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Forced Marriage
Posted 2/28/10 , edited 2/28/10
Forced Marriage
Well We All Know It's Wrong,
But Do You Think Parents/Family Deserve To Go To Prison For It.
Would You Be Able To Forgive Them If They Did This To You?
Or Would You Hate Them For An Eternity.

What Are Your Opinions On This?

Here Is An Example Of A Situation Like This:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2008/dec/19/humayra-abedin-forced-marriage


An NHS doctor tricked into returning to Bangladesh, where her parents held her captive and forced her into a marriage, won high court protection today from any renewed attempts to remove her from the UK.

Humayra Abedin, 32, a Bangladeshi national from Upton Park, east London, returned to Britain on Tuesday after being held by her parents for four months. Today, she said she had spent much of this time interned in a psychiatric hospital being given anti-psychotic drugs against her will.

After today's hearing, she urged other women trapped in forced marriages to come forward. "Don't give up hope – there is hope." Abedin was eventually freed by a court in Bangladesh. Earlier this month the high court in London issued an order for her release under the Forced Marriage Act.

Today Mr Justice Coleridge issued a series of orders obliging Abedin's parents to not remove from the UK, harass her or threaten her. "I shall grant further orders to protect Dr Abedin and prevent her being removed from this country again without her consent," the judge said in his ruling.

Abedin was separately seeking an annulment of the marriage, which would take weeks, her lawyer, Anne-Marie Hutchinson, said.

Abedin, who came to Britain six years ago to study and now works as a GP, reportedly went to Bangladesh in the summer after being falsely told her mother was ill. She was then held against her will and, in mid-November, was forced to marry a man chosen by her parents.

The doctor said today that she had spent much of this time held in a psychiatric hospital. "I was held there for three months and forced to take medication, anti-psychotic drugs, which made things worse," she said.

She said she had been "always monitored by four or five guards and was not free to leave the property" — her passport, tickets and other documents were taken from her.

She said she wanted to "get back to my normal life, start my job", and insisted she bore no ill will against her mother and father: "They are my parents, they are still my parents. I do not have any bad feelings against them, any grudges."

A lengthy statement released by the doctor's legal team outlined her ordeal, which began on 2 August when she arrived in Dhaka, the capital of Bangladesh, having been told her mother was seriously ill. Three days later she visited the family home and was "manhandled into the property by a number of people and immediately locked in a room", according to the statement.

She was able to send a few text messages asking for help, but after officials from a local human rights group visited her Abedin was dragged screaming from the family home to an ambulance and taken to a private clinic. There, she says, she was forcibly given mood stabilisers and anti-psychotic drugs and told she was "unstable". The doctor was kept there until 5 November, the statement added: "By that time she was in a complete state of despair, her spirit was broken and she felt there was no means by which her position could be resolved."

Nine days later Abedin was married to a man chosen by her parents, despite objecting to this. By this time, court proceedings were under way in Bangladesh, but Abedin was told by her family that if she demanded to return to the UK her parents would be jailed and she herself could be detained for years while the case was resolved. The statement added: "Dr Abedin states that although she is an intelligent and educated woman by then her spirit and will was so worn down that she believed what she was being told."

Abedin, who lives with her long-term boyfriend, a Hindu who works as a software engineer, was eventually brought before a judge in Dhaka and placed in the care of the British high commission.

The 2007 Forced Marriage Act was designed to protect vulnerable individuals coerced into legally binding partnerships. Most cases dealt with by the Foreign Office's forced marriage unit involve families with Asian connections. The department has so far helped in 180 such disputes overseas.

Hutchinson has said that there are believed to be around 300 to 350 similar cases affecting British women.



A Detailed Statement Of Her Experience Is Here:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2008/dec/19/statement-nhs-doctor-abedin-forced-marriage

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This Is About Forced Marrige, Not Arranged Marrige.
There's Already A Topic About Arranged Marriages
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Posted 2/28/10 , edited 2/28/10
Yeah. I believe people should be married for love. I would be utterly upset if my parents were forcing me to marry* a man that I would probably never love.
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that's just wrong..
Posted 2/28/10
I wonder how did arranged marriages even began in the first place it's sad that parents would do that to their children & think that it wouldn't phase them or it's the right thing to do. Sad story btw

Sadly many places that still practice arranged marriages will still continue doing so since they think it's a necessity.
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Hellyeah there ought to be punishment for this. As far as I'm concerned it's the same thing as if the family sold her into slavery.
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I think there should be very severe punishment for making someone marry someone else against their will
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i don't think they should go to jail for it, it's not really that bad.

um.. i might not forgive them but i'm not gonna hate them for eternity it'll just be one of those fights we have&i'll be mad for awhle but who knows maybe you'll grow to love that person then it wouldn't be so bad. but they should want what's best for
me&that's to actually let me fall inlove with someone, wait awhile then
marry them.
Posted 2/28/10
I would hate them, marrige means love and happiness for your life, not sadness and depression, but later on you might fall in love with the guy your parents set you with. Maybe he didnt know about that either, like in those korean dramas sometimes its just the parents and the guys parents that set them up. They guy and the families daughter doesnt know.
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Posted 2/28/10
Don't want to follow force marriage but force sex? Yahoooo that would be great!!!
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If they commit a crime in the name of the marriage, kidnap or what have you then of course they should be punished for it...
I also don't like the idea of families who try to force an older sibling into marrying being free to try again with a younger one...

If my family forced me to marry off to someone I'd never met I don't know if I'd be able to forgive them for it, but this is mostly because it would involve tearing me away from my fiancé, who makes me the happiest girl alive. :)

It is sad though how parents from certain cultures only care about THEIR honour and not the welfare of their daughters, and are willing to marry them off to men who only want to use them, whether it be for sex, a western passport or as a punchbag. Also denying them the opportunity to fall in love...

If you're going to go down that road, the victorians got it right. Invite a suitable young chap over to the house and see how the kids get along before asking they marry... lol.
The other end of the spectrum makes me sad too though...
Posted 2/28/10 , edited 2/28/10
If my parents did that to me, I'd rather they never conceived me at all.
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Posted 2/28/10
Stupid forced marriage... it's only gonna end up in a divorce. >_<
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26 / M / Thailand
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Posted 2/28/10
My teacher said Forced Marriage and Arranged Marriage must be banned because it violated the human's freedom.
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27 / F / america
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Posted 2/28/10
Arranged marriages maybe illegal here but in other countries it might not be. Back in the days [like before electricity] arranged marriages were very common actually so I don't know. It's certainly not a good thing but do parents need to go to jail for it probably not, I think that might be a bit much.
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Arranged marriages are usually for political reasons, but they are not limited to it. I know of arranged marriages to increase one's personal and family status, for wealth, and even for sexual desires only. It's really sad, but people will do what they want to do.
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