child together and what not.


Then why not say so in the first place? Here is a simple answer. Assuming you do not live somewhere in Ecuador and you have lived your life with amazing foods. What would happen if one day some Ecuadorian gave you a calf's brain steak? What would be your first impression? Isn't it 'disgusting'? That is just an example of how judgmental a human can be. And that's that.
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Posted 2/24/10
i dont know..how adult really does things..or whatever..but...i think marriage is a commitment to you're love one..like for example, you love that person so you want to be with you're love.....and, marriage is like a promise/ vows that you will be forever no matter what happens....and marriage is like a thing which means that its like you are settled down and you plan to move on with you're life WITH the one you love..and later on, make a family~ and until you get old..if you really love each other..you will still be together..and will look back how great memories u have made~ ^^
Posted 2/24/10 , edited 2/24/10

maijayson wrote:

this is my personal opinion on marriage so dont hate.

ppl these days do they really get marry because they are in love?

or do they do it for the money, the power or fame basically out of selfishness?

so many use love as the excuse to get marry but honestly i dont see a need to get marry

if you and you lover are seriously committed do you have to prove it to others

i hate it when ppl say 'when are you getting marry?'

what makes a marriage so special.

just because they are married it doesnt mean they are more in love than me.

in love you dont need a piece of paper to make your love authentic

love is not a contract.

i dont believe in marriage but i dont deem ppl for getting married

marriage to me is an excuse to do things that seems "inappropriate"

so what do you think about marriage


Marriage is an insurance. You don't secure your possessions you will definitely loose it.

Its one way to keep some things in your "possession" for long. Takes guts and balls to make a commitment actually. Also, marrying saves us time and money in bars and parties. Why not spend my time and weekend with my wife?

The idea of marriage is not all about idealistic fancies but practicality as well. For lazy people like me, why risk going out in the evening often and spend my time on unknown women and get myself sick one day. I cannot just go partying and fooling with women for the rest of my life. There's always room for compensation in marriage. Not being married means one mistake and it may be over. Also the no marriage means more room for cheating. Putting a weight on their conscience is necessary.

I may sound too "possessive" however, sometimes we will have to do that in order to keep a grip on something important to us. No-commitment relationships is never reliable. Marrying is reliable so I'd rather think marrying and settling down in my later part of life rather than hurry, get laid and get sick in not marrying.
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Posted 2/24/10
Wtf. You're only 19 and people are nagging you to get married? That's bullshit. However I'm completely missing your point. You're against marriage just because a lot of people are nagging you? O_o
Give me a break. There's nothing wrong with marriage, marriage is just a promise between two people. It's not about the papers either. The papers are just there as proof of the promise. You know, girls like you are always the ones to complain about it. But down 4 to 7 years from now I bet you anything you'll be dying to hop into a wedding dress and walk down that lane

The annoyed complainers about marriage are always the most eager ones to get married at the end. Remember that, kid.
Posted 2/24/10
Well many people hardly ever taken it seriously today (or even in the past). there's so many reasons on why marriage takes place for certain individuals: cause they were forced to get married, doesn't wanna be alone so they settle, only cause the one they married was hot & so on.

Yup marriage is more than that piece of paper that shows that it's legit. it's about commitment & a partnership; that you found the one person that's your true soul mate & etc.

lol glad marriage topics aren't popular here in CR.
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Posted 2/24/10
It's present manifestation is that of a ceremony to solidify your commitment to spending the rest of your life with an individual (although that doesn't exactly pan out most of the time these days). It's largely symbolic aside from some tax incentives. Of course, you don't need a fancy ceremony for all of that, but people seem to like it.
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Posted 2/24/10 , edited 2/24/10
as long as couples are happy with their decisions

and as long as they are committed in keeping them...
whether it's a marriage contract or any contract they've agreed on...
i have nothing against them
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Posted 2/24/10
Lighten up.
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Posted 2/24/10
Marriage is good for tax purposes and citizenship reasons and makes inheritance easier. So it isn't completely useless.
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